New to being a Male Dom

[Bamo]

Hi all I'm new to the idea of being a Male Dom and wondered if there was any advice out there to help me get started as I'd rather get it right from the start 

Many thanks in advance 

 

[Ma****]

Go with the flow mate. Just be respectful towards your partner.

[kinkster_dom959]

Welcome to world of D/s. Just be respectful of your submissive partner and responsible of the trust, your sub puts in you. It’s a beautiful feeling learning about your partner and yourself. So enjoy 😉

[Koby]

Be yourself....

It is easy to identify individuals who are putting on a mask (figuratively) or facade.

It's also ok to admit to a partner that you are in the process of finding yourself. Vulnerability is not weakness, it's a commendable strength

[LanceH]

Take the time to learn your sub. Likes, dislikes, limits. Wants and needs. Be ready to work hard, because being a Dom may mean your in charge, but it also means your responsible, and you accept that responsibility.

[Jim73]

Communicate communicate and communicate some more!!

[SammyB]

Read lots , educate yourself , chat to people , trust your gut , ask your time , ask questions , try and find connection chemistry and commonalities

[SammyB]

Read lots , educate yourself , chat to people , trust your gut , take your time , ask questions , try and find connection chemistry and commonalities

[Deleted Member]

Welcome to the D side. I would say to speak to other Dom’s and learn from them. Go to events when able and watch how other Ds handle themselves and read up as much as possible. Try dominantguide.com and watch Master Archane on YouTube. Looking up principles of RACK and other safety advice is a must
I hope this helps💙

[SammyB]

@Jinxx I was talking to someone about this recently neither of us could find the dominantsguide .... it was good resource and wanted to forward it on to someone , have you been able to access it recently, if so would you mind forwarding the link plz

[Deleted Member]

33 minutes ago, SammyB said:

@jinx I was talking to someone about this recently neither of us could find the dominantsguide .... it was good resource and wanted to forward it on to someone , have you been able to access it recently, if so would you mind forwarding the link plz

I will try to find it. I must admit it’s been a while for me too💙

[Deleted Member]

59 minutes ago, Jinxx said:

I will try to find it. I must admit it’s been a while for me too💙

dominantguide*

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^External link removed

[Deleted Member]

58 minutes ago, Jinxx said:

dominantguide*

Forget that link it’s a spoof

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[Sir-Roaddogg72]

Get a mentor

[Bo****]

Save the clown makeup until you’ve had some experience.

[ey****]

I think a first thing is to accept you probably won't get it right from the start.  That's ok, just don't lie about your experience.

Remember subs are all different.  Different likes, different personalities, different want of dynamics : so there's no "one size" solution.

Think about what type of Dominant you want to be. What you would enjoy. What you would want out of the relationship.  

 

[Bamo]

7 hours ago, Jinxx said:

I will try to find it. I must admit it’s been a while for me too💙

If you find it could I trouble you for a copy please 

[Bamo]

Thank you everyone you've all been a huge help I'm looking forward to speaking more with you all soon

[Deleted Member]

Just a few points:
1. Always keep the lines of communication open.
2. Have safewords and ALWAYS respect them if/when they are said.
3. It is not all about sex.
4. Know the soft and hard limits.
5. NEVER break The Hard Limits, that is the golden rule.

[Al****]

Communication is key. Each session might be different. Whatever your ideas are or their ideas are, they need to be discussed before trying anything new. If something has changed in the way you want to approach something you've already done with them, it needs to be talked out first. Never assume they're okay with it.
Just because you're the dom doesn't mean you're the one in control. Tbh, the sub has more control than the dom does. The dom is given control after they have earned the trust of the sub.
Also, don't forget after care. Let your sub know that you enjoyed it, hold them, cuddle, whatever to let them know things went well.