Safety

[Deleted Member]

Over the past period, many articles have been added to the forum on fraud, communication, border crossing, and other security-related issues. Safety is undeniably paramount in BDSM, and safety starts here on the internet. Self-reflection, what do you do about prevention? Contact details such as KIK, Snap, Telegram are not allowed in the profile, and are a red flag. Who reports this when they stumble upon a profile with contact details? Contribute to the safety of yourself and others by reporting this *** so that a potential scammer is ***d to verify themselves, or leave it to someone else. Language use and pressure. Also a theme that has been written about recently, and which is related to safety. Also inappropriate language and pressure is not only illegal within the BDM but also against the rules of this app. Of course you can block, and maybe add something to the forum. A better solution, if you think about it, is a notification. In this way, the offender is neutralized and your co-coincider is also protected. Another red flag is the fellow users trying to get your *** into their pocket, the scammers. What do you do when it happens to you? Just block or report so that this pirate is removed from the site and cannot cause further victims. I will not continue this list with examples, and assume it is clear. Drawing attention to it by writing about it is a positive step, and contributes to awareness. Pointing out shortcomings in communication is mentoring and also contributes to safety. Acting decisively on red flags such as scammers, or contacting information in a profile or reporting a person whose first question is a request for contact information, is also contributing to the safety of another. I believe that everyone here bears responsibility for himself and his fellow members. We will have to keep it safe for each other.

[ey****]

So yep - there is a lot of things I personally do quietly. 

I always report profiles if there's contact info - or when they're using a photo of someone I know isn't them.   Ditto for the clear scam attempts.  I usually find a lot are acted on pretty quickly.  

I do however think it is important to not get too much into vigilante hunting.   There is a genuine problem of men accusing women of being fake when they're not interested - and being too pre-emptive without good reason does undermine things a little. 

[Ae****]

Ahhhhh!!! The responsibility bears are loose!!! 🐻🐻😋

[Deleted Member]

As much as I want people to network or find their, whatever they're looking for, a small percentage of people are going to ruin for everyone else. Thats how the internet works. Also I agree with eyemblacksheep, I report when things don't add up or when there is scam attempt, and that men, I see especially prevalent in the 24 and under crowd, that will report or accuse a woman of being fake because she lost intrest for whatever reason or he said something that was a deal breaker.