Which is better

[25****]

What is a better way to stop talking to some one, just straight up ghost them or be honest and tell them you don’t want to talk anymore?

[Ar****]

Be honest. That is always better.

[Deleted Member]

Personally I would tell them, but that is just me and doesn’t apply to all situations.

[Missy45]

Just say you don't want to talk anymore. I believe that's the mature thing to do. But some people just can't take NO for an answer either. Then, that's when you block.

[ma****]

Tell them, honesty and truth is always best

[Deleted Member]

Always be honest and tell them. Ghosting is awful. I know it can leave those that are already anxious and guarded, more so going forward.
Definitely be honest. Be tactful, sensitive, about it. But be honest.

[Deleted Member]

As someone who has been ghosted on I would rather they had just been upfront and honest about it.

[Dr****]

Definitely prefer to hear they don’t want to talk, then maybe there is a chance for friendship later. Anyone who ghosts me is dead to me.

[ey****]

on paper it is to tell them - and then, if they persist, either stop replying or hit ignore

but sometimes things don't work out on paper

[Deleted Member]

It’s easier for you if you just ghost them but I think it’s selfish. If you explain why you don’t want to talk to them it gives them closure and will be better in the long run.

[im****]

Be honest and tell them you don’t want to talk any more.

[Bblock383]

The answer is entirely based on how respectful do you want to be in ending it. The gentlemanly thing to do is to simply be honest and let them know you aren't compatible and wish them the best IMO. Ghosting is mentally and emotionally destructive for the other person generally which can have long lasting effects as they try to move forward and attempt to develop something with someone else. (This obviously depends on how long you've been talking of course) Are there situations where ghosting might be the answer? Yes.

"Be nice, until it's time to not be nice"

[Matttster]

I guess it depends how long you have been taking (in my opinion). If you just started talking and realize there is no connection, ghosting is not terrible. But if there has been some dialogue and some connection made, I think being honest and politely explaining your general feelings is the right thing to do.

[WM****]

It all depends on the situation. If they are just boring you and you don’t see it going anywhere. Tell them politely. If they are just being a dick. Ghost them.

[SubFU]

Best to be honest.Its happened to me and although you dont feel great about yourself at the time,no one likes rejection!!Its better to communicate your rejection of a person,than ghost them as you say.Thats just rude and cowardly,i feel.

[Jo****]

Be honest

[Fu****]

I’ve always just been honest about it

[Deleted Member]

I would say just tell them you don’t want to talk and be honest.

[MissTakenDeep]

I’d always go with the honest approach, but you only need to say it once. Something like: “I don’t want to talk to you anymore because (reason why) I don’t want to debate it, that’s how I feel and respectfully, I’m letting you know”

Got to be better than just ghosting…

[De****]

Good question!

It depends on the individual. I consider where a person is at, what they were hoping to get from me, and what level of respect they showed for me and for my time.

Sometimes I’ll simply explain that I have a lot going on and that I don’t have any time to give them at this time. Other times I will be very direct.

I never ghost unless it is abundantly clear they have no concept of what values to have and are of no consequence.

How about you? What do you usually do?

[Deleted Member]

I think I agree with most people above. It's always the best way to just be honest about it. Not everyone is a match and that is fair enough. Ghosting should only be used if one is being a dick about it.
But generally, ghosting can be very mentally frustrating for the other person. And it also feels very disrespectful.

[ki****]

Honesty, always. Even if the person 'deserves' ghosting, there's a chance your honesty will better equip them to interact with others. Achieve that, and you've made the world a better place. 'Not by much' runs the counter argument, but our planet needs all the help it can get.

[25****]

I don’t plan on ghosting any one I’ve just been ghosted a lot and I wanted to know peoples opinion

[Dustykat]

To be honest and tell them but if they don't stop then block sad to say but some people don't understand 🧚‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

Happens 98% of the time. Conversation is going great, then their gone. I don’t bother anymore.