Pushy potentials

[Cu****]

You’re not overreacting. You’ve every right to talk for as long as it takes you to feel comfortable with someone. No one else can tell you how long that should be. The so called doms, are nothing of the sort. The people who’re telling you they don’t want lengthy back and forth conversations, are absolutely a red flag. Either they mean they can’t be bothered in getting to know you (and therefore you shouldn’t be bothered with them either), or they’re only interested in sex, and that’s not what this site is all about. The whole point of conversation is to develop/ build foundations, to see if there’s a suitable or potential connection that’s worth exploring. How can anyone be filled with confidence, with such a lacklustre attitude?

[Ho****]

You're not overreacting. If a Dom isn't willing to take time and make you feel safe and cared for, how do they expect to earn your trust and submission? Your reactions choices seem quite rational.

[Deleted Member]

You should always feel comfortable before meeting someone.
if they don't want to take time to get to know you and make sure you are comfortable with meeting them then they aren't worth it.

[Nylon-Nellie]

Having a online connection is one thing, but taking the online connection offline and seeing if it works is a must. As to how long the first meet should happen, how long is a piece of string?

For me personally, if I was to meet a potential partner, I give it 8 to 12 weeks for a meet to happen. Which is an acceptable amount of time for me to get to know them personally - online that is. Don't forget, everyone is different irl.

I spent just over one year speaking to a potential partner, we couldn't meet up due to covid restrictions. I thought that we had a online connection, understood one another, on same page, etc. We took it offline and the rug was pulled from under my feet, as HE felt that there was no attraction in me for him.

In a way, I can see why some people want to meet, but within an acceptable time frame that is.

[Mo****]

19 hours ago, Lady_Char said:

I'm curious to see if others think I am overreacting. From several people recently I have been told, right at the beginning of discussions with a potential Dom, that they are not looking to text back and forth too much before meeting in person to see if we have a connection. To them, they are apparently setting expectations and I guess warning me away if I am a potential time waster? To me it is just a giant red flag. What it says to me is I am not interested in taking the time it takes for you to be comfortable to meet me in real life, whether that's three days or whether that's three weeks or whether that's 3 months. I could perhaps understand if I had been chatting to someone for a long time I was still reluctant to meet, but this is being said to me very early doors.

My reaction thus far has been to tell them it's a red flag to me and end the conversation, because I feel it's indicative of a bad attitude. Am I being unfair?

I'd want to know someone enough to know I wanted to meet up with them, I'm not talking months and months, but some solid chatting about stuff for a few weeks. Having a couple of messages and then meeting up seems as much of a waste of time, as you could start talking and think Absolutely Not after about 15 minutes and then be trying to think of excuses to leave and go home! Although obviously this could still happen if you've talked more too......

[JayAub]

Simple rule of thumb. Do everything in your own time and not to someone else’s expectations.

[Do****]

As a Dom, I agree with you. I've even written on my profile that I'll take some time to get to know the person, to know their limits, expectations, etc, before meeting up. So to me, this haste in meeting up irl is also a red flag. But to each its own.

[Deleted Member]

Yes you are being completely unfair. How dare you make a dom wait for a meetup? You should be ready to meet at a moments notice, without panties, and dripping with anticipation. Come on Char, a lady should know her place….😂🤣

[jessgirlyguy]

1 hour ago, Honey_Cunt said:

Yes you are being completely unfair. How dare you make a dom wait for a meetup? You should be ready to meet at a moments notice, without panties, and dripping with anticipation. Come on Char, a lady should know her place….😂🤣

lol

[SubFU]

I became a potential time waster to a beautiful Mistress Goddess.I made two meetings and through my vanilla life mostly,i let a Goddess down,on both occasions.I would have turned up for definite 3rd time but the beautiful,patient Mistress didnot get back to me.I cannot blame Her.We need to get it right on both sides or can miss a desirable outcome as i did.and regret immensely!!!!!