Advice on sex/swingers clubs for a new couple

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I am looking for advice for a great place to go where my partner abs I can explore.
Looking for a place where we can have sex and be watched yet no pressure to join in with anyone else. We both want to give it a go but with no pressure to conform, but we do want to eventually but when we are comfortable.
Any advice or suggestions would be amazing please

[ge****]

There should never be any pressure to do anything you're not comfortable with at any swingers clubs and in my experience that has mostly been the case - there are numerous choices too - Eurekas is in Kent so probably not far and may suit you given it is open during the day and caters to naturists as well as swingers.
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There are a few in London but can't really vouch for them - if you don't mind travelling a little further afield then can recommend Vanilla Alternative which is on the A1 in Bedfordshire and is a really well laid out club with a very relaxed vibe that should cater to your needs.
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In terms of advice, go along, have a good time, don't do anything you don't want to, or feel pressured to do so, take things at your own s***d - be clear with people of what you are about and don't be afraid to say no.
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Most clubs will offer newbies a tour and a chat when they arrive and let you ask as many questions as you like etc.

[DarkArts1066]

Good morning new_experiances ….

In short, pretty much every Club will offer you that opportunity. Some offer newbie nights, which are tailored towards those seeking to explore the Club environment.
In terms of recommendations, I will suggest a few for you, but your first step should be to contact - probably by email, any club that you like the look of, and explain your situation and what you are looking for in your first experience.
Again, most clubs will have a ‘meeter and greeter’ - whose job it is to welcome guests, find out a little about them, explain any rules for the Club - and that particular night, and they will then usually help you settle in, possibly introducing you to another couple - perhaps also newbies - or maybe more experienced … to show you around.

At any reputable club, it is a massive no no to join in with or even touch someone without their express permission. I have seen people escorted out for doing that.

As I say, message a few places, and gauge the response you get… then go with the one that best fits your desires.

One word of caution.
There is such a thing as “white line fever”
Where you find yourselves immersed in an environment, and then get caught up in it…

Set limits before you go. Do it over your morning tea and toast - NOT when you are feeling horny, or about to leave for your first event..!

I have seen a couple visit a club on a particular night, where there were couples and Black Guys in attendance. ‘They’ wanted to watch a Milfs and Black Guys session - she ended up getting involved - very very involved… on that first occasion. He wasn’t comfortable - she went for it anyway……

They are no longer together sadly.

So - set rules…. And stick to them.

Equally, I personally know a couple who wanted to try their first club after watching at a private party.
They stayed together, then decided to separate and observe….. BUT - no playing on the first visit was the agreement.
So they did their own thing…
The wife walked into an open room, there were two guys on the bed with a woman….
One of them was receiving a blowjob….
It was his wife.
They got through that, but only just.

So - set rules… and stick to them
(Have I mentioned that before ?)

Given your location, have a look at :

Eurekas in Kent
The Hellfire Club near Heathrow
Abfabs / Kestrel also near Heathrow

If you want any other info, PM me… I have been to all of the above - as a single and as a couple …

Good luck .!
And ……….

Set rules ! 😉

[DarkArts1066]

** It was her Husband !!! not the wife on the receiving end of the blowjob - apologies - trying to multitask, and obviously failing spectacularly on a Friday ! 😂

[ge****]

7 minutes ago, DarkArts1066 said:

** It was her Husband !!! not the wife on the receiving end of the blowjob - apologies - trying to multitask, and obviously failing spectacularly on a Friday ! 😂

I did wonder 😂🤣

Though excellent post 👍🏻🙂

[DarkArts1066]

12 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

I did wonder 😂🤣

Though excellent post 👍🏻🙂

Some days ……….. well, you know … 😉😂