Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 4 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Im old school, you either fancy someone or you dont. Theyre either female or male end of... You are entitled to your opinion but please don’t make this your way or the high way. Everyone on here has a different take, by all means state how you feel but be nice and polite.
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 3 minutes ago, Glasgowguy1991 said: Absolutely not There is some truth to the previous statement, as we either do connect with someone or not. It is just that for some, the connection is a bit more complex than for others. We are all different and although labels helps in conveying the difference, they can only give an indication, not the full picture.
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said: There is some truth to the previous statement, as we either do connect with someone or not. It is just that for some, the connection is a bit more complex than for others. We are all different and although labels helps in conveying the difference, they can only give an indication, not the full picture. Completely agree on connecting to someone but not ‘fancy’. I don’t fancy my friends so I could build a connection with someone and end up not meshing well. But everyone has their own opinions / ideas which I appreciate hearing as long as it’s not a “my way is the only way” which that comment was. 😊
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 10 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Im old school, you either fancy someone or you dont. Theyre either female or male end of... I don't think the nuances of attraction are new, just the terminology.
ey**** Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 13 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Im old school, you either fancy someone or you dont. Theyre either female or male end of... But WHY do you fancy them? And this is simple in the terms that it might be physical attraction and physical attraction only - and that's fine. But you could have a friend, say, who you think is attractive but don't want to have sex with them. The concept of Demi Sexual is simple that attraction alone is not enough, that you also need an 'emotional connection' to want to have sex with them - it's probably a lot more common than thought.
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 3 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said: But WHY do you fancy them? And this is simple in the terms that it might be physical attraction and physical attraction only - and that's fine. But you could have a friend, say, who you think is attractive but don't want to have sex with them. The concept of Demi Sexual is simple that attraction alone is not enough, that you also need an 'emotional connection' to want to have sex with them - it's probably a lot more common than thought. So glad you responded to this & thank you for a simple yet spot on response (in my opinion) ☺️ 🙏🏼
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Glasgowguy1991, so your absolutely not comment means that theyre not male or female and you dont fancy them or you do lol. Hhhmmm not male or female then what are they??? Only God the almighty decides M or F. Its in the bible..
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Glasgowguy1991, so your absolutely not comment means that theyre not male or female and you dont fancy them or you do lol. Hhhmmm not male or female then what are they??? Only God the almighty decides M or F. Its in the bible.. Have you come on the thread to pick a fight? You don't seem to be adding anything. People are enjoying the discussion.
Glasgowdom1991 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 4 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Glasgowguy1991, so your absolutely not comment means that theyre not male or female and you dont fancy them or you do lol. Hhhmmm not male or female then what are they??? Only God the almighty decides M or F. Its in the bible.. If you go by what in the Bible then you must not ware clothes of two different fibers plant diffirent crops side by side You should sell you daughters in to slavery That *** can not occur during a marriage That you can't eat pork (yeah that's in the Bible ) Gender and sexualities is the Perfect example of infinite combinations
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 4 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Glasgowguy1991, so your absolutely not comment means that theyre not male or female and you dont fancy them or you do lol. Hhhmmm not male or female then what are they??? Only God the almighty decides M or F. Its in the bible.. While all views on this thread are welcome, my post clearly stated to be nice and don’t undermine people. If you continue you will be reported.
ey**** Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 3 minutes ago, Pr3tty_Little said: So glad you responded to this & thank you for a simple yet spot on response (in my opinion) ☺️ 🙏🏼 a couple of years ago (possibly longer) I stumbled upon a blog of terms for different sexualities which I found quite fascinating. I'd probably never be able to find it again - and some of it was a little too packed down into boxes : but : for me, terminologies or concepts aside a lot kinda did tie in, quite literally, to "why do we fancy somebody?" or rather the, "why do we want to have sex with THEM" other than "we find them attractive."
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 How can one pick a fight online.... As i first stated. Im old school i dont understand all these new identities. Pan this pan that. Bi this LGBTXYZ 123S. For me your either born male or Female and thats that. Too much political correctness. O course only my opinion to which im entitled too in a democratic society. Which we just about still have...
