Open relationships. What works what doesn’t ? Share

[Mi****]

As everyone says here, trust, effe time communication (honesty), boundaries being respected - If monogamous relationships predicated on the other person not screwing you over fall apart without these, would another type or relationship be different? 😅 It's not like being poly makes you more likely to cheat, it's being unhappy and feeling like you can't be honest with your partner that leads to that, whether that's on how you feel or what they've done.

[HB****]

I feel like everything you said in this because I feel the same

[li****]

What about over night caps. I feel like that is an intimate thing and should only be for your significant other. True? Or am I being to controlling here?

[gr****]

36 minutes ago, lipstickqveen said:

What about over night caps. I feel like that is an intimate thing and should only be for your significant other. True? Or am I being to controlling here?

That really depends on you and your partner. It is an intimate thing. However it is something you should really work through together. If you halt the ability to gain a good connection with the other partner. It can be less poly in some minds and more a FWB swinger situation. However if it works for all involved. Then it is not really an issue.

[re****]

My wife and I are open and not fully poly per se. We tell each other if we are talking to someone and get approval and get to know outside dates a little bit before doing anything...our hard limit is having other committed relationships.

[li****]

That is my *** because him and I started as a causal f**k and turned into more and me being absent long distance allows for my place to be taken possibly. I clearly have abandonment issues but yet a sex freak with him and want both to be pleased .. it’s a hard pill to swallow but yalls feedback is the water I needed. Slight problem tho- He just broke up with me yesterday. So my insecurities I was trying to work out and his stress levels on it all caused him to fold and well f**k . . All I have left to say..just F**k.

[Mi****]

Hey lipstickqveen, in a similar boat but from the Dom side, her prior history came back up and she had to work through stuff, we've drifted apart since. It's really sad when this happens but we have to try our best to wish each other the best, learn from what happened and carry on - Be strong, and stay kinky! ✌️

[Deleted Member]

Honesty and communication are essential. My partner and I were monogamous for 2 years before we decided to open our relationship up (we're now poly but we started as open). Setting boundaries and having a complete understanding of what you both want (and what is realistic) is important. For example, we initially said we wouldn't love other people - which we realised was impossible to control. So you have to be prepared for the emotional side of things.
It's also important to acknowledge ***s, worries, insecurities, and jealousy. You will probably experience some or all of these things at some point, but if you can say to your parter "hey, I'm feeling a bit jealous about..." then your partner can offer support and remind you that you're still their priority. Sometimes that's all you need to hear.

[ty****]

I'm not opinion it's honestly trust my lady and I have had good incounters and bad we've had partners one of us have really enjoyed and the other hasn't and so on and so forth but what makes it stay fun and us both happy is honesty and trust

[Deleted Member]

Communication. As long as everyone involved is on the same page and whatever rules you may set are agreed on and everyone actually is ok with them, then it works. I don’t do anything outside what’s been discussed beforehand, unless there’s a new conversation about that specifically. And even in the moment if its all going very well we have a closeness that I can sort of hint about wanting something from a play partner and he’ll agree to it

[2b****]

Beautiful

[Po****]

Clear communication! I cannot stress this enough. We have a “no secrets” rule. It’s pretty straight forward: we do not keep secrets from each other. If either one of us is interested in seeing someone else, we tell each other. It’s that simple for us. As for feelings of insecurity, we also have a “full stop” rule. If one of us calls full stop, we have to have a serious convo about how we are feeling and we spend more intentional time together. TLDR; We prioritize our marriage above all else and focus on building trust and having open communication.