throw the switch...

[Me****]

Recently, there has been some interesting talk about "switching".

So, me being a terrible switch, my opinion and that of a few others seems to be that we switches are "bastards" because we know exactly what YOU want!

Also, because WE can take it perhaps WE expect you to be able to take it too?

 

Discuss....

[ey****]

See.  Just.

No.

Like.  Everyone is different and switches are a little bit complex because of different variables.   

So, for me.  There's things I like to do to others that I don't enjoy being done to myself.  The people I do the thing to are those that DO enjoy it being done to them, or the concept of it being done to them as part of a form of submission.

And, likewise - the other way round.

Take tickling.  I love to tickle people who are ticklish.  But, I'm not ticklish.

I don't believe any form of 'play' needs to be hard or extreme.  I can take a fairly hard beating, but don't enjoy it so rarely do it.  I'd only give out a hard or cruel beating to those who really like it.  For me there's no 'too soft' because even a timid barehand spanking I would enjoy giving (or receiving) for the skin on skin contact.

I also don't think switches have any form of automatic knowledge about their play partner.  We know what WE like, and we might project that. But it only works if the other person gets the same thing out of the same thing.

But, I guess, switches can sometimes be quite sadistic because if someone does something cruel to us and we know how it makes us feel - it can become a form of ammo to use on them or someone else.

Though, tying in - I very rarely play 'both sides' with the same person.  Some people I 'bottom' to, some sub to, some Top, some Dominate... it's very fluid depending on the relationship. 

[Me****]

a very interesting take sheep.

[Deleted Member]

We can be unpredictable sometimes

[Deleted Member]

Switches aren't bastards they be some of the ferocious and delicious creatures of the night!!!

Dynamic,  reflexive, having processed their position and clarity on wants and desires! 

But they also be people and nowt as queer as folk

 

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I only know one switch who switches with another switch. I have assumed it must be quite challenging to do this? None of the switches I know are bastards 😁. Clearly I need to get out more!

[Me****]

22 minutes ago, Firewitch said:

Switches aren't bastards they be some of the ferocious and delicious creatures of the night!!!

Dynamic,  reflexive, having processed their position and clarity on wants and desires! 

But they also be people and nowt as queer as folk

 

🔥🔥🔥

i use the phrase bastard for brevity.

 

[Me****]

throwing the ball into play to see what folks say!

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1 hour ago, Curvykate said:

I only know one switch who switches with another switch. I have assumed it must be quite challenging to do this? None of the switches I know are bastards 😁. Clearly I need to get out more!

I switch with a switch, that identified as a sub, but likes to top as well as bottom. It's not challenging, it's logical. See if you can play both sides and like both sides, then being either isn't an issue. Furthermore if you're in tune with each other, you can feed off your partners signals and pardon the pun, switch sides 😁

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7 hours ago, METALSIR said:

Recently, there has been some interesting talk about "switching".

So, me being a terrible switch, my opinion and that of a few others seems to be that we switches are "bastards" because we know exactly what YOU want!

Also, because WE can take it perhaps WE expect you to be able to take it too?

 

Discuss....

I'm an occasional bastard, in fact come to think about it I've been called far worse. But that thas nothing to do with switching. 😂

So back on topic:

Personally, I wouldn't dish out something that I wouldn't be happy to be on the receiving end of. Everyone has different limits and they can vary greatly over time. As long as you've had a Frank discussion about what's going to take place and its respecting limits, sure go for it.

Conversely, kink wise I live by the motto do unto others. So basically if I'm being the bottom and I'm being beaten senseless and then denied, guess what's happening when we swap over 😁. I'd be lying if I said there wasn't something oddly satisfying about giving "receipts" for what you've endured. As long as you're respecting limits and it's SSC go for broke... I think that's perfectly reasonable and doesn't make me a bastard at all. 

[MishMashMio]

Aye, I've switched a few times. Im not good at it, but its a nice mix up of the norm. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to put yourself in your subs' shoes.

[Sissy4550]

I’ve switch many of times over the years and find it very erotic , for me and whoever is subbing.
Can go very extreme at times , but can honestly say that with a lot of conversation leading up to the playtime I’ve never had an I don’t think I’ll try That again experience.

[Ma****]

My take is certainly anecdotal, but a lot of animosity towards switches seems to be dying down as more and more fresh *** enters the community.

And I certainly see nothing wrong with switching. Many people I've spoken with in my local community have different kinks they like to top and bottom for. It is okay to love topping for one kink and hate bottoming for it, and vice versa. I'm of the opinion that just because you dislike one side of a kink doesn't mean you should deprive yourself from enjoying the other side. As long as all involved parties are consenting and enjoying themselves... well, that's all that matters.

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10 hours ago, KieH84 said:

I switch with a switch, that identified as a sub, but likes to top as well as bottom. It's not challenging, it's logical. See if you can play both sides and like both sides, then being either isn't an issue. Furthermore if you're in tune with each other, you can feed off your partners signals and pardon the pun, switch sides 😁

That’s insightful, thank you. In fact the entire thread is!

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Hi I think switches don’t want to miss out on this wonderful community and all that it offers, a roast beef dinner is tasty but to eat it every day breakfast lunch and tea will it make you feel satisfied or do you have your eyes on the cake trolley?

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11 hours ago, KieH84 said:

I switch with a switch, that identified as a sub, but likes to top as well as bottom. It's not challenging, it's logical. See if you can play both sides and like both sides, then being either isn't an issue. Furthermore if you're in tune with each other, you can feed off your partners signals and pardon the pun, switch sides 😁

Gspot on 🔥🔥🔥