Which is better

[Ig****]

Personally I prefer if someone is honest with me. If people gets horrible after that, there is a beautiful button that blocks people.
I’m always honest, ghosting is one of the worst things to do.

Sugar coating a NO is also one of the shit things to do. Don’t lie. Just say NO and don’t give the wrong idea…

[Ja****]

I’ll tell them I don’t want to converse with them… maybe explain why then ghost them.
No reply needed

[Ma****]

Everyone deserves a "im not feeling this"
Even if thats all you say and then block them to avoid a conversation. They at least deserve what little closure that will give them vs just being ghosted.

[sa****]

It feels really awful thinking you have some common ground or even worse a connection with someone. Then the conversation randomly stops when you thought you hit it off with them. Just leaves me feeling empty and having mindless thoughts :/

[Deleted Member]

Be honest and talk to them. If this person is hurtful/toxic/disrespectful and talking gets you nowhere then you could state that you’re not interested in talking anymore and explain why and then block them if they start harassing you or want to engage in an argument.
But if you can end things respectfully, id say go that route

[Deleted Member]

Be honest. Ghosting is the easy way out it does allow person to reflect.

[tr****]

I had to face this with a past Daddy, the best way to handle it is to put on your big boy pants and kindly tell them that it isn’t going to work out and to go separate ways. It was extremely difficult because I’m terrible at letting people down, but the best thing to do is to tell them and stop talking, block if need be

[Ho****]

We don't owe anyone anything.

[Ea****]

Honesty is always the only way.

[Deleted Member]

Honesty is best

[Ja****]

A terse line of critique can help them the next time but keep it short, tight, and respectful.

[CopperKnob]

Honesty is not always the best policy. It very much depends on the situation.
If, theres been a connection but its waning/im not into it, ill say.
But, there are some people who are unable to regulate their emotions when it comes to rejection. Whilst they've given nothing but compliments, once rejected, it turns nasty. Of course you can block but it doesn't always stop there. Cyber stalking escalates to real life stalking, escalates to threats and so on.
If I've only exchanged a few messages with someone and there are enough red flags to line a beach, i'll ghost. I don't know how that person will respond to a rejection regardless how nicely it's worded. I don't need the hassle of toxic behaviour and I don't owe them an explanation. I do however owe it to myself to keep myself safe.
At the end of the day, no response is a response.

[Ja****]

12 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Honesty is not always the best policy. It very much depends on the situation.
If, theres been a connection but its waning/im not into it, ill say.
But, there are some people who are unable to regulate their emotions when it comes to rejection. Whilst they've given nothing but compliments, once rejected, it turns nasty. Of course you can block but it doesn't always stop there. Cyber stalking escalates to real life stalking, escalates to threats and so on.
If I've only exchanged a few messages with someone and there are enough red flags to line a beach, i'll ghost. I don't know how that person will respond to a rejection regardless how nicely it's worded. I don't need the hassle of toxic behaviour and I don't owe them an explanation. I do however owe it to myself to keep myself safe.
At the end of the day, no response is a response.

Shana Grice comes to mind as solid evidence for your point. I can also discern some ugly personal experience in there, too. I’m sorry dudes are like this. In a simpler time they would never be allowed to get so far as it was considered SOP for brothers, fathers, etc to have a chat with the fellow from which he never returned. Ever.
I do completely agree with your POV. Safety is a balancing act for you ladies. One little slip up and the lonely spaces of America are littered with the bones of girls who never had the chance to learn what humans are capable of doing or they knew but had to swallow the warning signs for whatever reason.

[CopperKnob]

2 hours ago, JamesInConroe said:

Shana Grice comes to mind as solid evidence for your point. I can also discern some ugly personal experience in there, too. I’m sorry dudes are like this. In a simpler time they would never be allowed to get so far as it was considered SOP for brothers, fathers, etc to have a chat with the fellow from which he never returned. Ever.
I do completely agree with your POV. Safety is a balancing act for you ladies. One little slip up and the lonely spaces of America are littered with the bones of girls who never had the chance to learn what humans are capable of doing or they knew but had to swallow the warning signs for whatever reason.

Real life, my cousins currently experiencing the consequences of rejecting a male in the early stages. Its involved Police and, on their advice she's had to move to ensure her safety.
Its not all men but it is some men and in those early stages, we have no idea about what may ensue

[Ja****]

Agreed. The human *** can be spectacular and disgusting. I hope she can take charge of her life again and find someone trustworthy, stable, and naturally affectionate. Not enough emphasis is placed on affection. A man devoid of natural affection is a man with only a partial soul with no love in him only possession.

[su****]

Be honest

[No****]

Be honest. It’s all about the intent. If we are always honest then we’re always putting out good vibes

[Violetraze]

I was actually tied up put in a *** position in a basement with someone who talked about respect, consent and mutual trust…and then after two quasi normal dates thereafter ghosted - just be honest guys, say I thought we clicked but changed my mind..thx!

[Deleted Member]

I'd appreciate if I was told that someone did t want to talk to me to be honest