Do you hide your kinky side in a workplace?

[Du****]

I was wondering how Doms feel about being revealed by people in workplace. I guess most people dont want others to know you are beating or r*ping women in private life, especially you have academic career, for example teacher, you don't want students to know that i guess? Are you worried they may find out? Lol

[ey****]

I think there's not really that much reason for people in the workplace to know about colleagues private/sex life

but even if something was found out - the key word is consent

there are people who are in jobs with sensitive natures who are also kinky - and they often do have to be more hidden online and be careful where they go.  I turned down a job opportunity because my private life would cause problems. 

[Mi****]

I was at work and one day an two colleagues next to me started joking/ talking about kink someone how eventually the whole workplace started getting involved an people started asking each other about what’s their preference when it comes to either vanilla, bdsm lifestyle.
Eventually the question came around to me an even to the extent of them knowing about it I just replied truthfully an didn’t hesitate to say where I stand, they all had a laugh an joke as eventually I was the only one there on the lifestyle but I didn’t care one bit an was glad I answered it, embrace an be proud of the lifestyle an don’t worry about anyone judging you I think that’s the best approach for me anyways.

Good luck with your search lovely.

[Pe****]

I certainly don’t volunteer any clues, but it probably wouldn’t be the end of the world if I was outed. I just keep my private life private but know plenty who are more open.

[Deleted Member]

R*ping wtf this is outta line

[Ceejayuk]

I have never actively hidden my kink side, it has never really been an issue at work, then again it could be that being kinky does not mean I'm going around r*ping women (I mean wtf) though granted I have beaten a few who wanted it.

[so****]

I am very open to my Dom side, most of my friends and family know, you can only truly happy if you accept your role, I have nothing to hide, anything I do isn't illegal.so embrace what you are and share it with others.

[Deleted Member]

Hi DuckArtist. I think you may want to rephrase the "beating and r*ping women" comment. That is rather offensive as literally every aspect of any s/d dynamic is based on trust and consent. I presume you mean from the perspective of a vanilla, but your comment put my back up. I am a sub, and I guess that would mean I hide being beaten and r*ped??? Subs are not victims any more than doms are perpetrators.

[it****]

I am not in hiding if it is known it’s known. But being a Dom is not beating anyone! You a very twisted idea of a D/s dynamic to even think that r*pe is involved! You are completely wrong!

[Si****]

Consensual non-consent isn’t r**e though. It’s consensual sexual intimacy that can be revoked as soon as that safe word hits.

As for being someone in the community whom others within my workspace are aware of, it’s fun to educate them on what it means to be a Dom.
It makes it very intriguing and I always highly recommend newbies to do their own research and also send them helpful links!

[ge****]

I think it's something that a large majority of us, dominant or submissive, wouldn't want to become public knowledge either in the workplace or with friends/family etc - not through any shame at what we like privately, but because of the false perceptions of others who may not understand.

In fact that applies to any form of sexuality or kink that goes beyond the generally accepted "norms" - yet the strange thing is many people have kinks and quirks that go beyond the "normal" in some way, some might be quite mild admittedly, all the way up to extreme activities.

I wouldn't want my workplace to know for sure, and yes it worries me sometimes, but it's a risk I accept too. Again I'm not ashamed of who I am and what I like, but my colleagues don't need to know either, it doesn't affect my work or have any impact on them after all.

[im****]

Yes I hide it because I am an elementary school teacher

[Ar****]

Important clarification: you're suggesting many people might not want to be PERCEIVED to be "beating or r*ping" others, not that they actually are - right? And your question applies equally to Dommes and dynamics where the sub is not female?

[4R****]

Wow, I'm not sure why this has been approved as it seems a very flippant way of asking that question. But to answer it, I don't broadcast it, but I will answer honestly of I'm asked. I think the OP needs to carefully consider their wording in future posts though as this is incredibly offensive!

[tr****]

A gole of mine is to b talked about at all is exciting and flattering ghe content aside nervous elation snd pride

[Winston60]

Well if you are r*ping anyone, you should go to jail surely?

[Bracken]

I think r*ping women is the WRONG word to use!!!

[Ma****]

No. I work as a senior producer at an events technology startup. Everyone knows about my porn and BDSM background.

[Deleted Member]

I got called sir by a subordinate at work, was awkward after cause I felt like I was being tested

[be****]

Yes I hide things but some words do slip out.

[do****]

Yes, I hide who I am at work.

[Deleted Member]

until recently no one knew about my kinky sex life but now everyone at my job and all my friends know and most of my work colleagues actually didn't seem that surprised tbf I guess it because I'm a natural Dom/leader people tend to look to me to be told what they need to do even though I'm not in charge. and my friends also weren't surprised but very curious about what it means to be in a Dom/sub relationship some people didn't approve at first but mainly because they didn't understand and they called sexist and that kind of stuff but after I explained to them that I'm not a Dom because I want to disrespect women and that its not just about my needs and that the needs of my subs are also very important most of them are alot more understanding than they where for me telling people was tricky at first but all in all worth it cuz I don't need to keep it to my self anymore I will say though for the kind of job I have its not really an issue and its not something that's gonna stop me from getting work in the future were as for a teacher that could be a very different story 

[sw****]

It depends with whom x

[MissTakenDeep]

You think domination is about r*pe and ***?? That’s actually quite concerning…can I ask how long you’ve been involved in kink to have that perspective? If you’re relatively new, then I’d suggest more research and maybe avoiding whatever Dom you’ve been speaking to!! Consent & trust are THE most important thing in any kink situation impo.

[Alquimyst]

Unfortunately we all are living in a hypocrite and judgemental world.
And this is not funny at all.