My Lady Bits

[ShineOn]

Thank you for taking time to read my post.  I am brand spanking new to all of this.  I recently met someone (2 months ago).  We have had some amazing conversations about sexuality and such.  I have always been straight run of the mill vanilla and fairly sheltered.  About 2 weeks ago he shared that he was a Dom that enjoyed pleasuring someone that is submissive to him.  I am submissive by nature in the bedroom.  I like strong masculine energy and more traditional gender rolls.  I like and trust this person so when he asked me to play I said ok.  We talked about boundaries, goals, expectations, and he explained safe words and such.  He told me he would make me cum over 10 times.  We played.  He delivered.  I had a great time.  He said that it will just keep getting better and better.  So here is my question.  The next day even after sleeping all night I was so tired I couldn’t get out of bed and my lady bits feel like I just gave birth.  I am exaggerating a little but you get the idea.  During our time together I had no discomfort at all but now I do.  Help....What can I do to get my lady bits more comfortable?  I tried googling it and didn’t find any helpful advice.  Thank you all for your time and advice.  

Edited January 24, 2021 by ShineOn
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[Koby]

I am not a gynaecologist but if you have not had sex recently and constantly than this could be why. Perhaps review how your body feels after you play again?

[Deleted Member]

The tiredness after the intense physicality is perfectly normal, it's part and parcel of the come down, I can assure you he will be drained too 😊. As far as your lady bits as you say he delivered, so as with anything that gets used a lot its normal to be sore, but something you need to keep an eye on next few days to make sure all is ok long term. Maybe a hot bath and relax on the sofa, it can be and and is much more physical in general than vanilla so soreness, aches and ***s are all par for the course 😊

[Deleted Member]

It’s normal but it’ll hurt less and less as you get used to it. You just haven’t had sexual activity in a while and a lot most likely.

[Deleted Member]

It’s a lack of sexual activity and then going full throttle in one night. It’s like imagine you’ve never run 1K then running a marathon... you need a hot bath to relax the muscles with gentle skin products nothing too fragrant or glittered, take paracetamol or ibuprofen to ease the ***, hot water bottle or heated bean bag when sat on couch in between legs at a comfortable heat, comfortable underwear mainly cotton and a full brief not a thong and loose clothing (pyjamas/lounge wear/joggers)... as long as your not bleeding there’s no need to worry, just reign the play time in abit so you don’t over work yourself 🙊 xx

[Deleted Member]

Ibuprofen, drink plenty of water, bath with epsom salts, vitamin E oil applied to the bits. Try not to catch on fire from my burning envy.

[ShineOn]

Thank you everyone and you all guessed right it had been about 6 months....so great analogy with the 1k to a marathon.  I am glad to hear that the discomfort will get less and less because if this were to be the norm I don’t think I would do it again even though it was so fun.  I am going to try the vitamin e oil as well.  
 

it was a crazy experience at one point I was even stumbled on my feet.  He says it will get better and better so I am really glad to hear that this discomfort will too.  Thanks again all!  This newbie appreciates you.  Oh it’s so funny to me because I didn’t go looking for this.  He found me.  I have never even read or seen any of the 50 Shades stuff.  When I told him that he said it was fake and to not waste my time.  The other thing that has surprised me is reading up on somethings after the fact I can see exactly what he was doing and leading me through.  It was almost like following steps I didn’t even realize he was following....

 

anyway thank you for the feedback and for the ear💜

[Deleted Member]

I bet lots of women here would love that feeling 😂

[75****]

You said you went from being a run of the mill vanilla to having 10 orgasms in a row. I would say it is the same as being a couch potato and then suddenly completing a 10 mile jog. Take it easier next time and build yourself up (over days and weeks, or even months). Get your body used to it.

[ShineOn]

Lesson learned believe you me.....really I was ready to say this isn’t for me until posting here and hearing that the discomfort let’s up with time.  I really had a great experience.  I just felt no *** or discomfort at all while in the moment but I sure am feeling it now.  Nothing is going near my lady bits for a while.  

[Deleted Member]

CBD coconut oil may help you greatly and is safe inside and out. (It’s great for anal too! Relaxes everything so nice!)

[Ma****]

Jade is that you hun? Personally i think you should tell your partner that he did that to you. If he's any sort of a man he will calm down to help you yet still give you amazing orgasms. Not all orgasms come from down there. X

[Deleted Member]

Now I feel naïve, where else do orgasms come from if not "down there"? I really want to know, because either I am misunderstanding or missing out on something lol