BDSM - Do I fit ??

[naughtyboy999]

Hello all.

1st post here so and wondering if its BDSM or some other strange kink that consumes me sexually from time to time!

I have an elaborate fantasy about sexy females I know very well (most are totally out of bounds for me! - wifes ***, workmates, my cousin etc.) placing me in shackles or long chained handcuff's and locking me in a type of jail cell. There is never *** or *** involved, just calm control of me in a very authoritarian manor. I imagine it happening in a real familiar place, for example we have secure rooms with steel bar gates in an unused building at work (perfect jail cell). I also imagine a reason as to why she may do this to me, what reason would she have? What seems to fit is I imagine myself getting caught stealing her sexy Lingerie. (I have lingerie kink also - I'm not into cross dressing but I love the excitement of somehow trying on someone else's sexy panties.) All this fuels the fantasy and the reason as to why I'm being punished and controlled. Throughout all this she is very much in charge of me and humiliates me by making me try her sexy lingerie while denying me the pleasure of masturbation. If I masturbate things will get really serious so I dare not while I'm under her control! To make things worse my jailer teases me while she wears her very sexy lingerie right in front of me, again with very serious consequences if I pleasure myself.

 

Recently I have almost fulfilled this fantasy (with the exception of the female unfortunately) with the use of my own small few items of ladies panties, chains and handcuffs and indeed the use of that warehouse strongroom. I have even used a timed padlock that will not release me until a certain time has passed. Last weekend I spent a full two hours locked in that "cell" until the 2 hours on the padlock counted down. (I fully tested the device and I had a hacksaw in the cell just in case!). Being locked in there for those few hours really added to the arousal of the situation and the sexual climax I finally allowed myself almost after two hours was something else indeed. (I'm going to make some plans for a 3 or 4 hour stint soon!)

 

So, is my thing BDSM or something else possibly? Would love an opinion and to chat with like-minded's also!

Thanks for reading!

[Roxy1957]

Sounds like a lot of people’s thing. Light sissy domination and control.
Kinky, fantasy, normal for here.
That’s just my opinion.
But I’m new, I don’t know anything.

[naughtyboy999]

"Light sissy domination and control"

That sounds about right!

Would love to hear from anyone on here that like what I describe. Would love to discuss it more with likeminded people

[Leisa]

You’re fantasies and desires are perfectly normal in this realm. Where you would not find acceptance is in the day to day that most of us must co-exist in. When you first start out it’s like belonging but not belonging in two different worlds. What you will learn through your journey is how to mesh the two worlds together in a cohesive lifestyle where you get to experience all your wants and desires while maintaining a separate identity with a part of yourself remaining yours alone. We learn as we grow. Welcome to the most amazing community of uplifting and support. You belong.

[naughtyboy999]

Thank you for your replies Roxy1957 and Leisa.

Its good to know that I might fit somewhere!

One other thing I might ask if you don't mind..
We all agree BDSM is about different types of kinks for different people. All good once everyone is safe and nobody suffers for real.

I mentioned in detail in my original post that I fantasize about certain females locking me up and being in charge of me.

Read my first post again but what if I was to tell you this time I that the woman in question is my older *** of 5 years.

 

Is this an acceptable kink within this community?

Let me say one or two things first.

Firstly, I don't ever want a sexual encounter for real with my *** (and I doubt she would want one with me either).

When I was 18 (a long time ago!)  I stayed in her house for a weekend once (she was 23 at the time) when she was at University. When I stayed there that weekend I noticed for the first time that she had a lot of very sexy lingerie. I have always had a thing for sexy lingerie and mostly enjoyed lingerie catalogues as opposed to hard core porn as a developing young man. Now here I am with almost unlimited access to an attractive young woman's very sexy lingerie. My pleasure was to try on her sexy panties and imagine them on attractive women. It was never about crossdressing or even about my ***, but just the sexy objects that panties are. Afterwards I was always filled with enormous guilt and as I tried to be somewhat respectful to my *** I always ensured that any items I wore were going straight into a wash after me. I did this for years (undetected I believe) until I no longer had access to her underwear.

 

Back then I never allowed myself to imagine my *** when I masturbated.

However in recent years I gradually allowed her to creep into my thoughts however its always her as a young woman in her early 20's.

Now when I'm in the scenario in the original post its my *** all the way. I speak her name to heighten her presence in a place where there is only me.  

 

Fantasizing about her as a young woman allows me to separate the woman she is today (we have a great relationship bty) with the sexy object I created of her 20 years ago. I am fantasizing today about someone who does not exist in a sense! This allows my head to be ok everything.

 

So, thanks again for reading and I appreciate all reply's. So how does this revelation fit in?
Do you think I may find a dominant female in this community that will help me recreate my fantasy? A female that will pretend to be my *** among others as I develop ?

 

One last comment. I seem to enjoy masturbation / sex denial. What better subject to facilitate "sexual denial" only ones sibling?

This in my opinion makes it even more real.

 

Love would to hear more here on in PM.

Thanks