Confused messages

[Ms_Multifaceted]

On 9/18/2020 at 8:01 AM, FabSeverus said:

are you sure the photo was live? most likely to be a ***ager having some fun online. Also what you perceived as positive might not be for the other part....

Well you never can tell with photos alone whether they are who they say they are can you, but honestly he couldn't have expressed his respectful submissive enthusiasm for me more, I did not misinterpret the things he said... but perhaps he was still fantasising/roleplaying, maybe, though why that would mean you have to suddenly delete your account Idk, it was really late, I wanted to sleep, he signed off wanting to talk again the next day. Who knows.

[Ar****]

On 9/18/2020 at 6:43 PM, BroodyJudy said:

Long-winded folk unite! I'll just say that sometimes people need to see other people's stories, so you keep on posting. From my infrequent lurking around the forum I've noticed you've been through it a couple times and you're still kicking around. I even recall I felt shit about something that didn't go well with a sub once and I read something you posted about an experience and I found it helpful even though I didn't reply. I'm a "cover myself in mud and hide in a cave lurking forums till I get better" type but community wisdom is the BEST mud. So thanks for that. (unless I've confused you with someone else and in that case thank them but you too)

"Keep Learning and Growing!" -Ava, Up All Night [2011]

Ahhhh, thank you! I confess I don't come on here half as much as I used to, but it has truly put a smile on my face and moved me to learn something I wrote was able to help you once. That's what we're here for... you've just made my night 😊 (and yes, I've taken knocks but I always get straight back up 😂)

 

@oldfellow I'm not sure if there's been a misinterpretation, I'm struggling to see how some of what you've said relates but I completely agree with much of it too. I suspect we may be coming at the same point perhaps from different angles? As I said myself, one oughtn't worry one's head or overanalyse. Certainly appreciate you trying to help; even when we aren't all quite on the same page the forum is a great showcase for how people can (mostly 😂) get along respectfully and supportively. 

[Ms_Multifaceted]

On 9/18/2020 at 5:49 AM, Aranhis said:

Sadly some people act very confusingly, and the best thing you can do is try not to let it worry your head.

 

On Tuesday I finally met in real life a friend I started talking to on here back in February. We have had each other's phone number for months and been very supportive of one another. It was a platonic thing - she has a boyfriend, I had a girlfriend for a short while - and we never talked about more than sharing hugs/cuddles. We don't live very far apart and we had made plans to do many activities together (as friends) as circumstances better allowed what with covid etc.

 

We had (what I thought was) a nice and simple hour on the park in town. We laughed, we joked, we caught up on a few bits. She encouraged me to start acting again because she could tell how passionate I was about it... wasn't in a hurry to leave or "get away" from me, and stayed a little longer when it got near time for her to go and get picked up. Just before we set back off reiterated that I could always message her any time about anything and she'd always be there for me the same as I am for her. Then when it was time to go our separate ways, we had a brief hug, I asked her to message to let me know she got home safe, she smiled and said she would and we said goodbye. No indication that anything was wrong or had changed. 

 

15 minutes later I get back indoors, connect to the WiFi, and discover I've been blocked. No message, no explanation, nothing. It knocked my self-esteem for six, I don't mind losing an hour for a date that doesn't work out with someone I don't "know", but this wasn't a date and it made me question how awful I must be to throw six months of friendship away and leave me not even having a clue why, or what I must keep doing "wrong" for people to treat me this way. I've ped out of my funk now and moved forward, it was very unpleasant at the time though.

 

I don't share this story for attention; I'm trying to demonstrate (in an awfully long-winded way, sorry! 🙈) that you aren't alone, and that sometimes people are just downright peculiar and misleading.

 

Hang on in there and don't try to analyse. You deserve better.

Thanks so much for sharing and really that experience sounds harsh, totally understandable to have felt pretty awful about it. Could it have possibly been an accidental pocket block or something?! Anyway, really appreciate the supportive words, thanks. 😊🌟

[Ar****]

2 hours ago, LadyL said:

Thanks so much for sharing and really that experience sounds harsh, totally understandable to have felt pretty awful about it. Could it have possibly been an accidental pocket block or something?! Anyway, really appreciate the supportive words, thanks. 😊🌟

You're welcome and I hope they helped 😊

 

Alas unlikely... on a touchscreen phone there are three very specific places you'd have to press (in order) to block, and if it were accidental I'd have heard from her by now. We messaged most days even if just to check in and if we ever skipped a day she would invariably tell me she'd missed me the next time we chatted before we started catching up. C'est la vie 🤷‍♂️

 

I hope that your experience was a one-off and future conversations help you keep your faith in people.

[ol****]

14 hours ago, LadyL said:

The dynamic was nothing like this. 😂

Then you and all who suffer this type of thing have my sympathies as you have had from the start.

 

Edited September 20, 2020 by oldfellow

[bathguy]

It is really quite theutical reading these messages, knowing that others have been through similar things i and many others have been through and hurt by but never talked about / lock away as we don't want to remember. I am certainly not taking pleasure from other peoples problems, but feeling reassured that it is not just me that this happens to.

 

The internet can be a lonely place at times, we have to remember that there are places like this we can can talk and share and hopefully heal a little. Keep having fun everyone! X

Edited October 6, 2020 by bathguy

[Ta****]

You also get online fantasists.. They love to dream about doing something with somebody else, but when it comes down to actually getting involved they can run.

I have had this happen to me so dont worry. 

People just come and go suddenly on forums and then  they can message me some months later.

I dont let it bother me personally.