guys or girls?

[Deleted Member]

I don’t personally have a preference as such, however if a girl messages me first then I feel appreciated and feel that she at least has some form of interest.

[Deleted Member]

In my opinion. I think it’s ok for woman to message men. They already get millions of messages a day that they aren’t able to respond to. They can reach out

[en****]

Now a days,,I really don’t think it matters..the guy should make the dirt move ,,but there r women that make that first move fast..but n the end,does it really matter……..

[Deleted Member]

Depends on the relationship dynamic. I am a Dom so I want to establish that leadership role immediately.

[to****]

Very rare I message women and very rare women message. If it's someone that has really peaked my interest, I'll take a chance. I'm very switchy so I like a woman that knows how to hit send

[Ducttapebondage]

Some sites I wait for the girls but I do send messages

[Deleted Member]

Honestly I prefer if someone messages me first. Shows that they're interested in me. I'm not against sending the first message though.

[Al****]

Men should write first.

[pc****]

This still a real discussion? Just message him.

[Deleted Member]

Life is too short! If you read a profile or see a pic you like, send a message. It’s not a marriage proposal. “It’s just a damn message for crying out loud!” Men love assertive women. Even if they say they don’t. That’s just an automatic macho defense mechanism because most men don’t like to be perceived as weak with women. But deep down, men love to receive first messages from women. So just send a message, you’ll feel better.

[cl****]

I am shy and love it when a girl ask

[Master716]

Agree with Audrey. I love hearing from a woman, especially if she has some interest. I am very open to it. 

[bi****]

Totally agree

[Deleted Member]

If you are interested in someone, message them. Whether you’re male or female shouldn’t factor into this.