Domme

[he****]

Why don’t you just laugh at these dudes trying to dom you off the rip like us men do at these funny females demanding tribute. Like where in the world did you get the idea i was trying to pay you shit? Get outttttaaaa hereeeee
Over and over again i see this angle overlooked when it’s prevalent as well.

[25****]

I’ve had plenty of dommes on here hit me up :/ just some people don’t like to read

[ki****]

May be true. I have heard stories and I agree there are to many thirsty men. Sex is a given in a relationship so they need to take there time and pay attention to what a woman wants, vs cus men need a lil bit of love too though. Ladies I got mad respect for you and Im sorry you deal with them mf's

[Ni****]

Well, I am a male switch and I don't understand such assumptions either. In fact, I would be more interested in dominant women.

[ki****]

Im more dom but I am switch and dont judge. I respect a woman's wishes though.

[Pr****]

Yea just got one and was like umm you obviously didn't read but I can make you my bitch if you want 🤷🏾‍♀️

[az****]

To be honest, I also get the reverse assumptions on other apps. I clearly state I’m dom but I get a lot of spam (and this is the answer staring back at me) “you looking to serve a queen?”

But, most people see what they want to see without taking a beat in reading first.

[Deleted Member]

I get so many "Will you be my Mistress/ Mommy Dom" messages when mine clearly states sub. Some people don't see what you are or what you're looking for, they are purely fixated on what they're after and what might suit them.

[dr****]

I get the same "dommes" starting their introduction with "Are you ready to serve me?"

[he****]

@macclesfield153 no one wants to talk about that tho XD these women are just as ruthless and ignorant

[ey****]

So, like, you know when you get a message from a "Domme" which goes "are you ready to serve me?"

Spoiler - it's not a Domme, it's the beginning of a scam - usually from a guy reading a script

Sooo - if you are not a sub, then, it's yet another example of men not reading profiles...

[Deleted Member]

I think it’s a bad idea to use extreme terms like “always” because it will only end up being hurtfully inaccurate. My mistress is very much a woman and I’ve never once viewed her as submissive. I’m her cheerfully dedicated subbie sissy boy and couldn’t be happier. So, when you stated, “Why is it always assumed…” it not only didn’t apply to me but my heart became hurt that you would project that energy onto me. Maybe putting that energy out is what is attracting the thing you can’t stand and running off the ones you actually want to be with.

[he****]

@eyemblacksheep I’m not going to argue that what your saying does not cover the majority, it probably does unfortunately

[Deleted Member]

Some guys just don't read your profile - they go quantity over quality with generic messages.

Their loss I guess. An actual real domme that isnt a scammer and doesnt expect pay2play is quite rare.

[ag****]

I bet everyone who messages people on here are dominate. All the woman who message me expect me to be submissive when my profile doesn’t say that at all.

[Ro****]

Truthfully I have been having problems with mostly guys wanting to play though my profile states I'm married and only looking for friends. If the connection is strong enough it may lead to more but you will have to talk to my partner. Yet no one reads it. I have to ask people to read it and that's not how this is sapost to work!

[Ig****]

1 hour ago, RockyRose said:

Truthfully I have been having problems with mostly guys wanting to play though my profile states I'm married and only looking for friends. If the connection is strong enough it may lead to more but you will have to talk to my partner. Yet no one reads it. I have to ask people to read it and that's not how this is sapost to work!

The never ending story of humans not reading profiles. In any profile I always say first thing that I’m ENM and depending on which app, I would explain either partnered or open relationship. Depending on how many time people has no idea what ENM is.
And it’s tiring to be talking with someone for a while and “oh shit! You are partnered???”. Is that dificult to read a description?? Is not only pics come on and let’s not be basic…

[Deleted Member]

You can wake me up with my head between your legs any day of the week, however in all honesty that doesn't really define submissiveness

[MommyDomme84]

56 minutes ago, Ignar said:

The never ending story of humans not reading profiles. In any profile I always say first thing that I’m ENM and depending on which app, I would explain either partnered or open relationship. Depending on how many time people has no idea what ENM is.
And it’s tiring to be talking with someone for a while and “oh shit! You are partnered???”. Is that dificult to read a description?? Is not only pics come on and let’s not be basic…

Agreed. Literally the first thing you see on my profiles on her and the other fet site is "Doms will be blocked"... And the number of Doms that message anyway.... On the other site they are almost always 50+ and call me a "c u next tuesday" when I call them out for not reading, then they immediately block before I can reply. It is almost funny how mad they get. It scares me for any subs they might actually have. 

[Ro****]

Im genuinely curious the thoughts on someone identifying as dom/not sub messaging as they like your way of doing things or energy but not the im assuming usual bullshit of “hey __ generic presumptuous handle__ how hard are you gonna sub for me” (can partly assume as men and women have said it since i figured i sub at all) but maybe it’s especially having subbed but i personally enjoy conversations with other doms too and doms that do things in ways that make sense to me without desiring for them to Dom ME at all. Especially as my only partner who dommed me was… well…. Kinda really really really bad with boundaries and manipulation. And apparently i got past the initial asking a question so ill leave it at this

[ey****]

I think while people are different - there is always difference in the context of a message.

Like - not every message you send has to be to hit on someone - and I think most people are more responsive to a good message from someone who isn't hitting on them : if for example, "Hey, I really like reading your posts on the forum" or "it's nice to see you in chat" and then wherever the conversation is going from there.

A lot of this is how passive connections form 

[Pe****]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I think while people are different - there is always difference in the context of a message.

Like - not every message you send has to be to hit on someone - and I think most people are more responsive to a good message from someone who isn't hitting on them : if for example, "Hey, I really like reading your posts on the forum" or "it's nice to see you in chat" and then wherever the conversation is going from there.

A lot of this is how passive connections form 

I like how you always give your opinion!! Always on the thread hahha!!

[ey****]

7 hours ago, kaycie said:

I like how you always give your opinion!! Always on the thread hahha!!

Haha

It's simple enough.   A guy in my inbox hitting on me hasn't read my profile (or then me telling him I'm not interested and him still persisting suggests maybe he just doesn't respect boundaries) - a guy in my inbox for any form of chat is totally different.

And then this is the same with the women I've spoke to - there's a few I've chatted with where we already maybe knew we weren't compatible from a dating sense - but have had chats and it is a kinda friendship. 

[Al****]

Basically, The male brain has two settings.
1. Behaving like an actual human being
2. Penis mode

[Pe****]

16 hours ago, alexoxx said:

Basically, The male brain has two settings.
1. Behaving like an actual human being
2. Penis mode

Hahahaha!!!! Exactly 😂😂