Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Hello I am a mature man who being older is finding it harder to find women with similar fetishes. What is everyone's opinion on paying a lady to help with fantasy's and fetishes? It could be a normal lady who just wants *** or a sex worker, would this be wrong?
Wo**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Why would it be wrong? If both parties agree and are happy I see no harm in it.
ey**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Nope. Not at all. Like - it can be difficult to find people, for sure - and then even if you happen to find someone it can be difficult to be in a situation where you want to do stuff together. But, if you look at Pro Dommes or other sex workers, you can see who is in your area (or, reasonable travel) and see who you think you might be most interested in spending time with and doing your fetishes. Remember they don't *have* to accept your booking request - but it's much easier to approach somebody. Because you already know what they're into and that they would potentially do it with you, in exchange for payment.
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 47 minutes ago, Bounty said: Why would it be wrong? If both parties agree and are happy I see no harm in it. I dont see harm harm in it plus your helping them earn a wage
Mulemanuk Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 I think it’s great to find someone willing to chat and do fantasy’s first you , yes you have to pay but at the end of the day your both grown adults and you don’t have to waste your time and *** on someone who doesn’t understand . It’s a win win situation if you ask me .
to**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Is it not a slightly false economy in the fact that you’re only meeting someone acting the kink out because you’re paying for it? Therefore you may be lured into a false sense of security around how the kink world happens, meet a significant other and shock them.
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 Why pay plenty of people are willing to kinky things for free. But its fine if both parties agree
LazyPirate Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Absolutely no issue at all with it. I’m friends with a lot of sex workers in various different areas (cam work, escorts, strippers) and have made use of sex workers in the past for specific things. Most of those involved who do fetish work have done so for a long while so know how important it is to build a rapport and give you a good session. The best thing I can advise is too seek out pep people who have received feedback so you can get a sense as to if this person would be right for you. 10 minutes ago, Andy1895 said: Why pay plenty of people are willing to kinky things for free. Plenty of people, but it largely depends on if you can find someone that fits your needs within the geographical location you are searching and if they are looking for the same thing as you are/are interested in you.
qu**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Fill your boots nothing wrong with it at all, don't know why people have hang ups about it
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 Im seriously thinking of it i cant see any harm if its mutualy beneficial
ey**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 1 hour ago, topspur30 said: Is it not a slightly false economy in the fact that you’re only meeting someone acting the kink out because you’re paying for it? Therefore you may be lured into a false sense of security around how the kink world happens, meet a significant other and shock them. this is something to always consider. You can literally approach a Pro and send a respectful message that's basically "I am interested in booking your time, I'd like x hours are you available on x date? I really want to explore the following fetishes and am also interested in... blah" And, if you've otherwise followed instructions they will arrange for a deposit to be paid and you can go and do it. Perfect. The problem is that guys contact or approach other women like that, except expecting not to pay.
Si**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 I think, with most things there is a risk of being conned. Finding a legit sex worker is the hardest bit. but if you do then as long as everyone is happy, then no harm done.
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 3 hours ago, LazyPirate said: Absolutely no issue at all with it. I’m friends with a lot of sex workers in various different areas (cam work, escorts, strippers) and have made use of sex workers in the past for specific things. Most of those involved who do fetish work have done so for a long while so know how important it is to build a rapport and give you a good session. The best thing I can advise is too seek out pep people who have received feedback so you can get a sense as to if this person would be right for you. Plenty of people, but it largely depends on if you can find someone that fits your needs within the geographical location you are searching and if they are looking for the same thing as you are/are interested in you. Yes thats true 🙂
ey**** Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 17 hours ago, SirGreen said: I think, with most things there is a risk of being conned. Finding a legit sex worker is the hardest bit. but if you do then as long as everyone is happy, then no harm done. some bits are easier than others. Most of the scammers, for example, don't go to the trouble of building/have a website - and in the exception of a case where one did, it was so ***fully thrown together it was too obvious. A lot also use clip sites and and so on where verification involves uploading ID and the likes (and while some have slipped the net, it's generally good) S'exWorkers tend to stay off community sites because they're generally not that great for picking up clients and often counter productive - but there's plenty on twitter and you can often tell by how they interact with others. - there are still a lot of old Mistress Directory websites, but a lot of people aren't on them. But certainly the directory sites usually take you to someone's website which continues the process.
