BrattySweetheart Posted December 13, 2021 Posted December 13, 2021 I've grappled with this for some time. Everywhere I look, brats are described as being fated to be submissive. People I've talked to say the same. But I feel differently. When I first took the test on bdsmtest, I had no idea what a brat was, but it was my main role. And I felt like I was really seen when I first found out about it. However, though I've experienced submissive tendencies, and though I can enjoy submitting, I am not a sub. I enjoy rigging as much as I enjoy being tied up. I'll still tease. I'll still challenge, even when someone has, strictly speaking given up a portion of control to me. And being a brat has never been about always being made to submit. That can be fun, and I enjoy an equal, someone who can tease me into giving them something I wouldn't usually, someone who can seduce me into playfully exploring boundaries. But being a brat is about empowerment. And sometimes that means I come out on top. So I think it's safe to say I'm a switch. And I know and completely understand that sometimes the labels just don't fit, or sometimes you make up your own definitions because humans are complex creatures, but I'm very interested in seeing if anyone else identifies as a switch brat or if any doms/brat tamers out there have ever experienced someone who felt the same way. I guess it's part of what makes Fetish.com such a wonderful place: finding like-minded people, realising you're not alone. I'm open to all viewpoints, though. To a discussion or a new angle. Learning something new.
ey**** Posted December 14, 2021 Posted December 14, 2021 So, yeah - Bratty Domme's are quite common. And so there's no reason not to be a switch brat A lot is often how you feel each side of this looks - but - whatever it is is still likely to be valid.
Deleted Member Posted December 14, 2021 Posted December 14, 2021 No one can tell you who or what you are within BDSM, no one can tell you what persona you have or should be - only you decide that, that is fully up to you. There are no rules really when it comes to deciding who or what you are, again only you decide that. It doesn't matter how others identify, what they do, what roles they play, just be you, what makes you feel comfortable, satisfied & fulfilled.
BrattySweetheart Posted December 14, 2021 Author Posted December 14, 2021 8 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: So, yeah - Bratty Domme's are quite common. And so there's no reason not to be a switch brat A lot is often how you feel each side of this looks - but - whatever it is is still likely to be valid. 3 hours ago, BDSMkinkydom said: No one can tell you who or what you are within BDSM, no one can tell you what persona you have or should be - only you decide that, that is fully up to you. There are no rules really when it comes to deciding who or what you are, again only you decide that. It doesn't matter how others identify, what they do, what roles they play, just be you, what makes you feel comfortable, satisfied & fulfilled. Thank you both so much. I really appreciate your input and validation. I personally agree that you should be you and do what makes you feel comfortable, safe, and happy, and sometimes it just helps you feel that way to realise you're not alone. Your posts did that ( :
BrattySweetheart Posted December 14, 2021 Author Posted December 14, 2021 8 hours ago, joanna2011 said: Thank you for sharing. <3
Deleted Member Posted December 14, 2021 Posted December 14, 2021 I would definitely describe myself as a switch brat!
BrattySweetheart Posted December 14, 2021 Author Posted December 14, 2021 1 hour ago, littlemissshy said: I would definitely describe myself as a switch brat! Awesome! I'm glad to find others like me; I've seen people argue before that brats are just another type of submissive, but when you don't feel submissive and do feel like a brat, it just doesn't sound right ( ; If you want to share how you like to brat, I'd love to hear about it!
BratSwitch3012 Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 I am a brat sub in my current m/f dynamic. But i do t t y to power play (nit that i always want to win) with a female i am a brat domme, and then in other m/f ships, i am very switchy so would prefer a guy who can also switch with me.
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