Munch Notes/Agenda - DD/lg -CG/l - 20th May 2021

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Munch Notes – DDLG/CGL- 20th May 2021

Hosts- - Thebian & Sara-secrets

Content Contributors- @LittleOne @PixieDust @lil-monster @Thebian @Sara-Secrets

 

Thank you everyone for being so kind as to be with us today, we appreciate your company and your time today to discuss the subject of DDLG/CGL.

 

First a little admin. So, bear with us here.

                                          *Trigger Warning*     

This discussion will include references of consenting adults portraying childlike behaviours both in a sexual context and in a non-sexual context.

 

If this may trigger you, please leave now as it is not our intention to cause *** but to bring enlightenment through a sharing of views.

 

·        All topics covered here are taking place between consenting adults.

·        We will try to approach any area of the DDLG/CGL lifestyle, that we might not personally enjoy in this way.

“Your kink is not my kink, but that is okay.”

·        This discussion will provide a safe space for all points of view.

For the purposes of today’s discussion, we will be using the term CG/L community, as a gender-neutral and inclusive term for our community.

Thank you all for reading the boring bits 😊

 

1.       What different roles and sub-types might be included in a CG/L dynamic?

·        Daddy Dom

·         

·        Mommy Domme

·        Baby boy

·        Baby girl

·        Little boy

·        Little girl

·        Middle

·        Tweens

 

2.     Just in your opinion, what sort of age would you put at the various types of little? (Even Thebian and Sara got different answers here, so just throw them out there.)

·        Baby rough age?

·        Little rough age?

·        Middle rough age?

·        Tween rough age?

 

3.      As I am sure we all know, there are many ways that Littles experience their little space. It is an incredibly personal experience and every littles opinion of that is valid.

Here we would like you all to help us better understand how we all think of these terms.

·        What is your little space like?

·        What words/feelings does it suggest to you?

•         Place of Joy

•         Place of Freedom

•         Exploration and wonder

•         Playful, abandon

•         Place of Escape

•         Sexual Freedom and exploration

 

 

4.       What are the differences and the similarities between subspace and little space?

This one is different for everyone of course, there are no right or wrong answers here, more an exchange of views.

·        Alternative headspace.

 

 

 

5.     How important is After care in a CG/l dynamic? / Does the CG/l community have casual partners?

·        Similar aftercare as that of a sub

·        More of a nurturing element

·        Continuity

·        Importance of positive rein***ment

 

6.      What makes a good Daddy/ Mommy Dom/me or Caregiver? What are the key factors?

 

·        How does Daddy/Mommy space differ from Dom/me space?

·        Good communication skills, Active listening / Conflict resolution

·        Patience.

·        Trustworthy

·        The ability to care for yourself, so you can care for others. (Maybe a bit Old School there.)

·        A caring personality type, you must be a giver not just a taker.

 

7.     For clarity let look at a couple terms used within the community that can cause some confusion to arise at times:

 

Voluntary age regression- (littles) reverts to a child-like state of mind.

*Their adult mind is with them. *

 

Clinical (involuntary)age regression- When someone regresses, they will feel, behave, and think just like the age they have regressed to.

*Their adult mind is not present. *

 

How do you see these definitions, and do they relate to you?

·        Involuntary regression can cause the regressor to lose track of time.

·        Involuntary regression can also affect memory retention.

·        Voluntary regression can possibly provide a simpler more peaceful place because of high stress or anxiety.

·        Voluntary can help connect you to your inner child.

 

 

8.       Age play is a form of roleplaying in which an individual acts or treats

another as if they were a different age.

*Age play is role playing between adults*

How do we think age play differs from regression? What does Age play mean to you all?

 

·        Age play can involve props but does not have to.

·        Whether you are acting younger or treating someone else as if they are younger, you are both Age Playing.

·        In age play we are “pretending”, in regression the involuntarily regressed person is not pretending they are psychologically that younger age.

 

 

9.     Can littles just switch off their little space, in an emergency etc? Or do you find residual bits of little still clinging to your adult if that occurs? How does that work for you?

·        Change in tone of voice / style of s***ch.

·        Little side riding you when adulting.

·        Change in reactions.

·        Increased potential for drop

 

 

10.      What are some of the stereotypes that we face in the CG/l community?

·        Childish and needs to grow up. (little)

·        Selfish

·        Condones paedophilia.

·        Father/ Mother issues

·        Uneducated or unintelligent

 

11.     Do others in the community feel that we push our kink onto others?

·        Talk babyish.

·        Bratty. (Yay, for Brats, like there is anything wrong with that )

·        Pushing play styles and self-comfort without consent.

 

12.     Why do we tend to get kink shamed?

·        Told we are living our lifestyle wrongly.

·        That we should not have a sexual relationship.

·        We should only play a certain way.

·        That the CG/l dynamic is not valid in BDSM.

 

13.     How can disciplining differ in a CG/l dynamic?  What are some things that can break a CG/l dynamic regarding disciplining?

·        Being left alone.

·        Telling a little that they are bad.

·        Telling a little to them to grow up.

 

14.      What is the difference between Adult baby play and diaper play?

I have not been in this sort of dynamic and we do not want to exclude this community here.

 

15.     Possibly the most controversial area of the CG/l dynamic is the area of sex. Views on this differ widely in our own community.

I know my personal view is very dependant on how I feel on a relationship-by-relationship basis.

All cards on the table here Sara and mines CG/l dynamic is most definitely sexual.

So, what are your thoughts on sex, and CG/l dynamics?

Has this discussion helped with the understanding of how CG/l and consent works in this context?

 

 

 

So that should be a wrap, the last question may provide a larger talking point.

 

 

 

 

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Thanks for taking the time to write and share this with everyone here, personally I found some insight and better appreciation on area I have reserved judgment on and little knowledge of.

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On 5/23/2021 at 8:26 AM, ptwxs said:

Thanks for taking the time to write and share this with everyone here, personally I found some insight and better appreciation on area I have reserved judgment on and little knowledge of.

Always a pleasure @ptwxs I am glad that it was able to shine a little light into a few of the corners of the subject.  Glad you enjoyed it my friend.