Deleted Member Posted August 17, 2020 Author Posted August 17, 2020 Hope you find what youre looking for
Ta**** Posted August 17, 2020 Posted August 17, 2020 (edited) 23 hours ago, lesmond691 said: Hello I am a mature man who being older is finding it harder to find women with similar fetishes. What is everyone's opinion on paying a lady to help with fantasy's and fetishes? It could be a normal lady who just wants *** or a sex worker, would this be wrong? No I don't think it's wrong at all, as long as you don't bring feelings into it. I think a sex worker can help newcomers as well, and anyone who is a bit shy to begin with. The trouble is finding the right one, a real professionl who isn't going to rip you off. Unfortunately it appears to be such an unregulated industry......talking as one who is not a sex worker, that is. Edited August 17, 2020 by TammyNatalia Words added for emphasis...
ey**** Posted August 17, 2020 Posted August 17, 2020 29 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: The trouble is finding the right one, a real professionl who isn't going to rip you off. Unfortunately it appears to be such an unregulated industry......talking as one who is not a sex worker, that is. I've never had any problems. It's true that it's unregulated - and a lot of that comes down from that, while it is technically legal - there's still so many bullshit laws and a lot of stigma. But, we've gone past the days of a number in a magazine and hoping for the best - it's really easy to research someone
Deleted Member Posted August 17, 2020 Author Posted August 17, 2020 38 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: No I don't think it's wrong at all, as long as you don't bring feelings into it. I think a sex worker can help newcomers as well, and anyone who is a bit shy to begin with. The trouble is finding the right one, a real professionl who isn't going to rip you off. Unfortunately it appears to be such an unregulated industry......talking as one who is not a sex worker, that is. Yes i have spoke to a few some just want to rip you off some are genuine and expensive but some are willing to talk through scenarios i had a response from normal women to who just want fun and to earn a few pound its a hard choice
Jeckmansr Posted August 17, 2020 Posted August 17, 2020 The problem you run into with some sex workers is that they’re inexperienced. It will be better for you to find a local Dungeon that you can be a client.
Deleted Member Posted August 17, 2020 Author Posted August 17, 2020 I have spoke to several who are experiancrd
ey**** Posted August 17, 2020 Posted August 17, 2020 3 hours ago, Jeckmansr said: The problem you run into with some sex workers is that they’re inexperienced. It will be better for you to find a local Dungeon that you can be a client. it doesn't largely work like this in the UK although there are a couple of places where multiple women work from, there's largely brothel keeping laws which heavily restrict what can/can't be done even without sex. And because some of these can be hired by different women, logistically there'd be no certainty on the experience.
Vaxis Posted August 18, 2020 Posted August 18, 2020 Just make sure they're not eastern European. They're all trafficked, inexperienced, don't speak a word of English and really don't want to be there. I'm 36 and however tempting a beautiful, dark skinned nubile 20 year old is, I'd take an english 50 year old any day. Asians are pretty good too. They tend to be clean and attentive and have the art of mime down so the language barrier isn't such an issue. I've never met an Asian Escort who wasn't an amazing masseuse either.
ey**** Posted August 18, 2020 Posted August 18, 2020 19 minutes ago, Vaxis said: Just make sure they're not eastern European. They're all trafficked, inexperienced, don't speak a word of English and really don't want to be there. that's massively incorrect. Trafficking is a problem for sure. But, if you a properly vetting a Pro Domme then there are those who are Eastern European who are certainly here by choice. i.e Eris Martinet - based in Manchester, from Romania Miss Alexandra Wildfire - based in London, Polish Melisande Sin - travels a lot, owns a dungeon in Gdansk but often offers sessions in London there are quite a few others also - but - again this comes into your research.
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