Is It Just Me?

[Roxanne]

I'm new, well newish, and I began reading the forums. It helped me learn, and understand the lifestyle more. I'm still learning, and I don't always join in with the conversation/advice. But I'm slowly very slowly starting to join in now. The most important thing I felt for me was to comment when I feel ready. Until then observing was, and is really good. As you learn and understand more, which in turn builds your confidence and self-esteem up.

[McGraw]

Only been here a week. As I only want to come to anybody’s attention for the right reasons I’m being careful about my conduct until I get a better handle on what will and will not fly here. There’s so much to read through that I’m prepared to wait until I’m a bit more au fait with things before contributing. 

[Roxanne]

There's no rush Hun, take your time untill you feel more comfortable contributing in discussions/ advice ect.

[McGraw]

Thx. I’ve seen a few things I have wondered about have been addressed elsewhere.  Rather than ask a question where there’s already a satisfactory answer I’ve found it pays to browse a bit and that keeps the forum tidy.

[sm****]

Never feel pressured in to having to answer things.  I always tell new people, take your time, sit back read and take in what is being said or written about, then when your comfortable enough try and start a thread of even the odd answer.  Yes you will get some anals  who will try and be all pompous, but the vast majority will understand and try and answer to the best of their knowledge and experience level.

We all started off new with very limited knowledge and no experience....just over time you will work out the ones who like to talk the talk and then those who do understand where you are at.

Iv'e said this on a few threads "joining the online community is akin to being in the candy store, you want to know and experience everything now now now."  Totally understandable.  Sometimes the best part is sitting back, and seeing how people interact, and learning safety for yourself and others.

But as social interaction gains momentum you will soon learn more and get yourself known by slowly interacting with the real life community at events and especially local or localish munches.  The last two years has put the breaks on things not just for newbies or less experienced people but old hands as well.

So don't be afraid to ask a question and enjoy getting to know yourself and the kink community.

 

[Th****]

As has been said, I sorry that you feel that you do not have anything to contribute.

Trust me though you do.

Although I have been in the lifestyle a fair while the bottom line, is I am just myself. Just like you are.

We are both people with opinions, thoughts and points of view. 

So when it comes to sharing yours you have just as much right as any of us here. You may even bring a fresh take on something to the discussion.