Men who refuse to comprehend that I am not here to get them off by discussing/obeying their every whim

[Deleted Member]

I really am beginning to seeth with anger at the amount of men on this here app who think simply because a woman is present she is seeking to fulfill all his fantasies, submit to him instantly with just a single message or go through an interrogation in which you can tell the end result is them getting off on the other end... without your explicit consent for the conversation to even go that direction... also the amount of men who I decline to speak to that end up visiting my profile 15 times a day 🙃.. this is beginning to feel like extreme tinder.. its sad that I don't feel I can come here and engage in genuine discussion with like-minded individuals without the constant onslaught of "horny" internet twerps looking for their next pornhub type chat... respect the wishes of others there are many on the app interested in what YOU are looking for, don't go hunting for people to try and coerce into giving you what you want. Its gross. 

[Maisterchris1]

Sorru x

[Maisterchris1]

Sorry even

[Boots3392]

Ok woma*n

[Deleted Member]

Many of us are sorry that you feel the need to make this post. This community was built to be a safe environment where like minded people can come together and meet. This community was NOT founded to provide a platform to harass. Kinks/fetishes are not an excuse to ignore human boundaries. I hope the site is addressing this issue and I hope things get better for you on here. If not I hope you can find a safe venue elsewhere for you to express yourself without being bombarded with A holes...

[Deleted Member]

The mere need for this post says it all. It's a shame how a few fend for themselves, and destroy it for the well-meaning and serious people. I'm really sorry for you and all the other women who get this reprehensible behavior on them.

[rossco-4359]

I’m very sorry to hear this has happened and it isn’t something that should be put up with ! Can the people who control this site make it clear that kinks & fetishes doesn’t mean you can ignore common human decency ? Being submissive doesn’t mean being blindly obedient ! And being dominant doesn’t give you the right to assume people here will obey every thing you say !

[Deleted Member]

It’s good that you’re angry. Be angry. They’re assholes. It is gross. Block them after you’ve told them to sod off or just straight out block them. I felt the same way for quite a while after I joined the site. I still get angry at times. I know other women who get upset and angry too. But, you could put strong filters on which means few guys could message and join in wholeheartedly in the forum. Where you can have the genuine discussion you look for. That’s what I did. Just a thought.

[au****]

If fell your *** on the flip side us submen have it worse try dealing with so called femdoms that for got to replace the e with an i and the m with a n. It's unbelievable it's about 98% percent that are fake that want us to give them *** before we even talk to them . I don't know how you feel about that but i can speak for the majority of men that I'll be damned to give *** to someone i have never met. So I'm not picking sides and please no disrespect ma'am we are jumping for joy that hopefully your real and that's whole other issue that I'll get into at another time . This online shit is out of control band we need to get rid of the fake ass people and bots.

[Deleted Member]

58 minutes ago, Curvykate said:

It’s good that you’re angry. Be angry. They’re assholes. It is gross. Block them after you’ve told them to sod off or just straight out block them. I felt the same way for quite a while after I joined the site. I still get angry at times. I know other women who get upset and angry too. But, you could put strong filters on which means few guys could message and join in wholeheartedly in the forum. Where you can have the genuine discussion you look for. That’s what I did. Just a thought.

Thank you for the validation it is truly appreciated I think I'm going to have to take another look at my message filters and strengthen them, thanks for the tip! 

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, audubon440 said:

If fell your *** on the flip side us submen have it worse try dealing with so called femdoms that for got to replace the e with an i and the m with a n. It's unbelievable it's about 98% percent that are fake that want us to give them *** before we even talk to them . I don't know how you feel about that but i can speak for the majority of men that I'll be damned to give *** to someone i have never met. So I'm not picking sides and please no disrespect ma'am we are jumping for joy that hopefully your real and that's whole other issue that I'll get into at another time . This online shit is out of control band we need to get rid of the fake ass people and bots.

This post is about a sub woman being badly treated by “dominant” men. Why not start your own post instead of jumping on this one. Out of interest though - do you get threatened with regularly? Do you get told you’re a cunt because you said no? How often are you messaged by a man who wants to destroy your anus? Because I know these are messages sent regularly to female subs here.

[Deleted Member]

38 minutes ago, masokitty said:

Thank you for the validation it is truly appreciated I think I'm going to have to take another look at my message filters and strengthen them, thanks for the tip! 

I am genuinely glad if that helps. Because I struggled big time and posted just as you have. Message filters and having a phrase in your profile that they need to refer to - seems to be the only way. I took my more evocative photos down for a long time too. Just to stay under the radar and still enjoy the site. I shouldn’t ***y have to. Nor should you. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

I rate this I feel your struggle

[ey****]

There's a lot of frankly awful behaviour and I'm sorry you've been on the receiving end of this

[ch****]

Girl! Same. It’s annoying and I was actually logging on to delete profile because of this behavior, when I saw your post.

[TightandHard]

It's a shame but you are right. :(

[Deleted Member]

I had this happen once on a different site. I guess the guy didn't read my profile about my roles being dominant. I wrote him back in kind [nothing worse than destroying his anus I assure you]. He blocked me. Rude!
On this site I just get daddy fakes which I report. I'd say refer the creeps to a misanthrope like me but I guess a screenshot and report is the proper way to go.

[KayleighT]

Thats why my profile says what it says. I refuse to fill it in properly. I like to chat and get to no people. There are some that do talk. Can talk and ***ps who can and do offer a good convo, they are awesome. Block people who cant respect that boundary. People think becauae its a kink site, that its a instant sex site. Persevere darl.

[Ar****]

5 hours ago, audubon440 said:

on the flip side us submen have it worse

Just, no. Into the bin you go, now.

[Deleted Member]

I thought you other people have helped you w this and wish I knew.. I have mine high words, pic, verification, age , only kinkster that spoken to can whisper me but female can how I have it set up

[Deleted Member]

The only good or bad part you have to msg the person first because it’s extremely hard for them to msg you

[qu****]

Unfortunately all you can do is use the message filter, not ideal I know, but it does work the other way, as in Dommes messaging from the blue usually without viewing a profile saying hello my disgusting sissy sub slut, kneel and worship me, not knowing I'm not a sub, I usually just delete message or, when ***d off say how dare a subservient female talk to the darklord of the universe like that, oddly they disappear 😁

[Deleted Member]

10 hours ago, BroodyJudy said:

I had this happen once on a different site. I guess the guy didn't read my profile about my roles being dominant. I wrote him back in kind [nothing worse than destroying his anus I assure you]. He blocked me. Rude!
On this site I just get daddy fakes which I report. I'd say refer the creeps to a misanthrope like me but I guess a screenshot and report is the proper way to go.

🤣 I like your take

[Ni****]

As others have said, Block them as then they can't message you or view your profile, although you shouldn't have to ! They are a minority on here, thankfully, so please don't let Wankers like them drive you away; they should be the ones removed from the site.

[Th****]

I am sorry to hear about your ordeal.

Granted, I am entirely the wrong gender to fully sympathise as effectively as I would like.

The bottom line is anyone who displays this kind of behaviour is not only rude, boorish, crude, and upsetting. They are very effectively telling anyone  who receives their messages that they are most certainly not a Dominant.

There is no way that that behaviour displays respect, humility, a good understanding and application of consent. 

On the only very slightly brighter side at least you know who the d*ck heads are.