Surprised the lack of kink

[Deleted Member]

Completely new here only spent one night online but was surprised there was literally no kink chat at all. 
like a group of friends which I’m not criticising but I wanted to chat kink ask questions learn 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Cade]

There are many forms of kink, and there might have been kinky talk happening right in front of you that you were completely oblivious to - because they aren't your kinks. Also, it's good to remember that most kinky folks are more than just "kink"; that is to say, they have multiple interests that they are able and desire to chat about! Likewise, might keep in mind that kink can mean different things for everyone; if "kinky chat" for you is heavily focused on sex, you might want to consider that it may not be sexual for everyone, and who ever offers the topic that inspires others to offer their opinion is the one that leads chat. Ask your questions! I know most the regulars enjoy intellectual discourse, but if you're looking to just "get horny and get off", this likely isn't the site for you. Learning can happen whenever you listen.

Edited September 12, 2020 by Cade

[Paddywack-3112]

1 hour ago, Cade said:

There are many forms of kink, and there might have been kinky talk happening right in front of you that you were completely oblivious to - because they aren't your kinks. Also, it's good to remember that most kinky folks are more than just "kink"; that is to say, they have multiple interests that they are able and desire to chat about! Likewise, might keep in mind that kink can mean different things for everyone; if "kinky chat" for you is heavily focused on sex, you might want to consider that it may not be sexual for everyone, and who ever offers the topic that inspires others to offer their opinion is the one that leads chat. Ask your questions! I know most the regulars enjoy intellectual discourse, but if you're looking to just "get horny and get off", this likely isn't the site for you. Learning can happen whenever you listen.

That's probably the nicest way to put it

[Carnelian2]

Personally, I find kinky chat, as in scenarios, a bit boring. I like the odd kinky erotic story that people point me to from time to time, as well as learning from others and hopefully sharing a little the other direction.

[ma****]

The kinkiest part of this site in my view is the ability to opening and honestly just post up any kinky question and get a mature and understanding response for like it were any other question. But yeah well said

[ey****]

Stuff like chats, the direction can blow in many ways and I think asking questions can be difficult - and is also at the mercy of expertise and opinions on who is on.

I think you can still learn from the chats, but timing can be a gamble.

I think for learning - on here we have the magazine which is full of content and reading old forum posts can be good

and, of course, especially if you can't find your question answered...... starting a thread to ask it  

[E-dUbBs]

9 hours ago, Cade said:

There are many forms of kink, and there might have been kinky talk happening right in front of you that you were completely oblivious to - because they aren't your kinks. Also, it's good to remember that most kinky folks are more than just "kink"; that is to say, they have multiple interests that they are able and desire to chat about! Likewise, might keep in mind that kink can mean different things for everyone; if "kinky chat" for you is heavily focused on sex, you might want to consider that it may not be sexual for everyone, and who ever offers the topic that inspires others to offer their opinion is the one that leads chat. Ask your questions! I know most the regulars enjoy intellectual discourse, but if you're looking to just "get horny and get off", this likely isn't the site for you. Learning can happen whenever you listen.

Very well said
I do find some come into the lobby and think it’s should be kinky almost porn chat
The way I view the lobby is in the name
Imagine it’s a hotel lobby you chat say hi and meet people in a lobby
I’ve never walked into one and shouted hey who wants to get whipped and fucked
So why online would people think that would work
I do hope you find the kink you are look for though

[Deleted Member]

If you went to a football(soccer) match would that mean all that can be discussed is footy? Yes it's a kink site but most kinksters are much more than just that. For me it's a good thing that other "topics" can be discussed. Kink this and Kink that can become a little tedious at times, humans first and always 😊

[Ar****]

2 hours ago, E-dUbBs said:

Imagine it’s a hotel lobby you chat say hi and meet people in a lobby
I’ve never walked into one and shouted hey who wants to get whipped and fucked

Nail, meet head... perfect 😂👍

[Kriss123]

Go careful what you wish for..There are literally tens and thousands of kinksters who play by their own rules

[Deleted Member]

People first,  kink second 😁🔥😁

[uk****]

Would you walk into a bar and start talking about your fetish(s) or say hi and get to know everyone first ?

[Shellshock]

PEOPLE matter I care there ok . Kink is just fun if your lucky. 

