A Moral Dilemma

[co****]

Op you did right in my opinion, to lies do nothing g but hurt people, i struggle to see why people want to be apart of it once they know and many do. Speaking from experience, it's the kids that lose out in the end. Fun and kinky lifestyle does not Trump morals and responsibilities in my eyes

[St****]

I get dirty and kinky and all but cheating and stuff can be a totally different story. Imma have to pass on that bc I wouldn’t want to be in that situation to begin with

[Jo****]

You were honest about your feelings, that’s always the right thing to do.

[Pa****]

I have just been catching up with the most recent comments. I would just like to address a couple of points raised by others. I did not judge her. In fact I was sympathetic of her situation. She loved her husband but felt a huge void in her life and needed to find solace. My concern was the long term damage this might do to her and family. I didn't want that on my conscience even though I liked her a LOT. The message I sent her was as diplomatic as I could make it. I spent a lot of the message telling her why I liked her so much (I even gave examples) and that this was not an easy decision. I said that I was happy to chat "socially" with her if she ever felt the need. I was not blocking her. No one likes to be rejected which is what happened here . Some of us handle it better (at least outwardly) than others. I didn't enjoy ending it and I was torn about doing this.

[St****]

1 hour ago, DaddyJoe said:

You were honest about your feelings, that’s always the right thing to do.

Yea Mybad I explained that wrong @paraphilias you did the right thing

[Ki****]

I have a strict no married men policy because of situations like this. I’ve been on the other side of it with a cheating husband - it’s devastating and does so much damage (kids included). I’ve also been on her side of things and married to someone who was uninterested in sex so I sympathise with her but ultimately you have to make the right choice and either walk away first (which I did) or accept the situation you’re in. Going down the road she wanted to will end up with everybody hurt and no winners. You were right to approach it the way you did, I’d have done the same thing.

[Si****]

My pennies worth.

I would only play with people who are open and honest. If I get any indication they are not being honest and open, then play stops until things get cleared up.

I will stay a friend and chat, help, and support. (Unless they then take me for a fool, then the relationship ends completely)

if someone can’t be honest with their partners in life, how can I be confident they are being honest with me ( their bit on the side/ dirty little secret) 

I would play with someone who is in a relationship with someone else but I would want to confirm with them personally before anything happened. If nothing else other than protecting myself from being something cheap and second rate. If I’m in a relationship with someone, I’m more than a disposable pleasure thing.

if what she was doing was not sitting right with you, then you did the right thing and ended it. For your own sense of the right thing to do. Live with it. She has the energy to play away, she has the energy to fix her relationship. As long as you were polite, kind and honest, then she should respect your feelings on the matter. Perhaps ( I would like to think) she realised what she risking with her family, and decided to delete her profile to focus on them. If so, good for her. 
This is just my opinion, right or wrong, it’s not open to being argued with but taken as it is, just an opinion.