Can one munch at home?

[Deleted Member]

If there is a lack of munchable places for us to get together, in and around where one lives, one could organise a munch club at ones home. If one did, how could one let members know? There are problems in limited space, too many individuals, who can you trust...for anything like that to work?  Anything organised along that line should only be ' Advertised ' through a reputable website like this!  Is that a possibility?  It could be a wicked gateway for like minded members to meet. Any thoughts..is it a good idea? It also solves a lot of problems..such as what do I wear. I cannot imagine there are many places where one could get together for munchies without most probably being asked to leave..!  Esp if you were to dressed to ..well you know..Cassie

[BigPolly]

Munches are just social gatherings so you could always hold it at your local pub/cafe if there isn’t already one by you, rather than at your home. The owners of the place where you meet doesn’t need to know what your social group is meeting for & people wear civvies so you’d just look like a bunch of everyday-folk. Equally if you met in at someone’s home it’d only be like a group of friends meeting for coffee. Not sure being in someone’s home is as relaxing as a cafe or pub.

[ey****]

you could hold one in your house - if you don't mind giving your address away to strangers....

If you're based in Croydon there's not a shortage of things locally.  I was down in Croydon last year for a packed fetish club (Subversion) and also having been there know that it's, what, 15-20 minutes from London which has more events, workshops, munches, ***r groups, etc. than you can shake a stick at.

Look up club DV8 - they run a club a munch and a workshop with a bias towards newbies.

[Deleted Member]

Hi...You have mentioned one thing that I think would be a worry for anyone...giving ones address away to strangers...the idea of munchies , not giving a shit about what people think when you turn up in what makes you happy..is that an option we should have to sacrifice or forgo.. just because we want to meet for a chit chat etc...jam on toast....and a coffee...preferably...Apricot jam...You know what...this lack of acceptance..  is really beginning to *** me off.!...really..As soon as you cross the boundaries of what is acceptable...fuck that, that is bullshit...what I mean is that as soon as one crosses the boundaries that one has been taught as acceptable...Straying from the norm..whether in appearance or in opinion is deemed to be a threat to the rest of society..are we really a threat....what about nuclear weapons....the pursuit of profit by companies who do not even consider the moral or social consequences of their greed...are we really that bad when compared to these self serving profiteering profit comes first companies..or political parties..!...I have not had anything to drink tonight ...but I feel like waging a political war...Munchies should not be about meeting for  a coffee ...chit chat...buttered toast etc...presenting an image of who you are not..it is about being yourself...and then enjoying buttered toast etc...and chit chat...sorry , but this has got to me...Love you all Cassie

[BigPolly]

I’m confused by your rant as that is ‘exactly’ what a munch is. A Munch is an American term for a social meeting somewhere for a drink & a bite to eat & a chat, it was later adopted by the bdsm world. It’s not a case of hiding who you are it’s simply a social event for like minded people in a vanilla setting. This suits some people to ease them into other settings & help meet friends. If you want a more extreme & fun setting then there’s parties & clubs. No one is hiding anything away it’s just a case of finding the right kind of social event for you

[Deleted Member]

I'm confused too! A munch is a place where like minded people can hang out and talk about whatever they want without the *** of being judged at all by others. If you're annoyed that you can't dress as you would perhaps like to, then as stated by others, go to parties or clubs where you can.....or....stuff what other people think and wear what you want to day to day....there are plenty of people who do.

[Tw****]

Just to reiterate what has already been said a munch is just an event where you can meet others in a vanilla setting with people who are similar in a lot of respects. Generally when meeting in a pub people will be dressed in a vanilla style but the conversation may well (probably) include non-vanilla topics.

 

There is an abundance of munches and events in London and the surrounding areas you could also look at fetLife and this will also indicate the dress style expected and the interest area. I'm sure there is one that suits you.