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said: a couple of years ago (possibly longer) I stumbled upon a blog of terms for different sexualities which I found quite fascinating. I'd probably never be able to find it again - and some of it was a little too packed down into boxes : but : for me, terminologies or concepts aside a lot kinda did tie in, quite literally, to "why do we fancy somebody?" or rather the, "why do we want to have sex with THEM" other than "we find them attractive." I still find this particular sexuality fascinating because there are so many views / takes on what it means to that individual, it’s lovely to find out some people feel the same and it’s interesting to see how it fits differently to others 😊
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 22 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said: There is some truth to the previous statement, as we either do connect with someone or not. It is just that for some, the connection is a bit more complex than for others. We are all different and although labels helps in conveying the difference, they can only give an indication, not the full picture. The words (or labels if you will) are not new. It's the label culture that makes them float up. A few years ago someone was attracted to another person or not. Nowadays there has to be a label on why someone is or is not attracted to another person. Example. About 30 years ago, a platonic couple could live happily together. In the present day, a happy platonic couple has to explain why they live happily platonic together. Now they want to know if they have a strong demisexual bond that allows them to live happily platonic together, or are both asexual. We are no longer satisfied with the way it is, everything needs a label.
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, FreeUrMind said: The words (or labels if you will) are not new. It's the label culture that makes them float up. A few years ago someone was attracted to another person or not. Nowadays there has to be a label on why someone is or is not attracted to another person. Example. About 30 years ago, a platonic couple could live happily together. In the present day, a happy platonic couple has to explain why they live happily platonic together. Now they want to know if they have a strong demisexual bond that allows them to live happily platonic together, or are both asexual. We are no longer satisfied with the way it is, everything needs a label. I do understand your take on absolutely everything needing a label and I do actually struggle to keep up with what means what when so many ‘labels’ intertwine with each other. 😊 Thank you for sharing.
Glasgowdom1991 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 4 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: How can one pick a fight online.... As i first stated. Im old school i dont understand all these new identities. Pan this pan that. Bi this LGBTXYZ 123S. For me your either born male or Female and thats that. Too much political correctness. O course only my opinion to which im entitled too in a democratic society. Which we just about still have... You do realize the idea of male female and straight or gay is actually fairly new and only came about in the 1870s as a way for the church to try re-establish it's place as the moral code en***ment of society in history there has long be a acceptance of multiple genders and sexualities and if my 70 year old aunt can figure all this out then anyone can I am old is not an excuse for not accepting simple truths
ey**** Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 5 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: O course only my opinion there's having an opinion - and there's simply, being, wrong....
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Please let’s not argue in the comments section? Try to keep things nice & not undermine each other 😊 If any disrespectful behaviour continues it will be reported. There’s a difference between voicing your opinion and becoming high and mighty about it. 🙏🏼
Glasgowdom1991 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Pr3tty_Little said: Please let’s not argue in the comments section? Try to keep things nice & not undermine each other 😊 If any disrespectful behaviour continues it will be reported. There’s a difference between voicing your opinion and becoming high and mighty about it. 🙏🏼 I apologize i got heated and I am just going to ignore he is trying to pick a fight but he won't get on today
FETMOD-KF Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 Just a little quick note. Our TOU prohibits views which may be considered bigoted towards groups, such as those within LGBTQIA+ Our forum is not the place to air toxic, and outdated, views. This isn't about "Political Correctness" but about doing the right thing.
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Glasgowguy1991 said: I apologize i got heated and I am just going to ignore he is trying to pick a fight but he won't get on today Not a problem, I understand heated discussions happen 😊 I just want any thread I create to be open to discussion, but politely 😁
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, FETMOD-KF said: Just a little quick note. Our TOU prohibits views which may be considered bigoted towards groups, such as those within LGBTQIA+ Our forum is not the place to air toxic, and outdated, views. This isn't about "Political Correctness" but about doing the right thing. Thank you 🙏🏼
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 (edited) 47 minutes ago, ShropshireDom66 said: Im old school, you either fancy someone or you dont. Theyre either female or male end of... Mate, I guess your comment was more concerning putting some emphasis on using too much terminology about two partners finding their way, which you chose to exemplify as heterosexual partners. I think the wording you have chosen might mislead others to assume you recognise only male and female genders, which is an outdated perspective given other recognised legitimate genders. Edited October 23, 2021 by Deleted Member the developments of the discussion proved me wrong
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Thank you to everyone who has commented their views in a polite and respectful manner. I’ve learnt more about how different people view this sexuality 😊 Please feel free to keep commenting but I will swiftly click on that ‘Report’ button for any further inappropriate behaviour, there’s no need for it. Thank you to the Fet Mod who has stepped in as well, I’m sorry you were required 🙏🏼
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 May I ask OP - how did you come to learn that you may be demi-sexual?
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