Does your BDSM thoughts take over your life

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I have been active in the BDSM lifestyle since about 1998, back then I didn't know what was in my head and I thought there was something wrong with me , from then up until now as I am writing this I have been on a journey of discovery and learning , there came a point a few years ago when I realised my place in this life and since then I have accepted who I am and embraced it , but as I get older I feel like that side of me has totally taken over my thought process and I find it more and more difficult to operate in a vanilla world , it may he due to the fact that I have been without a girl 24/7 for about 9 years so I don't have that release where I can come home and be the real me with my girl .
I would love to read the thoughts of people from all areas of the lifestyle to see if I'm not the only one who feels like this .

Raven .

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Nope. I separate it for a good reason or two actually. 
A Dom should be in control of his life and emotions. If he can’t then how can a sub feel safe or trust him in his hand? 

[ey****]

kink is an important part of my life - but - yep, it's important to also keep control to stop it taking over.  For boundaries. 

[LatexThing]

I had to develop certain distractions well over 3 decades ago to keep my thoughts from overwhelming me....and they did, until I learnt self discipline.

It started with my fetish at an early age then rapidly developed into BDSM too, so had to be curbed for my sanity really and just to operate in a "Vanilla" world.

The upside to this self discipline is that I've used that fire to engage in many different ways to improve my skills and mindset and in selection feel that keeping control has made me a better person for it.

So, the simple tip is - keep a lid on it