Need for Satisfaction

[Paddywack-3112]

Due to an *** I received, a very vital part of my body was internally damaged beyond repair, and left me with BASICALLY A PHANTOM PENIS.

Its there and it works within reason, but I the recipient will never actually feel the true intimacy between myself and partner.

The love is unconditional, but the prospect of dealing with the penis has been quenched.

Is it time to seek GRATIFICATION else where, and be with out the love .
Or Have the love and be denied the GRATIFICATION and release.

Rock meet hard place

[Dreamaway]

Oh man, the rock met your penis!! Condolences

[Wo****]

Why is it one or the other?

[Deleted Member]

10 hours ago, Paddywack said:

Is it time to seek GRATIFICATION else where, and be with out the love .
Or Have the love and be denied the GRATIFICATION and release.

I don't really understand this dillema. If your penis is out of business, changing a partner won't do anything for you. The issue won't magically disappear.

I understand what you feel, as I myself have almost numb and useless tool down there. It's hard, but you have to say goodbye to some physical sensations. You said it works within reason, are you still able to reach orgasm?

[Fen]

It sounds like you have nerve damage, and I may have a solution so long as it's not too far back... but you may not like it. So the sensitive, nerve-ending filled tissue doesn't actually end with the penis. There's an extra section of basically "unexposed shaft" running between your testicles and your anus. Once you have an erection and the sensitive tissue is pushed as close to the skin as possible, apply firm pressure in a circular motion with two fingers or (ideally) a vibrator, and it should give you the same type of physical pleasure as you're used to, so long as the nerves in that area still work.

 

The downsides: the tip of the penis has the highest density of nerve endings, so getting to orgasm without it is going to be a long, slow process that probably will take a while to work out, and won't be something you can feasibly achieve every time. It's also quite similar to a woman masturbating and works well in receiving positions (on all fours, on your back with your legs spread, on your side with one leg up). You may not be comfortable with this, your partner may not be comfortable with this. But it's the second best option you have, at least in terms of how likely it is to bring you to orgasm.

 

That whole region has a lot of nerve endings, and they can also be accessed from the inside. I wouldn't recommend just straight up anal, I expect a lot of the people who can reach orgasm from unfocused anal penetration get anywhere from 60-90% there from the psychological enjoyment of it. Once again, your target is going to be the unexposed shaft, up towards the prostate with either fingers or a vibrator. I can personally attest that if you get close enough you can "brute ***" an orgasm with fast, deep thrusting, but getting that close is going to be the hard part. It's best to start off slow and gentle, and try to ramp up psychological enjoyment alongside physical. It's also worth noting that you can potentially go for multiple orgasms.

 

Once again, downsides: anal penetration requires a good cleanout, a gradual "loosening" session before you can get into it properly, and generally is messy from the amount of lube needed. If you're not careful there are a lot of health risks, and a lot of guys also have hangups about being penetrated. In this case it's just about getting to those active nerves however you can. It could be something you're not okay with, it could be something your partner isn't okay with. There's also a certain amount of physical discomfort involved that you may not be able to get past. Trying repeatedly may help, but no promises.

 

If things are to work out, I expect you and your partner are going to be taking turns stimulating each other and getting stimulated. By the way you're talking, it sounds like it's worth a shot. If none of this feels remotely good, the nerve damage may be too far back, in which case there's not much to do. I hope this helps.

Edited August 28, 2020 by Fen
ambiguous grammar

[Paddywack-3112]

August 27, Fen said:

It sounds like you have nerve damage, and I may have a solution so long as it's not too far back... but you may not like it. So the sensitive, nerve-ending filled tissue doesn't actually end with the penis. There's an extra section of basically "unexposed shaft" running between your testicles and your anus. Once you have an erection and the sensitive tissue is pushed as close to the skin as possible, apply firm pressure in a circular motion with two fingers or (ideally) a vibrator, and it should give you the same type of physical pleasure as you're used to, so long as the nerves in that area still work.

 

The downsides: the tip of the penis has the highest density of nerve endings, so getting to orgasm without it is going to be a long, slow process that probably will take a while to work out, and won't be something you can feasibly achieve every time. It's also quite similar to a woman masturbating and works well in receiving positions (on all fours, on your back with your legs spread, on your side with one leg up). You may not be comfortable with this, your partner may not be comfortable with this. But it's the second best option you have, at least in terms of how likely it is to bring you to orgasm.

 

That whole region has a lot of nerve endings, and they can also be accessed from the inside. I wouldn't recommend just straight up anal, I expect a lot of the people who can reach orgasm from unfocused anal penetration get anywhere from 60-90% there from the psychological enjoyment of it. Once again, your target is going to be the unexposed shaft, up towards the prostate with either fingers or a vibrator. I can personally attest that if you get close enough you can "brute ***" an orgasm with fast, deep thrusting, but getting that close is going to be the hard part. It's best to start off slow and gentle, and try to ramp up psychological enjoyment alongside physical. It's also worth noting that you can potentially go for multiple orgasms.

 

Once again, downsides: anal penetration requires a good cleanout, a gradual "loosening" session before you can get into it properly, and generally is messy from the amount of lube needed. If you're not careful there are a lot of health risks, and a lot of guys also have hangups about being penetrated. In this case it's just about getting to those active nerves however you can. It could be something you're not okay with, it could be something your partner isn't okay with. There's also a certain amount of physical discomfort involved that you may not be able to get past. Trying repeatedly may help, but no promises.

 

If things are to work out, I expect you and your partner are going to be taking turns stimulating each other and getting stimulated. By the way you're talking, it sounds like it's worth a shot. If none of this feels remotely good, the nerve damage may be too far back, in which case there's not much to do. I hope this helps.

It's been 10 years, lots have been done