Little in need of advice

[Deleted Member]

Hi I'm hoping I could get some advice and honest opinions please. So me and my Daddy have only just got together and I'm all happy 😀 yey. We went for a walk to the park and shops so I could play on the swings and then go rehome a new stuffy from the stuffy adoption center (charity shop) 😁 now here's the bit I need help with..........while we were out he told me that there is another little he has been talking with since before me, she lives a long way away from him but if she had of been closer they would of been together and she calls him Daddy. My response was...well that's just great then so I'm basically second choice 😞 he turned to me and told me I should never think that because its not true and that I am his  first choice and always will be. I replied with.....but not the only one that calls you Daddy 😞. He insisted I've nothing to be upset about it and she only calls him it like a silly nickname. Am I right to be feeling upset and also slightly angry? I think this other little is showing no respect or understanding of basic rules and protocol calling him Daddy if as he says he's not her Daddy and just a friend, am I wrong? Or is it as I *** most that I am being lied to and used 😞. Thank you to anyone that has reached the end of my post and I welcome your opinions and thoughts on my problem no matter how brutally honest they are x

[Middy111]

Yep

[Middy111]

He’s using you

[Deleted Member]

Hi hope this helps, he chose to be honest with you and told you that he been speaking to another little one but that doesn't make you 2nd best or 2nd choice he just met her first. I can see why you would feel a bit jealous but I think you should have this conversation with him and him with her. I hope it works out for you both but try not to get too worked up, you only just met so enjoy getting to know each other and appreciate the time you spend together

[Sinful-Slut]

if my Daddy told me he has another little calling him Daddy after we had got together, I would have ended things. for me the title Daddy isn't some silly name to call my partner but a term that shows the love I have for him. I would feel like you do, second best. it's not something you have to just put up with.

[Deleted Member]

Bin him love

[BigPolly]

I totally agree with everything @Rosie777 has said & as she said you have only just met each other & he has been honest with you. Do Daddy’s not have more than one Little then? I only ask because Doms & subs can have several Sirs/subs but I don’t know if Daddy’s & littles are the same? Maybe it’s worth simply pointing out that you don’t want to share him, don’t reply to his answers with sarcastic or cryptic replies, just be totally straight so you both know what you want....it might be that you don’t both want the same thing & that’s ok as long as you’re honest with each other & then you can find someone who is on the same page as you

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Lyndsey said:

I think this other little is showing no respect or understanding of basic rules and protocol calling him Daddy

I think you're being unfair on her, I doubt she is even aware of your existence, it sounds like she is the one who should be angry and upset out of the two of you..although I understand why you feel that way.

As @Rosie777 and @BigPollysay, you need a proper, calm, honest and open chat with him, and he needs to do the same with her..from the outside looking in it looks like he's been stringing her along until someone better or closer or more convenient came along..unless he was planning on you both being '***s' in a more poly dynamic, but that seems doubtful given what you've said.

I hope you've calmed down a little and that you can resolve this, I dont know if 'bratty' is part of your dynamic, but if it is, I'd put that to one side while you have your talk so he takes what you say seriously and doesn't put it down to a tantrum..you need to have the same relationship goals.

Good luck x

 

 

[Thefae]

Humm... it sounds a bit like an excuse to me to justify his own reasons, you can’t really blame the other if you don’t know the story 🤷‍♀️ She might feel just be as upset if this is the case, I’d say he’s probably not a real Daddy as a Daddy protects, looks after his baby girl it’s very different to an other submissive... go with your gut instinct id say xx

[Sinful-Slut]

1 hour ago, BigPolly said:

 Do Daddy’s not have more than one Little then? I only ask because Doms & subs can have several Sirs/subs but I don’t know if Daddy’s & littles are the same? 

They can, but one can't just assume that you are okay with that dynamic. that in itself is a form of polyamory and a lot of kinksters are not polyamorous. me and my partner are but have strictly said no other littles, but other subs sure.

[Deleted Member]

For me it's about being straight as soon as you guys started to chat 

 

some little and daddy's like exclusivity when other Daddy's have more than one little 

 

any dominant or daddy Dominant who have multiple littles or subs ... usually they are very different with different qualities and dynamics ....never compare yourself to any current or past partners it's really never going to have a good outcome 

 

for me it's the honest conversation from the start ...  is what's key and important 

 

sx

[Lombardo43]

He seems to be proving himself to be an honest guy who will tell you everything upfront. With this you get the choice to discuss it and decide on what should happen next. You obviously want him to stop all contact with this other little so tell him so. He will then tell you his thoughts and you move on one way or another. It's called a conversation! He hasn't done anything wrong yet in my book.

[BDSM-Yoda]

If he never mentioned her when you guys first started talking, then I'm very sorry to tell you that he's playing you.

[Deleted Member]

I'm a poly daddy myself and regardless of who it is i speak to the minute they show interest i make it very clear im poly and i have a little @BabyGirl95 who i love and care for and she will be told about any romantic or sexual interactions taking place, including their name and any details she requires to be comfy with it. The fact you have made it this far and hes only just mentioning it is in my opinion dishonest but at least he did tell you. I would expect a full explanation and conversation from him and preferably be able to speak to her too so as that you have a true understanding of the situation before you decide how you proceed. 

Edited July 14, 2018 by Deleted Member
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[Lo****]

You aren't wrong for being upset about someone else calling him 'Daddy'. I think you should sit down and seriously talk with him about this because it does upset you. With that being said, if he has not told her that she should not call him 'Daddy' then even I would be suspicious of that regardless of what my Daddy tells me. Any way I slice it, you're right to be upset, angry, and scared in this situation.