New to BDSM

[Deleted Member]

Hi guys!

Just wanted to start with mentioning that English isn't my first language so I'll hope you will all be able to understand me.
Anyhow, I just started with being more comfortable with the whole BDSM idea and I've had some experiences in the last few weeks with my partner. But I was wondering which things I could try that are a bit more extreme than the main things you can online etc.

After my experiences I noticed that I like to experience a lot of *** during BDSM but the most things you can online are very soft. Like those whips are just not giving much of a impact on your body afterwards and that's such a shame. But because I'm new to this I would like to learn more! Maybe I can use them different or there are different things I could try. It's all about letting your body getting used to it in my experience and I'm ready to build a higher tolerance.

Thank you so much!

[Ch****]

I think there is nothing like the real face to face thing.

[Deleted Member]

Hello. Is your partner interested in going further with impact play? Because they would have to be comfortable with that to deliver your ***. Not everyone is. If you've tried whips, have you moved onto canes, a riding crop, wooden paddles?

[ey****]

I lot of implements that can be used soft - can also be used hard.

But, for most *** in impact you want smaller surface area.  Something like a single tail whip - especially with a narrow tip.

If you have high heels that hurt anyway (sometimes a size that is slightly too small...) that can cause a lot of ***, and also things like drawing pins... or, for something less savage but still ***ful, rice - can be placed inside the shoes.

You can heighten the *** experience by limiting other senses, for example noise cancellation headphones (the ones workmen use are ideal) hood/blindfold.  

Anything that tenses the body can add to the *** - this could include being suspended, placed on a rack, tied and stretched... weights added... electric added... stress positions ?

Sometimes it's not about the toys on their own....