Getting that motor running

[forbedding]

We know that so much of how a scene starts is based on context, mood, dynamic, etc... it's obviously going to be different for everyone, BUT.... I was wondering - do you guys have preferred ways you usually like to initiate or start kinky playtime? Puppy dog eyes over dinner, maybe? A little tug of the hair while you're watching netflix? Do you have a preference on who initiates? Or how? Are there things your partner has done that have flipped your switch? Or things you know you can do that will work every time? 

[Deleted Member]

Whenever I get in the mood I just let him out of his cage. Works every time.

[Mz****]

I like this question because its not something I particularly thought I did but then gathering my thoughts to reply, it turns out I do repeatedly use different cues depending on what I'm planning to enjoy..a couple of examples, if I'm ready to unlock a chastity cage the key moves from my anklet to my necklace..if I'm planning some CP I leave a cane by the stairs so its seen every time he passes building his anticipation, whether I'm using a cane or not its always my cue..lube left out on his side of the bed is a sign I'll be using my sounds.

85% of my play is during established relationships and usually with a CNC dynamic, the other 15% are more fwb kink play, for those it tends to be less about cues more about what we've discussed/negotiated.

[ey****]

I think the vast majority of my scene time is pre-planned.  That's usually because most people who I play with to whatever context would be met with this in mind.  But, of course, exceptions apply.

Earlier this year there was a bit of a muddle up of dates and I was in London and someone who had told me she wasn't available, would have been available, but she was like "OK, grab some ingredients and come over and I'll make us all some lunch" 

And, we'd not me to play and it's her house - but - of course, she did have me sweeping the floor - including playfully dropping breadcrumbs for me to pick up with my mouth.

This wasn't expected, but it was the playful nature of the relationship.   I guess another example is someone who was very deliberately teasing me with her feet trying to break me (too easy) but, to credit she did let me worship them - for which I'm grateful.

Going the other way, my wife and I do have some cues and it could me pulling their hair or going to control breathing... or, for them to move my hands to hint this is wanted.  Sometimes they'll even jump into a position ready for a spanking.