New to being a switch

[Eb****]

I am very new to the lifestyle . I like being a Dom because of the power it gives me ...but being a sub warms me from the inside out. I have a sub that I want to dominate....but I don’t really know where to start...HELP PLZ! Lol

[Deleted Member]

Well I’d probably start with the stuff you like as a sub and go from there

[Deleted Member]

Communication is key find out what your sub likes and try it out then once you’re comfortable add your own spice but always ask first

[ey****]

There's 2 good start points

1) Is with yourself

What do you like to do as a Dominant, or think you would like to do as a Dominant - be this in specific 'play' or activities - or - in a general dynamic

2) Is with your sub

Talk to them. What do they like? Either in specific 'play' or activities - or - in a general dynamic?

 

So. If your sub is like "I like the ideas of x, y and z" - and you don't - this isn't going to work

But if your sub is like "I like a, b and c" - and maybe a is something you already like, b is something you'd try but maybe need more direction or support with - but c is a no no - there's at least a basis to work with.

 

[sm****]

For me it’s the poeple if they are mean rough and can take care of me I’ll go into sub space but if they act like a sub I end up being more of a dom. Hope this helps