 

 

[Deleted Member]

As usual  , I did not explain clearly what I meant..sorry...it is just that...although what I was involved with until recently..I never got further than thinking about how I would like to lead my life....I am now at a stage where I can explore and enjoy what I love..Having kinky friends on line and contacts through what I did..is really wonderful...I have never been to a fetish club , do not know anyone who is involved in this scene , so I am so scared of going anywhere on my own...A munch club / meeting is really appealing..I do not have a problem getting there...local would be perfect...it is walking through that door and overcoming my  nervousness .It is also knowing that whoever is there also knows why I am there...I just thought that a get together at home might be a way of getting to know like minded members..I also have a specialist bit of medical kit to cope with the side effects of medication I was on for a heart related problem...I am no longer on that medication , but still have on going complications from coming off the medication I was on..I no longer have the smaller kit which I always took when ever I was asked to act as an escort.....If I was to attend any munch club or any other event..it would have to be really close to where I live...I cannot take a risk..by being to far away from home..That is why I suggested this topic..you would have to read all my posts to have a better understanding of who I am and where I am coming from..For the foreseeable future...my life depends on staying close to home..sorry for all the confusion , but I hope this is a much better explanation..Cassie .

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[Deleted Member]

its your home do the f! you want, but tidy up first.

[Deleted Member]

34 minutes ago, destroyar said:

its your home do the f! you want, but tidy up first.

Now you know..what would you do..Cassie..

[ey****]

There's bits I'm getting - but bits I'm not getting.

 

Bits I get : you need to stay close to home.

 

I can totally understand that.  So this probably rules out going into London, for now, there are munches and events within Croydon.

(As I say, I know - I've been.)

 

Bits I don't quite get.

So, you're nervous about going to a munch due to not knowing anybody (b) everyone who is there knowing why you are there.

 

So I can get that...

So instead of going to a munch where you don't know people and where they know why you are there....

You want to invite people you don't know to your home where they'd know exactly why they were meeting.

 

I'm not quite understanding the logic.

 

I'm not saying "Don't do this" because at the end of the day it is your house.

But, it does seem baffling.

 

If you do choose to do this.

First off - be aware of when the local munches are and contact the organisers explaining what you are doing.  The reason being is it's always better to have people on your side then them thinking you're trying to undermine their event.

 

The local munch organisers might also be good people to invite.

 

From there...

There's two ways to do this.

 

You can make the event private and just send specific invites to people you'd like to be there : which may be limited to other people you've had dealings with or who you've maybe chatted to online.

 

Second way is to make it public. You don't have to publish your address but use it to gauge how many people would be interested in going and you can then give out your address to those whom you feel you want to invite into your house.

 

Remember of course trust is a two way thing, as well as you having to trust people with your address - they have to be able to trust you.

 

I still, however, thinking a munch closer to you is a better idea - and if from *** of knowing no one, dropping the organisers a line.

[Deleted Member]

hi..I seem to have a problem in explaining what I  am worried about and how to cope..I am limited as to how far I can stray away from where I live..I have to take into account that I need to be able to get to my specialist medical kit within minutes..!...that really limits and restricts any options I have in going out and meeting like minded members...My life centres around not being no more than 10 to 15 minutes away from where I live..!...Cassie..what options have I got..!...I want to enjoy and experience that all a kinky lifestyle has to offer...after providing that option for all the women I escorted..I want to experience that as well...!...within a 20 minute radius from where I live..Cassie

 

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[Deleted Member]

Perhaps you could utilise whatever you did that enabled you to go to Iceland? 

I'm sure if you have to have a mobile kit with you, no organiser would have a issue with you taking it with you to a munch, or even an event.

[ey****]

so - I've done a little digging and found a whole load of stuff in Croydon.

The Bad Apple hosts a munch and a whole bunch of workshops.  They rent the whole bar so everyone there is into kink.

The is all the 'Unicorns Chamber' which is a play event in South Croydon which is held at somebody's house - you need to be vetted first for the address.

So with things at both sides of Croydon, one must be near to you.

