Selective reading...

[qu****]

Like selective hearing is selective reading a thing, it certainly looks that way at times primarily in one chat room, and not just when busy, even when quiet, regulars come in say anyone about, and, even after various hellos, leave simply saying no-one here then, or worse when quiet and chatting with whoever's there, suddenly all acknowledgement goes, and you wonder why not many use chatrooms, or disappear completely

[Deleted Member]

If one were to walk into a crowded bar looking for a friend and said friend were not there would it be ok to then walk out? Without saying goodbye to all within the bar? If those within that bar, all strangers to me expected me to chat just because I was in the bar then that for me would be entitlement . Surely it shouldn't be taken personally should I wish not to talk? Just a thought and just my opinion 😊 if those within the bar wanted to grab my attention then it is down to them to make an impression as really, I owe them nothing and am fully entitled to look for my friend without having to engage anyone else.

[Koby]

I guess ***ps have different reasons for participating in online chats; some will be looking to catch up with friends and some will be looking to make new friends.

 

Horses for Courses

[ey****]

what they mean by "anyone here" is "anyone I can hit on" 

[Qu****]

I’ve done that plenty of times. Popped into chat to say hi, see who’s about, not seen anyone I know and come out again. It’s not personal and I hope nobody takes it as such. If there is a conversation going on that I feel happy to jump in on, I do but I wouldn’t necessarily join in otherwise. Same principle applies off site. I wouldn’t join in on a convo in a group of people in a bar for instance if I didn’t know them well.

[Deleted Member]

I visit the lobby on here a lot and I don’t always say hi or join in a conversation, in fact I lurk more than I chat. This doesn’t mean I’m being aloof or rude, it simply means I don’t have anything to bring to the conversation or I’m not in the mood to chat. I may say hi and then sit back and lurk again or I might butt into a conversation with one line then lurk or leave. Sometimes I’m looking for someone in particular, sometimes I’m not, sometimes I have a topic I want to discuss and other times I’m just there to learn from others. 
 

To break it down, I’m fickle, I use it how I want to and chat to who I want to. It can be hard to follow at times as there can be a few conversations happening at the same time and sometimes one conversation can take over 2 or 3. It’s not intentional, it’s just how it flows, comments get missed and people might be concentrating on another conversation or busy typing and don’t see something. 
 

Chat rooms aren’t to everyone’s taste and that’s ok but if you do enjoy it keep coming, chat more, get to know people, bring questions or topics and see how it goes. 

[Th****]

The welcome in chat is always a pleasant and constant surprise.

It may be worth mentioning that there is an unwritten rule that you do not greet anyone until they type in chat.

Even then if chat is moving fast a quick Hi is easy to miss.

Everyone is there to just chat and have a laugh, so using Donny's pub metaphor, it can take a little while before the regulars accept you as a regular.