Domme Fantasies?

[Subystantial]

I would like to ask if any dommes out there would be willing to share any stories and insight into what they fantasize about. I've come across a couple of articles that point to some male subs tending to be self-focused in their concept of submission, its mentioned that this often comes at the expense of the consideration for their dommes needs and desires. Being new to BDSM and male submission the thing I've had the most trouble with is finding good sources of domme based fantasies from everyday people who are involved in the scene. I would like to be able to consider your desires in my thought process as I develop my own BDSM identity. I'm getting to know what my own desires and limits are but without decent knowledge of domme desires its only half the story. Of course if you feel that your fantasies are too personal to share I respect that. Finally if you know of any good resources to help me better fill in the blanks it would be greatly appreciated.  

[Si****]

Be mindful that anything someone says is not going to fit with everyone else. As such, it’s rather a moot point of knowing their things as it may conflict with what another potential Domme you might find want. It’s rather like asking questions about riding a bike when you need to be learning how to swim.

[ey****]

yep - the key thing of what one person fantasises about is very likely to differ to another

there have been writings on this in the wider web (I can't find it, but someone even did a survey) 

But, while there are kink related activities that come up - a lot actually leans more towards men/subs who are proactive.  So rather than "I'll do anything you say" and being told to do the dishes, that "Shall I do the dishes?" when identifying some need done is better - but just actually doing them is better again.

(Doing dishes isn't sexy, no, but anticipating her needs is.)

I think another problem is if someone was to type "I fantasise about being able to have a sub who can give a foot rub on command" then there has to be some other connection the rest of the time when a foot rub isn't needed - and not just idiots going "Pick me! Miss!" so they can show off their half-arsed unresearched 'skills'

  

[Subystantial]

Hi SirGreeen. I was hoping to see a broad spectrum of interests represented in the replies, I know each domme has her own particular preferences. I was hoping to get a more genuine less porn based perspective. I want to get to know the real women. It feels kind of empty without a real person to connect to. I don't know if you can relate in any way to that.

[Subystantial]

Hi eyemblacksheep. It's interesting that you mention anticipating needs in respect to doing the dishes rather than being told to do it. Something I was watching the other day on love languages mentioned five main types of love language one of which was service. The other four were, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch. I think it relates well to what you were saying because having service provided for them is way many people feel loved, a why to the what.

[Subystantial]

I found this video on YouTube of Mistress Iris, in it she gives a personal Q&A that goes into a lot of her personal thoughts and feelings about being a Mistress including what she enjoys in respect to play. It's a worthwhile watch in my humble opinion. I found her emotional openness very attractive and grounding, it's easy to connect with her as a human being. 

Mistress Iris Q & A

[Subystantial]

8 hours ago, Subystantial said:

I found this video on YouTube of Mistress Iris, in it she gives a personal Q&A that goes into a lot of her personal thoughts and feelings about being a Mistress including what she enjoys in respect to play. It's a worthwhile watch in my humble opinion. I found her emotional openness very attractive and grounding, it's easy to connect with her as a human being. 

Mistress Iris Q & A

This is an update for the above post to go directly to the correct video. I couldn't edit that one.

Mistress Iris Q&A (direct link)

[subwb-5485]

On 1/7/2021 at 2:18 PM, Subystantial said:

This is an update for the above post to go directly to the correct video. I couldn't edit that one.

Mistress Iris Q&A (direct link)

Thanks for the video