Puppy6411 Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Would you prefer a person to tell you that they no longer want to talk with you , or just start ignoring you with mo warning?
ge**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 It's very much situational - and can only be guided by your own knowledge of the situation. . Someone that I have had a "Hi, how are you?" conversation with that has lasted two or three messages back and forth, then I'd have no problem just not replying further, or them doing the same. . Someone I have engaged with a lot more, built a rapport with etc then yes open and honest is the way to go - although even then sometimes things can just drift and fizzle out over a period of time to the point the messages just stop. Though if the decision to stop were unilateral then it would of course always be nice to be told, or to tell the other person, though sometimes that can lead to *** and/or pestering to the point its easier for all just to stop. . So in summary it's a judgement call that has to be made based on knowledge of the situation.
BadDesires Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Option C - The lockable ball gag. But seriously ghosting someone isn't cool. It can create worry and panic which may become psychology damaging. Being honest and respectful should help provide proper closure.
Du**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Depends if you know each other for long or just exchanged couple messages. If you know each other well man up and talk. Work on your social skills and be content with your emotions. Ghosting shows immaturity which is unattractive.
mi**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Be honest and explain why you don’t want to continue speaking with them. If they cannot respect this even after explaining why then it’s ok to ghost.
ZD**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 You have to be Honest and give at least a sentence of a reason. It doesn't depend on anything. Apart from your good manners maybe. I'm surprised. This community is supposed to be all about communication.
la**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Coming from someone that has been ghosted like 4 times just tell them. When you ghost they are left with questions.
Ja**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Always be honest. Think of how you would want someone else to handle the situation. You know your reasons so try to express them in as kind a way as possible while still being firm. You can even make an outline beforehand. They’ll get over it much faster and you can feel good that you did the right thing even though it was hard. Ghosting sticks with people and can be really hard to handle.
Kr**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 It just depends If they don’t stop to cut the string and just ghosting there is underlying reason why Ex: if my kitten was to have a search instance in your case I just punish but it really depends on the relationship 
CL**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 I say that I appreciate the time, however this is not heading in the direction I had hoped and wish them well. Ghosting is poor behaviour.
Mo**** Posted March 19, 2022 Posted March 19, 2022 Ghosting is f**king appalling behaviour to be honest, and depending on the situation, can absolutely destroy people's mental health. It leaves them wondering what they did wrong, and this can go on for years, and have a damaging effect on their potential future relationships. Not cool! The much shorter term *** of being told the truth and being given the chance to learn/grow, and come to terms with it would be far kinder to most. However I appreciate that even the latter doesn't work for some people, and if they refuse to take no for an answer, then perhaps a clean cut is the best way forward, but at least you were honest.
Fe**** Posted March 20, 2022 Posted March 20, 2022 Depends how long you have been talking. I think ghosting is fine. If you haven’t been talking long...it’s not you. And even if it is you...who cares? No investment given. It’s none of my business why they ghosted me. Life is like that. And I’m not gonna waste time feeling bad about something I can’t control.
Be**** Posted March 20, 2022 Posted March 20, 2022 Ghosting is f**ked, just got done to me from someone I was friends for years, got romantic for about 3months. Then she was too busy. After I began asking questions… ghosted… f**king sad that people just can’t be honest…
sp**** Posted March 20, 2022 Posted March 20, 2022 Ghosting is never ok. Unless they have been offensive toward you. Just a simple “sorry but I can’t chat anymore”. Or just tell a white lie! Say you’ve started seeing someone and can’t chat anymore - but don’t just disappear! That’s just rude! Always try and be kind 🙂
ag**** Posted March 21, 2022 Posted March 21, 2022 Ghosting is horrible. I’m sad this is even a real question. Ghosting is for scared insecure people who can’t be real people.
Mo**** Posted March 21, 2022 Posted March 21, 2022 Saturday at 03:37 AM, lostontranslation said: Happens 98% of the time. Conversation is going great, then their gone. I don’t bother anymore. But then they all demand you put some effort in to your first message 😒
fe**** Posted March 21, 2022 Posted March 21, 2022 It depends who is that someone to you. What kind of relationship I guess
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