Overcome my ***s

[Safo_2020]

Hi everyone, I am 28 years old. 
I never had sex before I only watch sex movies am trying right now to overcome the *** of having sex. What is the best way to do this ?

[Nikki_Hexy]

I think the trick here is to find out what it is exactly you ***? Once you find that out then you can start on a path to conquering that ***

[Gabriella800]

Take it really slowly and get to know someone for months? That was you can trust them.

[Safo_2020]

5 minutes ago, Hexy said:

I think the trick here is to find out what it is exactly you ***? Once you find that out then you can start on a path to conquering that ***

The *** is about hurting girls feelings because you need to take a lot of care thats why. The second thing is usually am speaking with girls using social networks not face to face.

[Safo_2020]

6 minutes ago, Gabriella800 said:

Take it really slowly and get to know someone for months? That was you can trust them.

The problem is i reached a point so tiring I cannot wait for months 

[xz****]

Much depends on exactly what is your ***, and why you have one?
if is trauma based then I would suggest it really needs discussing  with a professional.
If its is just because "youve left it quite late to start" then an open forum is an ok place to discuss it.
However you approach the situation the one thing you need to do is be  totally honest with the partner and they need to be fully sympathetic/empathetic with the situation.

[Safo_2020]

1 minute ago, xzoot said:

Much depends on exactly what is your ***, and why you have one?
if is trauma based then I would suggest it really needs discussing  with a professional.
If its is just because "youve left it quite late to start" then an open forum is an ok place to discuss it.
However you approach the situation the one thing you need to do is be  totally honest with the partner and they need to be fully sympathetic/empathetic with the situation.

I think it just *** from hurting girls thats why am afraid 

[Vis-19]

I hope you have fun buddy if you wanna chat about the *** and ways to overcome you can dm me

[Safo_2020]

16 minutes ago, Vis-19 said:

I hope you have fun buddy if you wanna chat about the *** and ways to overcome you can dm me

Thanks man of course 

[Wo****]

1 hour ago, Safo_2020 said:

The *** is about hurting girls feelings because you need to take a lot of care thats why. The second thing is usually am speaking with girls using social networks not face to face.

Hurting pur  feelings? How?

Just be you, be honest. The fact you're scared or nervous? It's normal. 

As for the social platform thing, most of us are chatting that way because of covid. Chat to people, get to know them. 

Some of us quite like the idea of being someone's first 😊

[Si****]

Perhaps part of the problem is the watching sex movies. They can sometime blur reality. Then just be you. take the sex out of the picture and just make contact with people. Their is no neon sign saying "Virgin" above your head so just relax and be yourself. When you find the right person who likes you for you. then things will just happen.

[Safo_2020]

Am trying to find someone to speak with and to meet out side to overcome this issue 

thanks 

[Safo_2020]

2 minutes ago, SirGreen said:

Perhaps part of the problem is the watching sex movies. They can sometime blur reality. Then just be you. take the sex out of the picture and just make contact with people. Their is no neon sign saying "Virgin" above your head so just relax and be yourself. When you find the right person who likes you for you. then things will just happen.

Thanks for your words I will try to do it 

[Si****]

1 minute ago, Safo_2020 said:

Thanks for your words I will try to do it 

Swap the films. Watch films like "PS, i love you" or "Bridges over Madison county", A walk in the clouds. It might help you to understand that difference between sex and making love. I hope it helps.

[Safo_2020]

1 minute ago, SirGreen said:

Swap the films. Watch films like "PS, i love you" or "Bridges over Madison county", A walk in the clouds. It might help you to understand that difference between sex and making love. I hope it helps.

Thanks I will do 

[qu****]

Try not to worry, I was 41 before having sex 😁

[Safo_2020]

Thanks 

[Wo****]

1 hour ago, SirGreen said:

Swap the films. Watch films like "PS, i love you" or "Bridges over Madison county", A walk in the clouds. It might help you to understand that difference between sex and making love. I hope it helps.

Bridges over Madison county is one of my all time favourite films. Brilliant film!

[Deleted Member]

Do not take any guidance about sex from porn, that’s the best advice I can give. That and don’t rush...only do things that you want to do, no matter how much nagging someone does to persuade you otherwise

[Deleted Member]

This may sound weird but have u considered a reputable sex therapist?

[Deleted Member]

They do exist

[Su****]

On 8/16/2020 at 10:41 AM, Safo_2020 said:

The *** is about hurting girls feelings because you need to take a lot of care thats why. The second thing is usually am speaking with girls using social networks not face to face.

I don’t really understand your ***?

[DevilsDoLL]

*** is normal...... especially if it’s something that you have never been around as or is not considered appropriate for your family dynamics