Safety and etiquette

[PilloughPrintzcess]

      So this is my first time doing this so I'll just get to the point. I just had my 2nd session with an established and well respected Boston area. domme. Near the end of the session she put a small butt plug in me and followed with some fairly light  caning and a ***. Long story short my head space was  such that at the end of the session I forgot that I had the butt plug in me and apparently so did she.  I was half way home before I realize that the butt plug might still be in me, which as it turned out it was  I emailed the domme expecting  to get some   kind of apology.  Instead she replied that she found it amusing that I hadn't noticed it sooner and that she expected that I would I have asked her to remove it. So I have two\questions. I'm sure that forgetting that you have a butt plug in you is some what unusual,  but I can't be the only person that this has ever happened ulto. As I said it was a small butt plug and it wasn't uncomfortable. Secondly, even though I forgot, the domme forgot too.  Shouldn't she take some responsibility and accountability for having left in since she put it in the first place and since she's obviously in control.

[Deleted Member]

Maybe it was a test for you so that you have to return to mistress to return the buttplug and receive punishment for keeping the buttplug

[ey****]

It probably was an accident - but, to be honest - leaving with a butt plug in probably isn't a massive issue.

I think we can file this a little bit under, "sometimes Domme's make mistakes" - if similar happened to me I would see it as something we could both laugh about rather than me needing any form of apology.

[ge****]

Am not sure why any kind of apology in either direction is felt necessary, likewise the need to apportion accountability or responsibility - personally I'd file this under "shit happens" and laugh about it rather than make any kind of "thing" out of it

[Leisa]

She sounds human with human frailties. It happens. Isn’t it just as much your responsibility to ensure it’s removed? Sorry, doesn’t sound like a big deal.

[Deleted Member]

I don't quite get the issue. You both had an enjoyable scene and the butt plug slipped your minds. Keep it as momento of a fun time. I don't really get why you think the Domme should be apologizing?

[Deleted Member]

It seems you couldn't sense the but plug so it wasn't giving you any discomfort after you left. If she had ***d you to keep it in or you were uncomfortable you might have a point. You didn't have a big strap-on attached to your head. No embarrassment, no foul, no penalty. First down 🤪