Lucky / Unlucky

[br****]

I’ve been naturally dominant all my life since, the first example was when the head master at my first school (5) decided to take out his cane in order to give 3 lashes and was surprised when I suddenly grabbed it clean out of his hand and said, I don’t think so.

I’ve read a lot of posts in here where subs mention being lucky with their dom and I wonder what constitutes the unlucky?

[ey****]

I often find the concept of luck and unlucky to be both overstated, but sometimes underappreciated.

What I mean is to kinda dismiss something as just being luck disregards the work, effort, time, etc. someone has put into something.

But also stating that it was all down to work, effort, time disregards that there is an element of luck and sometimes privilege.

I had a run a couple of years ago where one thing after another went wrong in my house which ended up being very expensive - this meant I didn't have the *** to really attend munches or kink events or travel to see people - and this also started seeing other people being prioritised for stuff ahead of me.  You could say that was bad luck.

But then, right now I have the *** to attend things which is helping me build new connections and while I am having to put in work and effort that I have the resources to network could be deemed as good luck.

[br****]

There are 3 posts from different people in the forum of this app. Each mention the same phrase … I was lucky because my dom…. To me there’s a hint or suggestion that there are people out there operating on a completely selfish and perhaps even psychologically harmful way.


Make no mistake, in my opinion there are dims and there are ***s . The distinctions may not be immediately apparent to a new sub but trust me when I say these are two different universes.

If you’re an unlucky sub then perhaps your actually just being ***d.

[sc****]

I think what they mean is that their dom isn’t a psycho.
There are a good portion of them out there that get carried away.
That’s a *** that goes with every sub.

[ey****]

I think as an aside - finding someone you connect with is difficult no matter what you do.  So perhaps being in a good relationship could be viewed as being 'lucky' - but I don't think not being in a relationship, or not in a good one, is necessarily 'unlucky'

[Ae****]

I'm not sure where your anecdote and your question link up, so i may have missed the point but -

I think unlucky would be - meeting a person who takes advantage of you, while simultaneously being a nieve person yourself and being unable to identify them.

This can can be a dom or sub. Lucky is - finding someone good, not via selection, but just through luck.

[Deleted Member]

Unlucky would be finding someone who you would like to serve, but who takes advantage of you. This could be financial or personal. Personal would be harder to tell, but if they don’t want to do anything that you would want but always want to do things you have put limits on then they are taking advantage of you. The personal form is harder to tell.