Sex at the end of the game?

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On 7/16/2021 at 4:31 PM, Velvet_Ice said:

I do think its important to have everything laid out on what's expected, I never gave it much thought that sex possibly wouldn't be on the cards and I would feel a little gutted tbf

so you mean you thought sex can be part of the game? Basically not necessarily for me, but I think it could be a great part of the BDSM experience. I know that in some cases, even in personal experience, it's happening that some additional elements come into the game, sometimes even love

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On 7/16/2021 at 7:17 PM, JenniferTP said:

This is an interesting topic. 

 

For me I think I could/would only have sex with someone during or after play if I was emotionally linked and/or in a relationship with them.

I am by no means afraid to reject sex if someone expects it but with someone I share my entirety with, yes I like the sex element, but it's not essential to have a good play experience.

If I had a play partner I wasn't emotionally connected with then sex would not be an option for me, but that would be discussed beforehand. The only way this would change is if I liked and trusted that person enough and also opened myself up to a FWB status, (which I currently do not do). 

If not discussed before any play session I can agree some people may not realise it won't lead to this, or feel that person isn't attracted to them entirely but a bit of reassurance with the communication would be able to help that.

That is another interesting answer. I agreed agreed with everything you said

[Mz****]

I've enjoyed reading all the differing points of view..in fact it's helped me understand why I get so many "A real Domme doesn't want sex" jibes.

For me..I kinda compartmentalise, I see myself not as just one thing..I'm also a Sensual Sadist and a Mistress, as well as a Domme, and of course a woman..each of these 'compartments' have differing needs..which is just one reason I lean towards FLRs so All of my needs can be addressed by one person.

The more Domme and Sadist needs rarely involve sex, certainly not penetrative, but the Mistress and woman that I am need it, it's one way I enjoy intimacy on a different level, and bond more informally I suppose, and again, part of why I rarely play casually, for me I need a strong connection for intimacy, though there were many years when that wasn't the case..whether my needs have evolved, or I've just got older and less inclined I can't say.

 

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On 7/19/2021 at 3:06 PM, MzJax said:

I've enjoyed reading all the differing points of view..in fact it's helped me understand why I get so many "A real Domme doesn't want sex" jibes.

For me..I kinda compartmentalise, I see myself not as just one thing..I'm also a Sensual Sadist and a Mistress, as well as a Domme, and of course a woman..each of these 'compartments' have differing needs..which is just one reason I lean towards FLRs so All of my needs can be addressed by one person.

The more Domme and Sadist needs rarely involve sex, certainly not penetrative, but the Mistress and woman that I am need it, it's one way I enjoy intimacy on a different level, and bond more informally I suppose, and again, part of why I rarely play casually, for me I need a strong connection for intimacy, though there were many years when that wasn't the case..whether my needs have evolved, or I've just got older and less inclined I can't say.

 

I understand, of course your point of view is from a Dom and I can understand it is harder to imagine to be involved in sex. In my case as a man I think it is another way to feel and live my experiences