How did your kinkiness develop with time?

[Gingerluv]

So I was just wondering how, if at all, your experiences have developed and changed with time? I imagine most started out slow, getting to grips with it all at first. Did you eventually find yourself pushing your boundaries further than imagined? 

[Deleted Member]

I was fantasising about domination well before I actually did it. Once I had the opportunity I started learning the reality of it all, and I can't say it's completely different from what I imagined. All I can say is that, like anything, I have learned from experience and discovered new things that interest me. I have become more open too, having found new things and decided to be more flexible to get what I want.

[BigPolly]

Like DanteReign I was also fantasising about domination (& bdsm) before I did it. I remember at the age of 18/19 enquiringly about an apartment above a shop near where I worked as I wanted to become a professional Mistress. My kinks have changed massively over time either as I fulfill fantasies to their extreme potential & want to try something new or if someone introduces me to something new. 2-3yrs back a friend offered to retrain me as a sub which I wasn’t keen on at first but tried it & that opened up a whole new world for me & a new load of kinks & extremes. I never started out slowly tho this is the way I’ve always been.

[ey****]

Oh gosh, this could be almost a blog topic for me.

I think in recent years it started as an exploring thing with my wife - but as new ideas and opportunities came about, including some things I wanted to do but couldn't with her : I played a lot with friends locally, which could be either side of the slash .

Then, a couple of years back - we had Hoxton Dungeon booked for a night of fun together and had the idea of inviting a 3rd person to join us - so effectively I would play with my wife until we were both tired that way and then this other person would come in to play with me - and this meant I could try some fantasies I couldn't do with my wife - and also the lady who came to play had her own favourite activities so this started introducing me to new ideas.

Fast forward 2 years and... more core fetishes and interests are still the same, but I'm massively open to trying different things and I do a lot of filming which opens other opportunities and of course this has slid me into a more service and servitude role towards a couple of people.  We don't just play, I actively serve them when required.   It's just not as often as liked as they're not local.

[Bu****]

Yeah I used to think "I would NEVER EVER have anal sex" 😂

[3S****]

I didn't even know i was dominant until after i'd split with my submissive ex, it was just naturally how we were and we fitted together nicely. I found out because i had been chatting to someone submissive on a vanilla site and what he was after was a bit more than my ex was but it appealed to me (i met a fair few actual submissive guys from this vanilla site actually). It was funny, initially, to think of myself someone BDSM.

I'd say not having that pressure of labels meant things just were natural and nothing to think about really but also that we didn't do anything that kinky. He was never into feet either and i wanted him to be so that side never happened with him. I'd say we didn't push anything but did do a few out there things because we were horny and comfortable around each other so they 'just happened'.

It's a shame we split up, sort of, because i'm sure he'd make a good cuckold.

[UnknownOne]

I’ve always been rough in bed and after seeing some interesting porn I gave it a try. It’s all history from there.

[Deleted Member]

I dated a track star. One day after practice we 69ed but she didnt shower. Her butt was stinky and sweaty and I sniffed and licked it all up. Been hooked since