Where do I fit in? What Am I?

[deluxxxe666]

Greetings all.

Some back story.. Im a 47 year old white male together with my wife  (47 year old white woman) for 25 years, married for 15. We have had 2 kids. We started out in the swinger scene but now are mostly active in the hotwife scene and I think moving slowly into the poly scene (Ill explain further down). We are into taking sexy photos (R to XXX rated) and have devoted a lot of *** to props, photo equipment, sexy clothing etc. We used to go nude at a local CO beach when it was still CO for 20 years (its not any more) My wife has currently been with over 43 different men with my approval. We are active on OHW. Currently she has a 32 year old BF whome shes been seeing for a year exclusively; we entertain him regularly at our house. Hes stayed the night, we have taken him to the beach to watch us shoot pics in the surf (hot as hell) Ive watched them fuck many times and have photographed them together several times.

Enough back story.. any questions? Just ask.

Currently we have been exploring "wife ownership". Basically, I want to own my wife "completely, permanently and unconditionally". I want a legally signed and notarized document giving me possession of her as property (yes, i understand this would never hold up in court. Its just between us for added effect). I want this 24/7 and she is willing to give it a try. I want her to voluntarily become essentially my "property" to be used whenever I want as a sex toy and my whore. She says stuff like "I belong to you" and "Im your property" on cue and on her own. Recently, in the throes of passion I whispered in her ear "I own this whore" and she came so hard. Afterwards she admitted that her "body reacts" to being spoken to like that and being treated like that

While tying her up and whipping her can be fun, its not really what Im into. I would prefer to hit her on the ass with my belt when she misbehaves or "fails to please".  In fact, I punched a notch not too long ago on my thick leather belt so I can fasten it around her neck as a leash.. in public I put my finger on the notch to remind her that that hole is just for her and the belt has been around her neck. I also like to ask her to strip naked and fetch me a drink and give me head while I enjoy it while shes wearing a dog leash. She calls me "daddy" and addresses me as such always. Facials and ***ing on her face in the shower are a "husband's right". She is never to deny me sex because that MY pussy, not hers.

So what lifestyle is this and where do I fit in? Can anyone point me in the right direction to fully develop this type of relationship?

She reads a lot of erotica (I dont I watch porn and am active on forums) and has suggested I read some too to get some info but I dint know where to begin with this and I would rather this develop naturally and organically without it becoming "50 shades of gray".

[deluxxxe666]

And please forgive me if my post isnt coherent and sounds like disorganized rambling... Im at work and doing this as quickly, discretely and quietly as i can

[ol****]

This sounds like a fairly  classic D/s relationship. I assume the sleeping with other men is at your choice and request?

[deluxxxe666]

Its by agreement; we both enjoy her doing it but I hold "veto" power. Im kind of new to the D/S scene.. any guides or how-to's?

 

[Deleted Member]

Sounds to me as though you’re heading in a direction you’re both very happy with. Ownership is something that has always promoted the same response in me. It is often just purely sexual. But I think when a relationship is deeper as yours is, ownership carries more meaning and weight. It’s very powerful to feel that you’re someone’s property.

[deluxxxe666]

Yes! Ive often told her its really very romantic and about a commitment deeper than

 

[ol****]

On 8/31/2020 at 7:56 PM, deluxxxe666 said:

Its by agreement; we both enjoy her doing it but I hold "veto" power. Im kind of new to the D/S scene.. any guides or how-to's?

There is a ton of information on this site about getting into D/s and roles and architypes. Have a good read and come back with some specific questions.