When it goes right ❤️

[Deleted Member]

I joined Fet last year. I was brand new and naive but I thought/hoped I just might be a sub. As women (I imagine without exception) on here will testify, joining up is like walking into a bear pit. Some of the bears may be cute and cuddly and some are venerable and wise old grizzlies, but the vast majority of the ones that make contact in those first mad weeks and months are unsubtle sex-hunters and a few come across as sex-starved, barely sane, drooling, crazy bears.

I got told what I was. I got told what I wasn’t. I got told what I should be. It took me a while to grow the necessary extra layer of assertiveness (because that’s what a new sub should expect to need, right?) and to learn enough to decide for myself what I was and what I ***y well wanted to be.

During this time, I got a message from a man looking for a sub. At the time, someone had just convinced me I couldn’t possibly BE a sub because I didn’t seem submissive. So I told this man I thought I was maybe a switch instead and as that wasn’t what he was looking for, we didn’t stay in touch. Apart from, every now and then I would catch him looking at me. And I would look back. And he would look at me… We didn’t message again, but I thought he was kind of cute …

A couple of months on and I had a better idea of what I wanted. I’d realised that no one knew what I was or what I could be except me and I’d realised that, just because I wasn’t submissive to many people didn’t mean I couldn’t be submissive to the right man. Then I happened to be looking back through and deleting old messages and I came across my conversation with that man and it made me smile how much my outlook had changed, so I messaged him to say so.

We started chatting again at the end of January, met at the end of May and have been very happily dating ever since. 

Why am I telling you all this? Partly to give hope to those still in the bear pit, partly to say don’t let people decide for you who you are, partly to say, if you want this, stick at it because, in amongst all the weirdos there are gems, and partly because I’m so f*cking happy I want to tell everybody 🥰

And there’s the discovery of the side of BDSM that I wasn’t prepared for.

My Sir is wonderful. Our relationship is one of friendship, love, exquisite tender intimacy and BDSM. He is kind, quiet, patient and firm. He knows what he wants but is in no rush to push me to get there. He makes me feel like the most cherished woman alive. He makes me want to serve him with every atom of my being because he dominates with love. He is slowly, tenderly (or not 😈) leading me to discover myself more fully and to learn what I am capable of. By accepting his instructions, I am learning to trust and relax and love like never before. By loving and nurturing me he is showing me how to love myself better. The realisation of this last one had me in tears this morning. 
 

I wish everyone could feel like I do today ❤️

[Al****]

Wow, this was beautiful (and a little sad) to read. I don’t know you, but I’m so happy for you both. I wish you both the best, and envy your relationship. Thank you for sharing :)

[Deleted Member]

Good luck to you both glad to read a genuine story on here I wish you all the best, Reading this gives me hope so fingers crossed for me lol

[Deviant_Ric]

This just resonates so deeply. I am so very pleased you stuck with it, grew an additional layer of resilience, and sought what you want and need; the bear pit is sadly littered with much naivety.
Your life, your happiness, your pleasure; your choice.
Enjoy everything a genuine connection can bring you 🥰

[Mike_22]

This is a lovely story and one day I hope to be as lucky as you 😊

[Deleted Member]

What a Great Story, I for one want to congratulate you. This story should give hope to people on here that are undecided and waking into bear traps. There are too many fake Doms that don’t really understand this lifestyle. I am happy you found your Dom. Thank you for sharing your story..

[Deleted Member]

How absolutely wonderful! Thank you for posting this - I do remember you posting and I certainly relate to much of what you say. Delighted for you 🤗

[we****]

This is beautiful, I am currently being mauled by a lot of bears and wondering if there is any point. Could we talk, perhaps?

[we****]

Don’t allow other people to define anything for you. As Paulo Freire says, you reserve for yourself your right to “name the world” ….

[Ar****]

Reading this has brought a smile to my lips and tear to my eye. Very happy for you, thank you for sharing a wonderful and positive, encouraging story at a time when too many people need to hear one.

[Maverick-86]

Very happy for you, gives me hope for the future

[Wo****]

Wonderful to read this... so happy for you. Blessed be 🙏❤

[Wi****]

32 minutes ago, BountyHunter said:

Wonderful to read this... so happy for you. Blessed be 🙏❤

I resonate so much with her story and I to have found a gem 💎💓 in Bounty❤❤❤🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

Sadly, we are not in a Disney movie and everything good has an end. But it doesn’t matter, enjoy the moment!

[Deleted Member]

Reading this made me really happy 😃 You're right, it is a beat pit at first, and a steep learning curve navigating your way through all those fools who want to tell you what and how to be. Loving your happy ending x

[Deleted Member]

Thank you all so much for your comments and congratulations. I’m glad my post has given a little hope to some of you. Reading about successful couples on here helped keep me going when I was getting fed up of the slavering jerkoffs who kept contacting me.

All the best to you all, even you @hko 😘

[Deleted Member]

7 hours ago, weaslekit said:

This is beautiful, I am currently being mauled by a lot of bears and wondering if there is any point. Could we talk, perhaps?

Thank you, Weaslekit. Sorry to hear that. I’m happy to chat x

[li****]

I loved reading this!!!! So good to hear stories of dynamics/relationships that are like this, and goes to show that there is good in what we do within this lifestyle. Reminds me so much of my dynamic with my Sir @Liam52 so happy that you've found each other. 

3 hours ago, hko said:

Sadly, we are not in a Disney movie and everything good has an end. But it doesn’t matter, enjoy the moment!

And hate to burst your bubble but me and my Dom have been together nearly three years now soooooooooooo good things do happen and everything good doesn't have to have an end as long as you make it work 😃

[Deleted Member]

It’s so nice to hear about a Dom who understands how to A)actually be a Dom and B someone who cares for their partner as much as their dynamic. Brilliant. absolutely f****** delighted for both of you! Wish you all the best 👍😉🥰 dark x

[Deleted Member]

This gives me hope and I really love this…I hope to find someone who really what’s to expand their sexuality and the world of kink together!

[Psuedom]

Absolutely brilliant to hear. 

👍🥳

[Th****]

Beautiful to read your truth here Lock, isn't it odd how those little things you say ages back can be the start of something amazing further down the line.

I think Sara and I will be going on for a year together soon. I never imagined that would be the case when we bantered in the lobby.

So truly heart warming things definitely happen and I thank you for reminding me of that.

I wish you every happiness for the future.

[Ar****]

Loved reading this. After hearing how bad the pandemic has been for everyone, I am very happy to hear that at least two people enjoyed it.

Best wishes.

[Deleted Member]

Great story

[Leisa]

5 hours ago, Thebian said:

Beautiful to read your truth here Lock, isn't it odd how those little things you say ages back can be the start of something amazing further down the line.

I think Sara and I will be going on for a year together soon. I never imagined that would be the case when we bantered in the lobby.

So truly heart warming things definitely happen and I thank you for reminding me of that.

I wish you every happiness for the future.

They truly do. You and Sara were made for each other. My love and appreciation to both of you.