Not kink but vanilla

[Charms]

Iv seen a trend on tic toc of vanilla people calling there bf daddy. 

I was wondering if any 1 as a reason why guys like to be called daddy.

[Mo****]

Charms, if you look at the ages of the people concerned, then I think you will find the majority are young, normally under 25, and most of them are exploring their sexuality thinking BDSM is the place for that. They have totally the wrong idea of what this site or lifestyle is about. BDSM is far more than just sex, but those newbies can't see that, and so they use terms wrongly. Most don't even know that this lifestyle has dangers to it.

[TheBookCollector]

Being called daddy really doesnt do it for me.

As for tiktok,.it.maybe that they have a significantly older bf who is a more a sugar daddy.

You also have to consider cultural influences such as Harley Quinn who referes to Joker as Daddy.

So lots of reasons and very few have anything to do with BDSM.

[Deleted Member]

A lot will claim "daddy" is purely a BDSM title but someone saying they are a daddy or being called daddy is a power exchange, to create superiority & not just specific for BDSM/DDLG. Some people like that power exchange without actually being in to the BDSM dom/sub lifestyle.

As an example in the borstal/prison system some years back being the "daddy" meant you was top dog, the strongest, most superior, more powerful & smarter than the rest & commands respect. Another example is the head of a household often used to get called daddy by family members/relatives, even those they aren't actually the father too to show respect to the more senior member.

While all the use of daddy in non BDSM relationships can diminish what it truly means to be a daddy to a lil girl in BDSM, daddy is actually by no means owned or created by BDSM practitioners as that power exchange & use of daddy to show superiority/maturity over another has been there for many many years.

[Je****]

Unpopular opinion but I absolutely hate the term "Daddy".  I will never ever use it as any form of age play is not for me. I associate Daddy with my own father and my kids dad, so I personally couldn't ever use it in any kind of kink setting. 

However I can sort of know what you mean about non-kink people using "daddy" and wondering why?! Well back home I have always heard the "hard lads in town" shouting the 'who's your daddy' or 'come to daddy' when jesting and jeering at women in the street, thinking that it gives them some sort of authority or big man persona. All these factored in, I just don't get it. I think some of these people assume it makes them more desirable, and mature sounding, even though some of them have ranged from anywhere in early *** years to mid 20s. I am not surprised it's being thrown around on tic toc though, I don't watch it but I don't like the trends associated with it, so that is my 2 cents lol 

[Mr_larkin]

As a father I really don't like it.

[Deleted Member]

I love it. It suggests authority like Sir. But also , naturally, sounds wrong, taboo, naughty, forbidden. But you're not thinking about sex with a relative. You're just thinking about doing something extremely pleasurable, with someone who worships you and wants to be owned by you. Someone who wants to, as an adult, portray innocence, need for a strong character, and submission. It's a power dynamic with a dash of societal gasp. If you're unable to use words in alternate ways other than the literal, I think it suggests you're lacking imagination.

[Deleted Member]

Also. Is this a comment thread designed to discuss a kink topic or kink shame it?

[Deleted Member]

Enough toxic nonsense. Back to Fetlife.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Deleted profile said:

Enough toxic nonsense. Back to Fetlife.

sounds like a contradiction, but OK

[Deleted Member]

Dunno about tic tok as I dont use it.....but the name Daddy when used in play sparks something very primal within. It's something I've mulled without a clear answer, as I dont so age play etc. A contradiction maybe, but one that's very real non the less.

[ey****]

I think in recent years 'Daddy' has had a lot more mainstream acceptance, and increasing popularity in straight circles.

It possibly has also bled into vanilla relationships but that's something that is often common when something gains acceptance - it doesn't actually mean that these people are botching kink or anything, just using a  honorific in their relationship.

Within kink - some find Sir or Master too cold or formal - whereas Daddy is often one with more warmth or familiarity.   So, similarly, a 'Daddy Dom' or 'Daddy Kink' isn't necessarily linked to any form of age gap or age play.

My conflict a little in between the general way some things in the mainstream gain acceptance when there is so much that does not.   Also of course being mindful that from a kink perspective Daddy largely comes from Leather Families and Leather Daddys which is a big part of gay culture - where it was like 'adopted' families by many who'd been shunned from their family or community for their sexuality.