Submission

[sm****]

I love to be ***d and slapped and spit on and it has always made me wonder why? Where did this kink come from? And where is it going?

[ge****]

Only you can answer that one really - something that happened in your past perhaps?

[Deleted Member]

I'm wondering about the same thing about myself. It's something that's come recently for me. And I've never even done it before. Like I've always liked when the woman is a little intimidating but in a fun way. So idk. Maybe we can find out where this comes from lol

[Lord_Talion]

Could be something to do with the degredation of your childhood or the lack there of

[cl****]

Same here man. Not sure where mines came from but like gamerMadison said perhaps we'll find out where it comes from and gain a sense of clarity

[TheBookCollector]

Immsure there are reasons why kinks develop, some.will be psychosexual inprinting during puberty, eg maybe you saw a video with someone being spat at then having sex.

Some kinks could also just be wired into you, eg from an early age I was always drawn to tying people up.

Its basically a question of nature vs nurture, and probably a combination of the two.

[sm****]

Good answers everybody, regardless of the reason why I want these acts done to me I’m hoping that these acts are liberating me psychologically from whatever trauma or *** i might have and providing a controlled way to release whatever it is that wasn’t being released before.

[ey****]

Sometimes people get too strung up on why they have certain fetishes - and - honestly, don't overthink things

[Dy****]

While it won't answer the question for you personally, reading A Lover's Pinch by Peter Tupper could be helpful with context, because his book is about the history of Sadomasochism.

[Qu****]

I'll be honest, i think mine comes from SA as a ***. This is about me taking back control (although as sub I'm not in control) and dealing with past trauma.
Might not be the "normal" reason but it works for me.

[Re****]

I’ve frequently heard submissive partners share it really has to do with feeling powerful in their own way. Claiming desire. Choosing to be taken. Ravished consensually as they want to be.

I believe submission is a gift ✨

[wi****]

Same.. aggression is something I crave.

[ch****]

I kinda feel like real freedom is not having to choose or make decisions... being a sub gives me that

[dd****]

I feel like I have to be so in charge in my every day life that when I’m with a partner I want to give my self over in anyway that will make them happy. I love being manhandled and put in my place and ravaged… it happens… enjoy what you e joy love!

[Utility2]

I've spent a lot of time thinking why I'm a sub. Being brought up fatherless by my mother and grandmother has made me a bit of a man-worshipper stat, but I like the powerful, in control men: problem-solvers and fixers. 

My grandmother was what I know now to be a narcissist. This engendered the hyper-vigilent people-pleaser in me. 

TA DA:  recipe for a sub

[de****]

I'm totally in control in every other aspect of my life i think that's why I like for someone else to be in control in the bedroom

[Deleted Member]

I love that feeling of uncertainty you get when you're at your Dom's mercy

[ad****]

Tuesday at 06:48 AM, eyemblacksheep said:

Sometimes people get too strung up on why they have certain fetishes - and - honestly, don't overthink things

I agree, we can literally spend years trying to work out why we like certain things. But I started letting go of shame when I gave up trying to find out and just accept what is. Things are a lot more fun nowadays.

[Pa****]

Mine comes from my own depravity, and general life stuff that includes subliminal messaging. I don't know where trauma steps in or out though.

[J-****]

Well, I’m probably going to have this post removed,
just like several others for being “intolerant”, but I don’t really give a s**t anymore. The truth is the truth. If you were female it would mean that you lacked a strong father figure and discipline when you were young. But since you are male, it means you have some psychological issues that need to be addressed by a (non woke) counselor. Because where this goes is drug addiction and self harm (or worse).

[ge****]

5 hours ago, J-Dean said:

Well, I’m probably going to have this post removed,
just like several others for being “intolerant”, but I don’t really give a s**t anymore. The truth is the truth. If you were female it would mean that you lacked a strong father figure and discipline when you were young. But since you are male, it means you have some psychological issues that need to be addressed by a (non woke) counselor. Because where this goes is drug addiction and self harm (or worse).

Not sure where you get that idea from - as a male submissive myself I neither have psychological issues, nor have I ever been tempted by *** or to self-harm.
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My submissive nature is natural and innate, yes it may have been shaped by childhood experiences but I'm still a fairly well rounded individual, even though I do say so myself.
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Whilst *some* people, both men and women, may have come to their submissive side as a result of what you suggest, it's a very sweeping statement that most certainly isn't "catch all"

[ey****]

I feel coming onto a fetish site and suggesting that female subs lacked "discipline" and male subs are mentally ill is not the kinda take that would attract people.

 

[sW****]

For many men (I've heard them say), it is about being able to relax, make no decisions, have no control in a world where they feel they are expected to be in control of their emotions and actions and the lives of others on a near-constant basis. ***This isn't a man vs woman thing or a social debate, so plz for the love of drag queens, don't go there.***

[Tr****]

I love to be manhandled and called names. I've been dominant as a man but as a woman I love being a weaker person

[jo****]

For me I’m pretty sure it’s bc my dad screamed in my face as a child and I was hit a lot so it made me tie love and being degraded together