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Yesterday at 12:39 AM, Feral_MountianKing said:

I think often modern day tells us we have to be strong individuals and don’t depend on others, etc. The independent woman is sexy, as shown in the latest ________.
There’s a book called “Attached: the new science of adult attachment” in the book it describes many differing types of attachment styles, how to recognize your attachment style, and recognize those around you. As far as the losing yourself to love.. there is a theory in the book called the dependency paradox. It’s quite interesting and I even wrote a little article about how I define the dependency paradox.

I would first suggest that before focusing on losing yourself to love, that you first look inward and take a serious self evaluation, become self aware. This is a very difficult journey, and it sometimes tears the very fabric of what or who you think you are. I know it did for me.
Good luck!

Thanks fo the Attached book recommendation, it was a good read. It was comforting. Can’t seem to find “the dependency paradox” book any where though.

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2 hours ago, novicesubbbw said:

Thanks fo the Attached book recommendation, it was a good read. It was comforting. Can’t seem to find “the dependency paradox” book any where though.

The dependency paradox is a chapter inside the book Attached. Chapter 2

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15 hours ago, Feral_MountianKing said:

The dependency paradox is a chapter inside the book Attached. Chapter 2

My bad! Chapter two is “Dependency is not a Bad Word” they did cover it. I thought it was another book.

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Well written, Feral. I share many of your sentiments though I would struggle to articulate them as well as you have here. 

Thanks for sharing.

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