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[Ma****]

What do you think if you phone the person your chatting with and they never answer?
Personally i would like to hear their voice to make sure im not falling into a trap. Give your views..

[Mo****]

Either they have telephone anxiety and don't like answering the phone......aren't who they say they are.......or are with someone that doesn't know about you or this side of their life, so doesn't want to talk to you in front of them. 

 

[Deleted Member]

I think a lot would depend on whether an agreement has been reached first to talk on the phone. If one trusts enough to firstly give a number that does not mean they will be ready to actually talk, maybe it's another step towards one day chatting and some like to take baby steps. I will often give my number to chat on another platform That makes it easier to communicate, not so much actual verbal communication as sometimes that's the next logical step, all depends on what the other person is comfortable with.

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[Carnelian2]

I have spoken with many on the phone - genuine people. Even a couple of Afrian (judging from th accent) scammers, who said they were in the UK  - obviously not! .. 

[Ar****]

12 hours ago, MassageGiver said:

What do you think if you phone the person your chatting with and they never answer?

Are they expecting your call, or are you ringing them off your own bat without it having been discussed first? That has a huge bearing on the answer.

[ey****]

I'm gonna admit, I hate talking on a telephone.  

Also, if you phone me and I don't recognise the number - my phone will pull through if it's a business trying to call me so there's a risk I'll neither answer nor try to work out who it was

Sure, it's nice to hear someone's voice once in a while - but I often prefer written messages when convenient.

For traps; would depend on the context for sure.  I would still ask to arrange a call rather than just calling

[Carnelian2]

1 hour ago, Aranhis said:

Are they expecting your call, or are you ringing them off your own bat without it having been discussed first? That has a huge bearing on the answer.

Further to that, I would say that it is essential to arrange the call beforehand. It also shows respect for the person, regardless of who they may be.

[SammyB]

I suppose more context is required ti the Situation

If you have been chatting to someone for a while on another platform and you’re getting along well and you are feelings things could progress and they agree.... it would be a bit of a red flag

Ultimately people connect and chat in on different levels however if it’s in hope of it turning into a dynamic or relationship..even if someone is anxious and hates using the phone , particularly in pandemic time it would give me cause for concern

But I’m wondering if you have taken other measures and checks to ensure how genuine the person is

[Deleted Member]

life is about chances you get, take, use, squander even regret.

like many others saying if you have been given the number to call either you do or don't. However unless you have a time stated or agreed remember that there is that awful thing called bad timing, in the case of no answer. 

If i was talking to someone over a period of time say go for a drink, coffee chat get to know someone on whatever level it would be i would want to take that chance. Personal choice. Same as online munches, eventually if the world ever see's no more lock downs gatherings, munches at a pub, events and so on i'm sure you'd make that type of connection with others to be given a number to call.

1 life. live it. 

[Ma****]

Thanks everyone

[Mz****]

19 hours ago, MassageGiver said:

What do you think if you phone the person your chatting with and they never answer?
Personally i would like to hear their voice to make sure im not falling into a trap. Give your views..

It would depend on how well we'd been chatting prior to the call I think, and if we'd arranged a voice call..if we hadn't I'd shrug and assume they were occupied or perhaps couldn't speak freely..if we had, I'd give the benefit of the doubt..Once.. After that, I'd cut my losses if it happened again without a good reason.

A voice may help you 'prove' a gender, though there's no guarantee of that, voices can be changed, and it wouldn't necessarily mean you're talking to who you think you are either, but like you I prefer to talk rather than message when I'm approaching the 'would like to meet' stage, so although imperfect it works for me, I loathe video calling or whatever its called, so for me it's messages, voice calling and then meeting within 4 weeks of initial contact, that way if they're not who they say they are, or we don't gel in person, we both know pretty quickly and no one gets hurt or upset..if they can't or won't meet, so be it..conversation closed.