Is it weird

[Om****]

Is it weird that people find my *** kink weird like I like I really like it when it come to knife play but like why people gotta judge

[TheBookCollector]

Partly because *** is one of those taboo kinks and it usually involves cutting which leaves permanent marks, which a lot of people cannot understand.

However its your kink so people should be understanding.

[TheDeathRictus]

It's something I want to explore, but I think it depends how you do it. I've found it weird when someone I used to know did it because of how it was done....seemed mentally and physically unsafe to me

[ey****]

I think it's partially because ***play is a limit for a lot of people (even if they don't expressly list it) 

knife play itself doesn't have to draw *** to be exciting and fun

I think also people get concerned because knife play is rarely sterile so any form of cutting is at a greater risk of infection than many other forms of play - there have also been problems with people who did knife play and struggled to stop the bleeding : which of course has it's own dangers.

Personally; I am very "you do you" on this - but I can understand why for some people it's a bit much or a concern. 

[Ta****]

I love this because I've never met anyone who was really into knife play and I really don't think I'd have a limit to how far I'd go

[Deleted Member]

This community was once free of judgments and prejudices. Back then you had to know an insider if you wanted to be admitted to the community at all. Then came the internet. The community was suddenly accessible to any idiot who had watched some movies on the internet on PornHub, Xvideos and related sites. Members' knowledge fell faster than the stock market in the Great Depression of the 1920s. The result is, you have a *** kink, and everyone has to spit their bile all over you.

[ey****]

38 minutes ago, Traveler said:

This community was once free of judgments and prejudices. Back then you had to know an insider if you wanted to be admitted to the community at all.

do you not notice the contradiction right there?

I mean, in this harked golden era - people were JUDGED on whether they were permitted into the community or not - it was gatekeepery as fuck.  
But also, if that era was as judgement free as claimed, then why do people who claim they were there insist on judging how things are now?

 

 

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

do you not notice the contradiction right there?

I mean, in this harked golden era - people were JUDGED on whether they were permitted into the community or not - it was gatekeepery as fuck.  
But also, if that era was as judgement free as claimed, then why do people who claim they were there insist on judging how things are now?

 

 

I'm not naming names here, but some really benefit from a "reading comprehension, in context" course. There are those who gobble up anything and everything in the eater. This without having the slightest clue what the intention behind a post, or reaction to a post is. Do not first ask what the intention is, but immediately enter the keys and type a response. Doing important, and typing is the division. This is regardless of whether the response is appropriate or not. It is striking that these people, and again I will not mention names, communication is very important. But don't inform yourself before responding. And, that's the opposite of communication. Read, inform and only then react that is open communication

[ey****]

I think my point on that is that the kink communities have always been judgemental and with a degree of prejudice - and - on the whole, I'm actually not saying this is *necessarily* a bad thing.  But that the concept of kink ever being judgement free is a myth.

On *** play, for example... I literally have on VHS tape a TV show I taped in the 90s about vampires, feederism, ***play etc - obviously, of course, things were edited for TV - but there was a lot of judgement.  There were people finding they were shunned from the kink communities because of the type of play and the lack of understanding, while also shunned from some of the vampire/feeder communities because it was seen as a fetish.

A lot of fetish clubs and venues do not permit *** play and the reasons are everything from restrictions imposed by local authorities to the associated risks.  I am aware of one club which permits it but only in designated rooms and with a strict "clean up afterwards" with assorted safe disposal boxes for sharps/needles/etc. 

If you've ever stood on a poorly discarded sharp or needle you'll see the problem - especially if this has been used on somebody first.

On a spin-off, a premise not permitting this or other play isn't necessarily judging it - just trying to operate in a complex framework.

And,in general, with so many people coming together there is always going to be someone that doesn't understand certain fetishes and that, well, that does kinda suck sometimes especially if you feel like an outsider.  Luckily, I guess, there are also people who do understand, whether or not they share the same kink. 

[Deleted Member]

Random comment (perhaps?) but if your into and passionate about *** is there a professional career there in *** transfusion or donor type nurse work (male/female/other) or similar perhaps?

May also throw up question and a sub topic of is that morally or ethically appropriate. I'm just thinking out loud really.

[Deleted Member]

I don't care about knives but I find the idea of feeding on my longterm partners *** erotic, even better if it's during a bondage play session but I'm not sure how it could be done in appropriate way.

Piercing your partners skin with your teeth is impractical and will result in crushing damage not a clean puncture.

Probably will just have to feel that biting is good enough.

Edited July 1, 2022 by Deleted Member

[ey****]

46 minutes ago, Shirt-n-Tie-Boy said:

Random comment (perhaps?) but if your into and passionate about *** is there a professional career there in *** transfusion or donor type nurse work (male/female/other) or similar perhaps?

May also throw up question and a sub topic of is that morally or ethically appropriate. I'm just thinking out loud really.

rarely ethical - often problematic

imagine if, for example, we take a fetish like (say) foot fetish and someone with a foot fetish decided to get a job in a shoe shop. 

if the person is using this as a means of serving their fetish - not ethical

let's say, they're actually not.  they're being really responsible and respectful - but, there is a dispute with a customer or colleague who then finds/reveals that the person has a foot fetish : how do you think that is going to go down?  They're going to be somewhere between either losing their job, or, feeling like they're constantly being watched/judged as they work 

[Deleted Member]

@eyemblacksheepexcellent follow up post and a good plausible point and well made observation. Nothing more to add or say really.