Facesitting vanilla or femdom?

[Bucharest]

Hello everyone,

I am a straight guy who does mostly vanilla sex and dont mind kinky stuff. My biggest fetish is facesitting since I am an ass guy. 

Do you think facesitting more of a femdom thing or part of vanilla sex? I mean I dont think any man would not appreciate a beautiful women ass on their faces  

I had my experiences and some ladies more playfully did smothering also it was spontaneous I loved it. 

I would like to get your opinions about the topic.

Thanks,

Bucharest 

[H4****]

I think you might be getting too much into the categorisation of the act. Face sitting isn’t inherently a Femdom act. If you’re doing it because you enjoy being overpowered/humiliated/objectified by a woman then yes, I’d say it’s a “Femdom act”. If you’re doing it because you just enjoy the act of giving oral/want the woman to feel powerful, I’d argue it isn’t Femdom related.

To sum up what I’m saying, your desire to partake in certain activities may be rooted in your desire to give some form of control of your life to a woman, but that doesn’t make the act inherently Femdom related. Even things like pegging or cuckolding aren’t inherently Femdom acts, although I’d make more of a case for them.

[ey****]

H4rdw0rker above sums this up really well.

I often feel one of the problems is there are guys who aren't really any shade of submissive but have one or two interests they perceive as being submissive 

and that can cause a lot of confusion.  And leads to a lot of failed and rebuked approaches. 

 

[Ky****]

as to whether its a Fem Domme thing surely depends on the twp ppl involved, if she is Domme and its part of the roleplay dynamic with you being sub then it is, if it isn't then its not, why worry about labels doing so prevents a lot of fun

[Deleted Member]

7 hours ago, H4rdW0rker said:

I think you might be getting too much into the categorisation of the act. Face sitting isn’t inherently a Femdom act. If you’re doing it because you enjoy being overpowered/humiliated/objectified by a woman then yes, I’d say it’s a “Femdom act”. If you’re doing it because you just enjoy the act of giving oral/want the woman to feel powerful, I’d argue it isn’t Femdom related.

To sum up what I’m saying, your desire to partake in certain activities may be rooted in your desire to give some form of control of your life to a woman, but that doesn’t make the act inherently Femdom related. Even things like pegging or cuckolding aren’t inherently Femdom acts, although I’d make more of a case for them.

Perfect response 

[Deleted Member]

Any sex act can be part of vanilla sex or femdom sex. Anal, oral, PIV, handjobs, et al. Dildi included. What makes them one or the other is the context. Heck, I knew a couple that had a really sturdy sex swing in the bedroom. They didn't do BDSM, it just helped facilitate sex as one partner was considerably larger than the other. 

[Bucharest]

10 hours ago, H4rdW0rker said:

I think you might be getting too much into the categorisation of the act. Face sitting isn’t inherently a Femdom act. If you’re doing it because you enjoy being overpowered/humiliated/objectified by a woman then yes, I’d say it’s a “Femdom act”. If you’re doing it because you just enjoy the act of giving oral/want the woman to feel powerful, I’d argue it isn’t Femdom related.

To sum up what I’m saying, your desire to partake in certain activities may be rooted in your desire to give some form of control of your life to a woman, but that doesn’t make the act inherently Femdom related. Even things like pegging or cuckolding aren’t inherently Femdom acts, although I’d make more of a case for them.

Thank you for your reply. I dont mind being femdom or vanilla I dont intend to categorize either way I enjoy this and thats what imprortant to me.  

[Bucharest]

7 hours ago, Kymi said:

as to whether its a Fem Domme thing surely depends on the twp ppl involved, if she is Domme and its part of the roleplay dynamic with you being sub then it is, if it isn't then its not, why worry about labels doing so prevents a lot of fun

I agree, even vanilla sex with the right attitude could be domination. Nothing prevents my fun though I tried many things I dont care about the labels. 

[Bucharest]

30 minutes ago, BroodyJudy said:

Any sex act can be part of vanilla sex or femdom sex. Anal, oral, PIV, handjobs, et al. Dildi included. What makes them one or the other is the context. Heck, I knew a couple that had a really sturdy sex swing in the bedroom. They didn't do BDSM, it just helped facilitate sex as one partner was considerably larger than the other. 

Thanks for your input, I like trying both anyway. 

[Texxxasstyle]

Who cares? I love it.

[Bucharest]

12 hours ago, Texxxasstyle said:

Who cares? I love it.

Exactly! 

[Lenka896]

Huh, I had a discussion with my girlfriend just the other day about this. She mentioned sitting her ass down for a while (we had been out walkimg for a few hours), and i joked and told her where i'd love her to sit. She was shocked and said "I COULD NEVER DO THAT TO YOU!!" Now, i LOVE rimming my girlfriend. It's ome of those acts that giving is WAY more of a turn on than receiving for me. She knows this. But, in her mind "sitting" on my face is ***d, done to humiliate a person, done against their will, etc. I guess it depends on a lot of factors in the end. The intent? The scene or mood? Are roles being played? Is it done ***fully? Could be a 100 things. For my partner it boiled down mainly to what she had seen in porn, which made it very one sided as she like to watch F/F BDSM type stuff. For her it seemed like a humiliating punishment. For me, a fantastic treat. I guess the intent is the one that determines it for me.

[Miss_Sarina]

It all depends on how it is done, I have never done outside a Ds context.