Patience

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2 hours ago, poonocchio69 said:

Look, I really don't give a sh*t if you disagree. But, your conclusions and suggested incompatibility is frankly not based on the facts.
I have said this before and I will say it again. I am not joining sites like this for anything other than viewing for comparison purposes. I don't need or want what is offered. I have returned to traditional socializing with positive results. I have no problem connecting with women out in the real world. Furthermore, your opinions are a reflection of your own experiences not mine. Frankly, this place hasn't produced anything significant in either prospective meetups or dialogue in the month since I have joined. I set June 1 as the last day. This is not how I plan to spend my summer. Lastly, there can't be compatibility if you never have the opportunity to meet and get to know each other. What, you think everyone is exactly as they describe in their profiles? Wow are you clueless. Eye contact and body language and trust are necessary in establishing compatibility. But, you keep on believing your bullsh*t if that is the best you can do.

You do it your way, I'll do it mine - I know I'm more than happy with my experience of both this site and others I have used, and you very obviously aren't when it comes to on-line experiences, so I think I'll stick to my way thank you, regardless of how bullshit you think it may be.
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I didn't for a minute suggest my observations were based on your experiences, though they are based on those of others who've had positive outcomes from using sites like this as well as my own.
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You contradict yourself too - on the one hand you say you've not joined sites like this for anything other than "viewing or comparison purposes" and don't "need or want what is offered" and then go on to say that this place hasn't produced anything significant in terms of prospective meets or dialogue in the time you're been here.
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When I referred to compatibility I wasn't referring to overall compatibility but compatibility in terms of how fast you expect to meet compared to that of others - which was the basis of your earlier post and suggestion that someone who wasn't ready to meet when the opportunity comes shouldn't be here - if someone else wants to take their time before deciding to meet, but you want to meet immediately, in terms of that approach you are not compatible, plain and simple.
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Of course for true overall compatibility to be established you need to meet in person, I never suggested for a minute it didn't, but that also doesn't have to be something that is done immediately.
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If all of that makes me clueless and believing my own bullshit in your eyes, then so be it - but I repeat I am more than happy with my own experience of sites like this and have met many good people doing things my way.
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If your experience is better for you by meeting people in the traditional socialising way - then that's great and good luck to you - but it also doesn't mean that other ways that work for others are wrong, or that people shouldn't be on sites like this because they don't conform to your preferred way of doing things.
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I wish you good luck once you move on from here tomorrow.

[ey****]

another bit on kinda community level stuff

it is a very good way to meet people - but...

A lot of folk are at the mercy of their local communities and the size and makeup of their munches and events.   And while I've seen newbies meet each other at their first munch and walk out together.  I've also seen people frustrated they have been active and are not getting the results they want : which can be for a lot of reasons ranging from their general attitude etc to simply... folk can seemingly do everything right and still not get the results they want (they might make friends but people who can't offer the play or relationship they want)

My approach has always been hybrid - and - yeah, it means I walked into an event last weekend and already knew a whole bunch of people through our online interactions : there are probably others I could have introduced myself with my username and they would have known who I am (likewise, they probably could have done the same) 

 

[Mi****]

That was my issue with dating 😅 I'd get with people who are still dealing with heartbreak or trauma who are expecting me to set the pace, but when feelings for me develop I'd get swept up along with it and not see that that would cause it to quickly become codependent until either they or I see it fizzle out and end things. From now on I'm going to take my time, meet up a few times to hang and really get to know someone before we say we're full-on BDSM partners or we're officially dating - People, unless it's something where you've both put out there that it's explicitly casual/ONS then take your time! 😄 And please respect other's need to know someone first, for to find something meaningful, it takes a lot of searching.

[la****]

Love is a waiting game by Andy Frasco it's a great song check it out if you like it we are on the same page  👄

[Deleted Member]

What? Women don't want to see my d**k pics before the first date and to be told what to do? Oh man, I'm just going to keep doing it cause yall don't know what you're talking about. Sincerely -All the f**kboys here

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21 hours ago, MisterE1989 said:

That was my issue with dating 😅 I'd get with people who are still dealing with heartbreak or trauma who are expecting me to set the pace, but when feelings for me develop I'd get swept up along with it and not see that that would cause it to quickly become codependent until either they or I see it fizzle out and end things. From now on I'm going to take my time, meet up a few times to hang and really get to know someone before we say we're full-on BDSM partners or we're officially dating - People, unless it's something where you've both put out there that it's explicitly casual/ONS then take your time! 😄 And please respect other's need to know someone first, for to find something meaningful, it takes a lot of searching.

Truth. Don't let others pigeon hole you or sway you outside of a comfort zone for anything. Be open to exploration on your own terms! Just like you said. Sometimes it take a lot of searching!