Why do you love this lifestyle?

[Gi****]

Man there is so many reasons I love this lifestyle.

But the main reason is everyone can be exactly who they truly are without being judged. I used to think I had to hid my kinks and the things I'm into. Then I had an epiphany. We not the different ones for liking the things we are into. It's the "Normal" people into all that vanilla sex who are the different ones.
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Why do you love this lifestyle.

[MissTakenDeep]

I don’t believe anyone is 100% vanilla…I think they’re just ashamed of their darkest desires because society has trained them to be 😐it’s sad that kink is such a taboo subject for so many people really and I’m a big believer in it’s why most relationships fail…if you can’t be honest with yourself about what you want sexually, then you’re not being honest with your partner and it’s why so many relationships are ‘lacking’. Just my opinion obviously, I’m probably one of the more vanilla people on the site, my kink is extremely particular and not something I’ve felt comfortable sharing with every previous partner because of the shame associated with kink in the vanilla world, so I relate heavily to this post and would completely agree that the reason I feel comfortable HERE is the lack of judgement. Your kink might not be my kink, but it’s still ok. It opens your eyes to how many limitations the vanilla world puts on sexual pleasure & exploration, it’s reassurance that other people have the same desires and that there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with you for liking something that’s not common. It’s a community that welcomes newbies, offers advice & comfort when needed and imo, offers much more respect and guidelines to keep s types safe than the vanilla world does. I think too many people forget how many abusive relationships exist in the vanilla world, with sexual *** being one of the biggest forms of *** a lot of women report when leaving an abusive relationship. In this world I think a woman’s limited & boundaries are respected & valued so much more. The honesty of the community makes it a safer environment ❤️

[Deleted Member]

The reason why I love this lifestyle because the agreement that nothing it’s going to be done to you that you did not agree upon, if you find the right person I mean. There might be unintentional slips but when you starting but don’t confuse it with intentional being mask as unintentional. The other part with my first bf I notice that I wasn’t like other females. I got super turn on when I was told if I do a well job I’ll get a reward or my hair was pulled or when I got spanked, I knew I wasn’t going to like a relationship didn’t have that, apart from other things.

[Gi****]

@MissTakenDeep. May I first say WOW. To be honest, your words have taken my breath away. Out of every post I've ever posted, anywhere. You my love. Take the cake.
Second. WOW! Lol

Thank you so much for replying with comment that is unmatchable in my eyes. May I take my hat off to you and say Thank you ma'am.

[Jen777]

Your a breath of fresh air I think we all have a kinky side too x

[Deleted Member]

Every individual is unique. Once I fully embraced who and how I am (and the why behind my psyche), the free flow of self-love gave me refined direction and purpose. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I no longer feel the need to conform to the social norm palate. Be your own flavor. As long as we're kind, conscientious, and responsible adults, why not pursue our desires? If we're lucky, we have 100 years on this planet to be our best selves. We might as well be true to ourselves along the way ❤

[Gi****]

All of you are amazing and thank you for commenting.

[Dustykat]

It is  a place where I can be ME and not care what other think and know others are like me or have some of the some of the same interests. Where I don’t have to hide being ME 🧚🏻‍♀️

[cl****]

Being it’s more than just sex or any other ‘’normal’’ relationship there’s a deeper connection it’s more rooted around trust, respect and communication

[JazmineLatishaJones]

What "Lifestyle"? This is LIVING. 

[DD****]

I love it because it allows rules to be set and followed

[Mz****]

I love the lifestyle bc I give my control up and pass it to a worthy kinksters.. Been in closet with my kinks for years .. literally... Like I'm wanna put my mask on and sit outside legs wide open...

[Ma****]

I enjoy be little is all I know

[ma****]

For me, the lifestyle isn't just the kink aspect. The lifestyle, in general, isn't just kink or sex. It is the way someone chooses to live.

Being submissive is who I am, it has always been there within me. When I submit, I feel free, fulfilled, alive and empowered.

"Normal" can be subjective. In regards to vanilla people, we aren't into the place of judging them or saying if they are normal or not. It is who they are and we should respect them. We are no better than them (and definitely we aren't better than them if we judge them). I've got vanilla friends and family members who accept the fact that I am submissive. We start growing in the moment we start accepting others for who they are (as long as they don't harm and *** others or trying to take advantage of others).

[Gi****]

I love that people are still here commenting;)

[Zi****]

There's just less fake people. No ody pretends to be someone different than what they are and if they try they're found out pretty quickly.

[ba****]

I have always been judgement free in terms of the lifestyles I was living be it full on swinging or just expressing my recently acknowledged fetishes. Being one’s true self and being able to say “I like x y and or z” is frankly a relief as there are far too many judgemental “vanillas”. I am still working on further self-discovery - but every day is a school day!

[vi****]

I do what I want