Deleted Member Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 Echoing the other replies re wording. Otherwise though, i don't advertise my private life - it is just that, my private life. But if someone were to engage me in conversation, ask certain questions, i wouldn't lie. i'd love to live in a world where we could all just be out about our likes and proclivities but i feel we're a long way from there still.
sw**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 2 hours ago, MissTakenDeep said: You think domination is about r*pe and ***?? That’s actually quite concerning…can I ask how long you’ve been involved in kink to have that perspective? If you’re relatively new, then I’d suggest more research and maybe avoiding whatever Dom you’ve been speaking to!! Consent & trust are THE most important thing in any kink situation impo. The lady’s I’ve had experience with it’s far from r*pe more rap and ass on our terms always sub + Dom = equality either way or both if mood suits 👨🏻✈️ and always luv 🦊🦋🇬🇧
BW**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I used to host in my office at work while to store was still open
Deleted Member Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 Care to elaborate on your wording? You sent me a “spank” so far I’m glad I didn’t reply.
ge**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I had originally chosen to overlook your choice of wording and put it down to naivety or lack of knowledge, but having thought about it some more, I'm wondering if there's a darker reason behind your OP and choice of wording and those things have happened to you and you're contemplating exposing the person concerned? . I could of course be very wide of the mark, and my original take was closer to the truth, of so then my apologies. If however there is any kind of darker reason, then take the appropriate steps to have this looked into, rather than trying to take it into your own hands, taking that route may backfire badly on you. Either way your choice of words is concerning as others have said, whichever way you look at it.
ey**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I think it would be good for the OP to come back and explain the wording But I'd took it as "Perception" rather than "matter of fact"
ma**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I would be charitable and put it down to English not being her first language. She is probably referring to CNC. Let’s not all jump on it for what could be an innocent mistake .
MissTakenDeep Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 3 hours ago, manny1984 said: I would be charitable and put it down to English not being her first language. She is probably referring to CNC. Let’s not all jump on it for what could be an innocent mistake . From the profile, I’m presuming OP is English, if not, speaks the language very well. I’d also guess that they are referring to CNC, but even then, as someone who has a lil cnc kink myself, describing domination in general as beating and r*pe, I find concerning. It’s no wonder there are so many women complaining about inappropriate message context from random men, if the common concept is domination equals *** 😐🤷🏻♀️
Deleted Member Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 Keep yourself flirty and open to flirt about what you like. Send out hints. Next thing you know you can have your office crush right where you want them.
Ig**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I think this person means that r*ping and beating up is how vanilla humans would describe what we do since they have no idea what’s this about and how huge the differences are between kinks, roles, dynamics etc… And no, I don’t care, I’m pretty open about my sexual life as well. Not shouting I’m the streets about my orientation and/or my role in the kink scene/personal life. However, my flatmates, friends and workmates know about it and they can’t care less cause they have common sense and know is just my personal life. I even talked sometimes with a couple of customers about it cause either they recognised me from an even or cause it was very obvious they were subs and I got lucky with how the chat went.
Deleted Member Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 I’m not that active as a sub. But I think in Some Carreer it is not Good that others this know. But also as a sub is it not always accepted at work or in the family
Deleted Member Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 y’all i think this person is trolling.
Ar**** Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 2 hours ago, Aspiewitch said: y’all i think this person is trolling. That was one of the first possibilities to cross my mind too...
Nylon-Nellie Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 Since I cannot answer as D-type, I will answer as a s-type even though the question is aimed at Doms. I for one am mortified that you have asked Dom's this sort of question. Is this how you interpret what a Dom does to a woman behind closed doors and then add a lol at the end? If this is the case, then I'm off. Such a variety of people work in various jobs, whether they are high profile jobs or not. I work in the teaching sector and for me, I don't sing and dance about my private life.
Mu**** Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 @DuckArtist if you think someone being a Dom is beating and r*ping women do you really do not understand the BDSM lifestyle or mindset at all.
Deleted Member Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 Depends on the job, some jobs require you to be professional and have a good reputation, so, though I don’t agree with the R*** cause that’s just wrong this whole community is built on consent on a side note, everything else is still mostly “NSFW” and people might have other reasons to keep separate work and “play” life. I don’t think it’s a good idea to mix both and don’t know why anyone would, just my 2 cents.
Ig**** Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 As a Dom, it has been the case that my bratty sub came to where I work. And since we had a 24/7 dynamic by then, I rejected her and didn’t give her a table. Cause there is no way I will serve her in any way.
Si**** Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 Because of my role and some of what I do, no. I'll keep it that way for as long as I live.
Deleted Member Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 On 1/29/2022 at 7:35 PM, Aranhis said: Important clarification: you're suggesting many people might not want to be PERCEIVED to be "beating or r*ping" others, not that they actually are - right? And your question applies equally to Dommes and dynamics where the sub is not female? Exactly what I was going to say. I am private in my professional and private life. No one I know is aware of my Domme tastes. As for the wording beating and r*ping. This is the opposite of kink. I really hope you phrased it this way for some shock value and you don't see Dominants this way.
Deleted Member Posted February 1, 2022 Posted February 1, 2022 Good question. I keep my private live private, I don't feel the need to share my private live with colleagues, I have little interest in theirs and I am sure they have no interest in mine.
jo**** Posted February 1, 2022 Posted February 1, 2022 I sense a little animosity and definite disapproval. Think about your question for a minute though. just because some of us take our private lives Just a hair past missionary doesn't Mean its any different than it is for anybody else at their workplace. I mean you wouldn’t ask any "civilians" If they had to hide their boring and dull side in a workplace. Like Ted is standing at the water cooler Worried about if he’s gonna be revealed by people at his workplace that he only knows two positions It hasn’t had sex with his wife or even masturbated in 10 years. I guess most people don’t want others to know that their Private life makes them suicidal. Especially if he’s a teacher he might be worried his students might find that out. Why Under any circumstances would students be aware of their teachers private sex life or lack there of.
Mi**** Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 Most of what I practice is non-sexual so I don't have the same reservations as I feel most do. However I have never defined myself as in the closet with my wants and needs, if I'm asked then I tell if I want to. I think stigma can drive people near enough to insanity so being open and unafraid of consequences is either really bold or really silly on my behalf but I've had no issues so far haha
xT**** Posted February 4, 2022 Posted February 4, 2022 Why would anyone do that? My sexual life is private and unappropiate in a work environment.
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