[Deleted Member]

At the risk of breaking guidelines....I live on the border of south Croydon...I have to take into account the risks of straying too far from home...it is not only about my first venture into a world that I have dreamt about...I have seen it all , but never took part...and now I have the opportunity of living a life that I have for so long fantasised about...If it was not for the health issues I have to deal and cope with I would say to hell what my neighbours think and walk out my front door in what makes me feel sexy and not give a shit..! I do not want to die with a smile on my face...I want to wake up the following morning with a massive grin ...and look forward to the next day.!...My life at the moment is not only about being able to take my specialist kit with me...it is also about sterile surroundings that the help I need can make all the difference when something goes wrong ...I can rely on..Eye.."..Unicorns Chamber "...being on my doorstep...how would one be consider ed as someone who could go through the vetting process....If this replies not allowed ...I will send you a message....the specialist bit of kit ...I have mentioned....is to do with ***ful injections...you can guess where..!...Cassie....but thank you to everyone who has replied....means a lot..

[ey****]

to get vetted - you  merely DM the organiser to state your desire to attend - do a search for it on fetlife and it'll lead you to everything.

It's then at least potentially an option until you're less reliant on treatment

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

to get vetted - you  merely DM the organiser to state your desire to attend - do a search for it on fetlife and it'll lead you to everything.

It's then at least potentially an option until you're less reliant on treatment

thank you...This comment could easily be another topic...but whenever there is a topic or post...one gets alot of advice and help...I just cannot imagine getting help..advice etc..from a " normal " individual..through any website...whatever ones kink or loves are..one can rely on getting some sort of support and advice..You have my respect and admiration...for trying to help me out...I think I have enough points to send you a present as a thank you...Enjoy..Cassie..

[ey****]

It's no bother

Personally, I think the better knowledge and information people have (of that which can be freely given out.) the better for everyone. 

 

[ClarasNoAngel]

Never been to a munch, to be honest I wouldn't know where to look or where to start! I'm just sick of hiding who I am and want to explore every wicked thought and fantasy I've ever had, and that starts with trusting people, getting to know them, learning. If possible can anyone advise me where best to look for munches in my local area so I can try them, get to know any like minded souls?  

[amare_funem]

I would suggest that you get a free account on Fetlife. There will be events near you. It is probably best to find one that meets in a pub.

 

All the best luck and enjoy,

[ey****]

2 hours ago, ClarasNoAngel said:

 If possible can anyone advise me where best to look for munches in my local area so I can try them, get to know any like minded souls?  

June 21.  Bootleg Social. Topping Street.

[ey****]

I do kinda hate to take people off site, especially to such a cesspool - but due to it's years and monopoly, fetlife is the best resource for events.  I think it's potentially half worth having a blank/holding profile to find events.  Just while this site grows it's resources.

My local area for example, there are 11 munches across the region, but only 3 are listed on here (reminds me, I must list the next Sunderland...) and even then - our last munch, it was well attended but everyone via fetlife and no one via here - so there's less motivation for organisers to come here just now.   But, I'm hoping this will change as this site grows. 

[Deleted Member]

9 hours ago, ClarasNoAngel said:

Never been to a munch, to be honest I wouldn't know where to look or where to start! I'm just sick of hiding who I am and want to explore every wicked thought and fantasy I've ever had, and that starts with trusting people, getting to know them, learning. If possible can anyone advise me where best to look for munches in my local area so I can try them, get to know any like minded souls?  

Being in the same situation...I know what you mean...Even though I have been involved in  a very secretive world as an escort as an outsider looking in...I now am in a position to be on the inside looking out..!..Despite my background and involvement , I feel that I have to find my own way..which is why I posted this Topic...it seems to have struck a chord with members who have thought about munchies etc..!...as a way to meet like minded members...I am going to listen and follow the advice members have given...and hope that I will meet like minded members..!

[ClarasNoAngel]

17 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

June 21.  Bootleg Social. Topping Street.

Thankyou hunni and thankyou to both Cassie34 and amare_funem for your help and advice. I might just go to that in June as an experiment to see what it's all about and meet the "locals" lol ❤ 

[Deleted Member]

13 hours ago, ClarasNoAngel said:

Thankyou hunni and thankyou to both Cassie34 and amare_funem for your help and advice. I might just go to that in June as an experiment to see what it's all about and meet the "locals" lol ❤ 

 

13 hours ago, ClarasNoAngel said:

Thankyou hunni and thankyou to both Cassie34 and amare_funem for your help and advice. I might just go to that in June as an experiment to see what it's all about and meet the "locals" lol ❤