Does BDSM Make Us More Creative? | Darkside Magazine Special Forum Thread

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In Darkside's latest issue, the subject of creativity and kink is explored in an article entitled: The Whole Chicken: On Creativity and Kink. Inside it asks: Does kink make us more creative? Or do creative people tend to be kinkier?  From your own experiences, are creativity and kink perfect play partners? 

[Deleted Member]

Good afternoon Leocadio and thank you for your interesting post. Firstly I like the whole chicken concept as what came first the kink or creativity? For my journey I would say that as a child who struggled with communication and mostly spent my time in my own thoughts and imagination. I would create my own worlds with my toy soldiers. I watched a lot of war films and after I would try and recreate moments of destruction and death. I would go to great lengths spending days digging lines of First World War trenches in a bit of waste ground at the bottom of the garden. I would mould garden clay into bomb damaged buildings and then carefully position them into the set .***stakingly I would place 300 or 400 plastic soldiers carefully into place. Now this is the point where things start to get kinky. I had one friend when I was at school and he lived with his mother in London and at the weekend he went to stay with his dad who lived on a farm in Norfolk. He used to pinch his dads rook / crow explosives and sneak them into school and give me a dozen or so. I would wait for my parents to go out and then I get my adrenaline rush as I light up one at a time and throw it amongst my battlefield. I was Zeus in my young twisted mind and I wanted to be cruel and evil to inanimate objects. It was extremely exciting as each boom and bang destroyed everything I had built. After the last explosion had settled down I would get closer to the set and investigate how many of the figures were still standing . Some were blown away some were burning still and some were alive ( ie they were still standing) Now I had captured survivors and things didn’t look good for them as I felt a need to decapitate some of my prisoners. I satisfied this desire with the garden spade. I felt good I felt wicked I craved the excitement . I also felt guilty and I felt odd and alone. I also ***ted a lot of grim pictures with executions and *** which didn’t ring alarm bells with my family . I was aware that I wasn’t like the other *** that I grew up with but I wanted to be like them. My young mind was perverted and I enjoyed danger. So these thoughts carried into puberty and sexual arousal . I wasn’t comfortable and suffered from anxiety .Around the age of 11 I started to approach girls at school and I realised that I had no desire to hurt them, in fact it was the the opposite as I remember wanting to be overpowered by a girl or a group of girls. With boys I just wanted to hurt and humiliate and fight with. Finally aged 13 I had my first sexual encounter with a girl who was 2 years older than me and she had experience and I felt really safe with her. We played about mostly vanilla play but she would sit on my chest and when she did I felt captured but not in danger and I liked it! Fast forward a few years and I’m now in a relationship with another older girl who was assertive sexually and enjoyed tying me up to her bed . There wasn’t any spanking or *** but she made it clear that her pleasure was to be satisfied before mine . For the next few years I had several other relationships that were fairly tame and I felt that I wanted more excitement and found it with The *** Garden parties in London where I was fortunate enough to meet a Dominant woman 15 years older and we had a 10 year relationship. Another female Domme friend of hers suggested that we set up a professional home dungeon and convinced me to try the Dominant role with fee paying Male clients. We did and I did and now a whole new avenue of exploration was to be experienced. Everything I learned was guided by my partner and her friends. At first we did the clients together as a Dom couple. Then I would get requests from gay men to Dom them one to one and eventually we were on fire with the phone constantly ringing and we had to work hard with the schedule and be constantly thinking of new and creative ways to stimulate,excite and terrorise . We only had a small 12 by 10 feet room but we had an x shaped cross in black pvc and studs on a wooden frame. We had a whipping bench in red and black leather, a leather sling hanging from chains in the ceiling and a lot of standard equipment. Our clients we’re varied but so many were creative types musicians artists architects landscape gardener and yes I enjoyed the sessions but I also enjoyed talking with and asking questions about their lives and how they got involved with bdsm and in my mind there is a connection because we are quite simply beautiful intelligent imaginative highly sexual individuals who cut our own paths through life and ignore the spoon fed bollocks of what is right and acceptable. Love and peace to you all ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Deleted Member]

Hey, from what I've learned last couple of years, after realising all are so unique, in their own special ways. I find each interaction even if only by message causes us to be creative. All this I'm a D so it's my way or the highway doesn't cut it with me, as then you are restricting yourself, and thereby closing the door on creativity. So yes, for me on a personal level kink does make us think, and that causes natural creativity, even if we don't realise it.

[lolli-leigh]

I think that it definitely makes us think about the creative ideas for play and makes me want to write and develop my mind more.

[Deleted Member]

Good question... both maybe?

[Deleted Member]

I would definitely go along with the Forest Gump theory of both happening at the same time lol

[ey****]

I don't feel the two are mutually exclusive

that not everyone who is creative is kinky / not everyone who is kinky is creative

and that's ok

I think there's times within kink where being creative has advantages - but certainly it's not mandatory 

[Ma****]

no

[qu****]

I wouldn't have said any more than anything you enjoy doing, any hobby/interest that really catches your attention can lead to more creativity, drawing can lead to ***ting, simple knitting can lead to more intricate patterns, it's the enjoyment you gain that's important

[Deleted Member]

I think, as a creative myself, that we are pretty creative in the kink department. In my two LTRs I was predominantly the one leading the exploration. Maybe not all creative people are kinky but most creatives think laterally. Meaning it isn't a one off idea that blossoms, it's a composition of ideas that develop into a scene or macro idea.

[Goddess_Ava__]

Nothing more important then your boh getting pleasure and playing safe!

[Deleted Member]

 I think it does entice one to be more creative and quick thinking yes :)

[su****]

I'm definitely more creative during times when I'm getting my kinky needs met. 

I see kink as recharging my batteries, which opens me up emotionally so I can create. 

I can't prove this, it's just a belief I have.