Not kink specific

[xm****]

8 hours ago, colbert496 said:

Get under someone else is how women do it in the usa

Yeah, that doesn’t fix anything tho, jumping from relationship to relationship just piles up the trauma and hurt, which I’ve done enough of in life.

[fr****]

After 25 years of marriage it happened to me for the first time. I want to throw up all the time. Horrible feeling

[Deleted Member]

Married, no sex for 6 years decided to take things into my own hands

[fr****]

Well darlin shows you are strong! Keep it up. Or I will for you😘. No pun intended

[Ob****]

Forgive it for yourself. Trust the person you are with. If you don't trust them, you don't deserve them. A strong relationship is built on trust

[Deleted Member]

Just remember it’s not your fault,
I struggled for a good two years blamed my looks ect couldn’t even look in a mirror that’s just how much damage it did to me,but you keep getting back up and you learn to deal with the rejection.
All of your relationships leave scars and wounds that will heal overtime .
The best thing is to try and focus on yourself build yourself back up and never try and let them change you

You will get there xx

[Si****]

Regarding healing… it’s tough but I find trying to acknowledge that we all have our struggles and make mistakes, including those who’ve wronged us, and we should try to surround ourselves with people trying to do better. That and time.

Regarding loving oneself…
Indulge in things you enjoy. Practice and get good at them. Learn something new to enjoy. Pick up a cheap guitar or a hand drum. Buy 50ft of cheap rope and learn some cool ties. When you’re doing things that make you happy it’s easier to see you deserve to be happy and you’re all the happier for it.

[ma****]

If you have self-esteem and self-love issues, I recommend the book "I ❤ myself", by David Hamilton PhD. It has tremendously helped me. Also, the book "I am enough", by Marisa ***r has been recommended to me (I've bought it, but haven't read it).

I would also suggest you seeking professional help (councelling or therapy). They will help you not only with your self esteem issues, but with starting healing from them.

One more thing you could do is writing down your limits, deal-breakers and stick firmly to them, regardless if it is during the early stages of dating or in a commited relationship. Also, write down "I am enough, I am worth of love and respect" (or anything you want to tell yourself) on sticky notes and stick them on the walls, mirrors etc and keep repeating them until they start believing them because you are definitely worth of love and respect.

[Si****]

I’d like to follow up on loving oneself. Society tends to tell us our value is based in finance and that’s a piece of how we each contribute to society but our contributions tie in in ways most of us don’t imagine. If you simply walk across the floor you’re creating value, in that the floor now needs to be cleaned, which requires products and possibly services which are provided by people who need jobs. Merely existing creates an endless list of ways we each contribute to the world around us.

Even negative impacts breed positive feedback in one form or fashion. Consider the technological advancement we will achieve later due to the need to clean up the pacific garbage patch now.

Even though we may not always find a direct line to the positive impacts we make it doesn’t mean we aren’t contributing. We should accept that everything we do has an impact, whether we see it or not, and try to be a positive *** while understanding our flaws will impede us along the way because that’s how we grow.