 

[Koby]

On 9/12/2020 at 2:11 AM, Marlneedskink said:

Completely new here only spent one night online but was surprised there was literally no kink chat at all. 
like a group of friends which I’m not criticising but I wanted to chat kink ask questions learn 🤷🏻‍♂️

Depends on your expectations from a kink based website. Even if you struck up a convo with a person you  found particularly pleasing, the best method is take gradual steps with including kinks into the convo. Not just launch into a convo about kinks.

[Carnelian2]

12 hours ago, ukmarky said:

Would you walk into a bar and start talking about your fetish(s) or say hi and get to know everyone first ?

ok, I have a lively imagination and the picture of the guy going into the bar will of strangers starting a conversation about the merits of single versus two-column ties or the best materials for a flogger just cracked me up. Add to that the myriad of possible reactions from dismay to being hauled out of the saloon in Wild West style :D

To respond; probably not a good idea :)

[Bo****]

Expectations

Well,i ponder the expection of stimulating a wide varied selection of,individulistic sapio-sexuals(see posts above).

Welcome🙏

know the person.....find the keys.....unlock the mind.....savour n relish the kinks ,n explore your potential.

Life,love n unity.....respect,innit🙏

[sm****]

you will find there are a few other rooms, kinksters & fetishits for example for that, the lobby is just that a lobby meeting place, it can jump from the mind numbingly boredom to light s***d wtf did i just read and learn there.

Most people who use chat don't do constant discuss this discuss that as they have seen it done it a squillion times, but they will answer thought out genuine questions people do put up.

It's a place to get to know, it takes time to get trust etc your not going to get every fantasy you have handed to you on a plate.  once a friendship bases is established, the world of kink opportunities and information opens up.

[Deleted Member]

On 9/13/2020 at 9:20 AM, Carnelian2 said:

ok, I have a lively imagination and the picture of the guy going into the bar will of strangers starting a conversation about the merits of single versus two-column ties or the best materials for a flogger just cracked me up. Add to that the myriad of possible reactions from dismay to being hauled out of the saloon in Wild West style :D

To respond; probably not a good idea :)

I wasn’t suggesting diving straight in but as a new comer my expectations were it would be more openly kink talk advice differences etc etc. Not a chat group talking as if all friends for years. Not saying that’s a bad thing. I was just surprised 😂

[Deleted Member]

On 9/12/2020 at 2:29 PM, E-dUbBs said:

Very well said
I do find some come into the lobby and think it’s should be kinky almost porn chat
The way I view the lobby is in the name
Imagine it’s a hotel lobby you chat say hi and meet people in a lobby
I’ve never walked into one and shouted hey who wants to get whipped and fucked
So why online would people think that would work
I do hope you find the kink you are look for though

Not once did I mention “getting off” I’m interested and not something I would chat about with close mates. I didn’t mean any offence just offering my surprise 

[Deleted Member]

On 9/12/2020 at 4:32 PM, Aranhis said:

Nail, meet head... perfect 😂👍

Fair point wasn’t suggestion it was wrong just not what I expected. 

[Deleted Member]

3 minutes ago, Marlneedskink said:

I wasn’t suggesting diving straight in but as a new comer my expectations were it would be more openly kink talk advice differences etc etc. Not a chat group talking as if all friends for years. Not saying that’s a bad thing. I was just surprised 😂

Lotsa lobbyists been there ages and often... go in,  say hi and ask questions,  lots of informed intelligent people...its v fun 🔥😁🔥

[Carnelian2]

14 hours ago, Marlneedskink said:

I wasn’t suggesting diving straight in but as a new comer my expectations were it would be more openly kink talk advice differences etc etc. Not a chat group talking as if all friends for years. Not saying that’s a bad thing. I was just surprised 😂

I think forums like this are good for that. There are plenty of topics to choose from

 

[Phoenyx]

On item that should be noted, is that things are slow right now---due to Covid.  Much of "kink" is based upon power-exchange.  However, thanks to Covid and so-called "social distancing", the energy in the system is at an all-time low.  So, the topics of discussion may seem mundane.  I am certain though, that things will pick-up again, once this virus has run its course.

Perhaps, you could start a thread, on your particular interests.  As long as those interests aren't too specialized or extreme, you will likely hear from others, who share your tastes.